Getting Time Back in My Life, Why I am So Forgetful, and Remembering Why I am Good Enough

Thank You for Watching! Let’s Make it Easier to Find Less Hustle More Coffee Platforms

Hope your weekend is going well. Thank you everyone for your time on watching the latest video on the Less Hustle More Coffee channel on Tube. I appreciate you. And if you missed it -it’s embedded on the previous day’s blog post. I’m working on the next one and it’s mainly about Mom’s house being ready and closing on it. We also go through the new Christmas shop in town and out to eat and I share those places. I’m so behind “time” getting them done. But I’m determined to try and crank them out faster. After all, before long I’ll be able to do a new Intro as we have dexter dog now! Hoping to get them out about every 2 weeks instead of every 3 or once a month. Whenever they do go out, I’ll always stage them for Saturday at 7:00 a.m. That seems to be kinda the coffee hour and when people start to be available. Sunday’s don’t work b/c of church and other obligations it seems. Saturday seems to serve everyone better.

Here is making it easier to follow along for any of our shenanigans and endeavors, lol! Some things overlap but each platform usually has its own content. I share more words here on WordPress and you get “the inside story” —I call it the reality blog. Instagram is a little shinier. The pretty things and the fun things. But I do daily stories on Instagram and just now learning the Reels. I’m not sure about Tic Tok as I have too much going already, lol. YouTube just kinda highlights in photos and videos all the excursions and home projects and car chronicles of what is going on in a particular period of time. I should have made this above, a long time ago. There’s also Facebook Page also of the same name, which I didn’t put on this graphic. Honestly forgot about it but there is that option too which my blog shares to FB and then my Instagram stories flow over onto my Facebook Page stories. Anyway I thought that would make it more convenient. It’s always in my side bar but not everyone sees that. My side bar on the phone -and maybe the iPad too – is actually at the bottom when you scroll down.

Getting Some Extra Home Time

Well we have been getting anywhere from about 12 to 24 hours every month back into our schedule. It has helped me tremendously to be sane and happier. How’d we do it?

  1. Divide and Conquer. The biggest thing is that we are alternating taking Mom to church. Mainly it was the dog that did it. Not wanting the dog to be left alone on the weekends too when we are gone all week and we try to train him. That gives six hours or more back into a weekend. Surprisingly we are having a more normal life doing it this way and I wished we had thought of it before. I’m grateful to George to do this – he suggested it – but it wasn’t for my account, it was for the dog. lol. Yes, it’s six hours b/c we do more than take her to church, as we do lunch and errands.
  2. Less outings. George is already talking about doing some excursions but it will be a while yet. We need to ease “dog dog” into it (our being gone some). Sometimes he can go with us of course and sometimes not. Right now we need to give him some good love and attention on the weekends though as training and settling in continues.
  3. Hello Fresh. I’ve actually had more time to spend in the kitchen. And this time of year that makes George happy and me happy too as I had missed it some. He loves to cook but with doing the outside (yard) too, it infringes on his spare time so I try to be more involved. He and I both are enjoying the constructed, already shopped for meals with Hello Fresh, that arrive with recipe and ready to be cooked. It’s been fun. And the meals – and the process too – have been fabulous. And I’m learning to cook differently. We only do the 3 meals per week option though so we can do our own things the rest of the time. I bought tortillas to make enchiladas again. I’ll try to be better at my photos and maybe some stories on Instagram of what I’m doing.
  4. Less time at the store. Ideally, I’d love to believe this one. It’s true most of the weeks. I only have to go to Publix about once every 2 to 3 weeks to get things I love for work. (Unsalted peanuts in the shell, popcorn, my Rx prescription, frozen lunches, crackers, tuna, fresh fruit, etc.). The reason I said I would love to believe this one is b/c George or I have been to Publix, Pet Smart, Walmart, Aldi all this weekend alone, lol. But – we are not used to having a pup growing into a big dog and how much more they can eat, and puppy pads – going through them fast. We were not very coordinated either as we brought home the same stuff. Let’s just say we have a LOT of strawberries to eat this week. lol. So we will streamline this a bit more in the coming weeks to try and cut costs too and bring the grocery bill down.
  5. Ordering on line. I’m switching to order more of the household and beauty and personal items on line. I used to do it when we were so busy before but during “that pandemic time” it was hard to find everything we needed on line.
  6. Leaving work on time. I’m leaving when the normal work day is over. I will always get my 8 in and then some according to how much lunch I take. I will have no choice but to work many hours over during quarter end though. That is just the accounting way. It’s always going to be that way. So reserving the extra hours worked for that month seems wise and for year end also – is what I’m going to do. (Jan, April, July, October are those months- also some in February b/c I’m still doing w-2 reporting and rushing through that). Then I don’t have to worry really about doc appts any more. Quarter end times will sufficiently cover that with much leftover in the bucket. However, I will hold true to my promise to go in early on Tuesday for Mom’s regularly scheduled monthly eye injection so that there is no confusion on anyone (else’s) part that was covered since I end up having to take 1/2 day off for that one. The rest of the appointments are just odd here and there and the quarter end and year end hours will cover them sufficiently.
  7. Borrowing time from Peter to pay Paul, lol. My favorite phrase lately. In other words, just moving things around in our schedule. We still borrow time from other places. For example I don’t go to church but every other Sunday, but I still worship on my drive time. I am listening to a very long series every day on the drive home (on Revelations right now) and learning so much. Instead of it being once a week it’s 5 days I’m studying/listening. I pray and spend time with God in the morning drive – thanking for blessings for the day before, telling Him I love Him and asking for guidance, His spirit’s leading, and praying for others and any personal requests or needs. So that is one example. Normally I’d be listening to a pleasure podcast. I’ve had to boot the pleasure reading to home and it has been hard to come by as the dog, Dexter, has taken time from that, lol. I no longer journal and study in my prayer journal corner. I also added the earlier morning exercise in the mornings along with taking care of the dog and dog needs. So I’ve juggled things about.
  8. Grouping errands. We tend to try to group things together. Mom’s errands and needs, our errands and needs.
  9. Spreading out the housework. I just don’t clean everything every weekend and I’m putting this last because I’ve been doing this one for a while. Not a new change. It’s just wasted time in a way. We are not here enough to have a perfect house. It’s perfect enough. I might vacuum really good once every two weeks – maybe three if we’ve not messed it up. Or I just do it by rooms as needed. I don’t dust until it is just absolutely obvious it needs to be done, lol. I don’t even see it much anymore now that I’m older. I try to keep certain areas clean that bother me. Don’t get me wrong. I clean and I’m a neat freak, and a germ freak at times, so I do clean but it’s not a perfect line up everything on every Saturday.
  10. I use my To Do List and Planner. I have to include this. If I didn’t use these things I’d never get anything done. And if it’s not on the list, I’d probably forget it. I even put household chores on there to get me focused. The iPhone’s to do list, has been perfect for me. And that said brings me to the next section.

Why am I Forgetful? Probably for the Same Reasons YOU are!

That last one above – number 10 – has made me think of this. Recently last week I took Mom for a day out. I left her house forgetting my food in her fridge. I remembered it and was going to get it and Mom had me take pics of something and then I forgot it. I forgot the pink tub I was going to take by the door also, and there was something else I forgot too – amazing I’ve forgotten what I forgot? lol. Mom told me yesterday she had told my Aunt about it. So do I have a forgetful problem that is so bad the family feels a need to discuss it? I told Mom I was just not as perfect as she was. lol. I must be someone else’s child since I’m so…..imperfect.

Anyway, everyone has always bragged about how organized I am in other areas of my life. I have managed to be organized most of the time, and manage our home inventory and supplies without running out. I have managed to get to work on time. Get my work done. Get my child’s life organized when she was here and her needs met. Manage a YouTube channel, a Blog, and keep up some on social media. Plan goals for the year, bucket lists, keep up with doc appointments and now keep up with the same for my Mom’s needs and appointments. But truth be known, I’ve had to work very hard to be organized. And I feel it has served me well in most instances. So why am I so forgetful if I am so organized?

  1. On days when I truly relax is when I forget something.
  2. If something or someone throws me off focus****
  3. If I’m in a hurry.
  4. If I’m having to keep up with another human or animal – besides myself
  5. When I’m overwhelmed by too much going on at once
  6. Too many irons in the fire or the plate is full
  7. I don’t have it on the schedule or to do list
  8. The activity to remember is not the norm or off routine
  9. My mind is in another place or something is consuming my thoughts

*****Yes I realize it’s my responsibility to keep myself on focus – but it still happens as my gaze has been moved to a different track. I don’t think that is abnormal. Especially, when you compare yourself to someone, who – let’s say – does not have multiple responsibilities, doesn’t work FT, doesn’t care-give, doesn’t have many hobbies, and doesn’t do much in the day – and has all day to think about every move to do next.

So yes I left groceries in Mom’s fridge and had to come back to get them and I left the tub there at her house too. Let’s see which numbers above might have played a factor?

#1 as I was trying to relax, #2 as we stopped to resolve an issue, #4 trying to take care of Mom’s needs, #6 is the case at any given moment in my life now, #8 as I usually don’t have groceries in Mom’s fridge nor do I carry tubs home when I leave there, and probably #9 as I was truly ready to get home and thinking of what I still felt I could do so late in the day.

Don’t Let Your Self Talk or Others Persuade You Differently

Understanding Why I’m Good Enough

So while my forgetfulness may be entertainment, concern, or just small talk as there might not be anything else more interesting to discuss (lol) I still have come to the conclusion as follows:

“You know what? I’m alright! I’m not only ENOUGH, but I’m doing better than enough!”

Shall we count the ways? This is to show myself or anyone else that needs a refresher (lol) that I’m ENOUGH regardless and despite my forgetfulness issues. Let one discuss these GOOD things, if one dares themself :-O. Nothing wrong with lifting one another up right? If not one else does let me do some self-help therapy here.

  1. I’ve helped raise a fabulous daughter who is not only turning out to be a great person herself, but she has a God focused marriage and my precious grandson.
  2. I’ve managed a professional career most of my life with success in HR and now Accounting/Payroll. It may end tomorrow but God leads.
  3. I got a college degree, and Masters (MBA) – the MBA while working Full Time, and still kept a full time blog going during the process.
  4. I learned PSP (Paint Shop Pro and made graphics for the blog).
  5. I taught myself how to learn music and to play piano (keyboard) as an adult b/c it was something I wanted to do as child and didn’t get to. So I wanted to see what it was like (It’s not a hobby I continued after having Katy as I found other things I liked better).
  6. I learned how to make videos and I’m really good at learning new technology and learned Final Cut Pro after iMovie.
  7. I love techie things and enjoy them —until I get frustrated. But often can overcome my frustration when I come back to it later.
  8. I’m stubborn and focused enough to get what I want usually. Let’s call it “resilient” since a boss once told me I was. Another called me a “rock” (unmoved/unshaken/stable). Not sure of that one, lol!
  9. I know how to plan a project and follow it through meticulously
  10. Despite some earlier bad decisions in my life, I was able to stay married for 30 years and still going.
  11. I chose God as my master when I was 9 and although my lines may have blurred and I missed the mark some, I still claim God as my Master, my friend, my Father and my Savior.
  12. I love to learn new things and I’m trying to find time to enjoy my camera and photography.
  13. I love to read, explore, discover, share, and organize my world.
  14. God loves me despite my ways, my issues, and including my forgetfulness. He made me wonderfully just to be who He wanted me to be.
  15. I’m always trying to improve myself to be a better version of me.
  16. I have learned that I am a strong person and can survive a number of things – even alone if I have to but I’m not wanting to and hope I never have to, but I can with God. I’ve learned not to be totally dependent on others even though we know we all get by with a little help from our friends. I think God wanted us to depend on each other some to let love and friendship grow.
  17. If anyway I can improve myself it is to be a better person that God wants me to be. If I am a believer and follower and choose to do none of the talents, career, skills or much of the list above, I will have met my Master’s “enough”. If it is good enough for Him. It’s good enough for me.

I encourage you to do a similar exercise when you are feeling “not enough”, talked about, made fun of, or just any day when you are down on yourself for simply being human. We all run into those who think they are some kind of God of perfection in themselves – you know the type – the ones that never admit to doing anything wrong. Just remember, they are not perfect either. And sometimes people like to focus on your inefficiencies rather than your perfections as it makes them feel better about their own inefficiencies and makes them look good or better in others eyes in comparison. We get that already. We got that a loooong time ago about life and dealing with other people And we have all done it on the flip side, so my goal is not to point fingers but to help me and others realize YOU ARE ENOUGH – just keep trying.

The weekend blogs are so long! I have time to spew all my thoughts and then some.

Weekend Update

Sleeping Puppy Dog and all His Toys and My Old Shirt and George’s Socks

~Dexter is doing good. We are slowly making progress with his stubborn streaks and in training. He sneaks and gets the garbage. He loves toilet paper rolls and Mom’s used face wash wipes.He loves us to chase him when he has something in his mouth and he’s very good at it. He is our newest weight loss program. He doesn’t understand weekend “sleeping in” yet. We are training him to be around the shower noise because it’s time for a bath and right now bathing him will be like trying to bathe a cat. lol. He continues to be fearful of loud birds, lol. He began enjoying his outside time more – longer walks and used to outside noises. We still can’t take him out of our yard yet because of him not having all his shots and even then he is still likely to catch something due to the wild life that comes across our yard but we feel we need to let him get out some.

~My psyche is good getting extra time at home. It’s been a relief actually.

~Mom and I changed our hair appointments with someone else for our next hair appointment. Probably next weekend I will cut on mine some. Or I may just wait til the next appt. It’s just going to be too heavy though for these hot weeks ahead.

~My car is going back in the shop next weekend for spark plugs and a headlight fix.

~George gets 1/2 day off a week but has to make it up other days during the summer. So I am getting home earlier for dog those days he works late and I start on dinner. But we’ll have to do something else – during the quarter end. Not sure what yet. Every hour and minute seems to count in our life.

That is all I know for now. It’ll be probably WED when I’m back. Unless I can sneak in a canned post, lol. Monday I’ll do videos and Tuesday is my earlier day. Let me know if you made it this far, lol. Or any thoughts on anything above today. Ya’ll have a good weekend. And a good week until next WED!

Friday Notes, Dexter Vet Update, Making Enchiladas, and Weekend Ahead

Hello lovelies! Just a quick pop in here. I think I have a couple of updates to share. Not much going on other than working and taking care of Mr. Dexter. But here are a few updates. Just rambling here today!

Dexter’s vet appointment went well. They were amazed that he looked as though he had doubled in size in two weeks. We got him at 11 lbs and now he’s at 16lbs – or he was a day or so ago, lol. The fecal test showed some puppy parasites. She said it was common and usually clears on its on. It was clear on the last test so I thought we’d done something wrong or something had come from my house, but she said he has had it all along and it just wasn’t in the sample they took. So hopefully in two to three weeks it’ll be better when we go again. But he got his 2nd round of shots. He felt bad I think because after playing a bit, he became a limp noodle and didn’t want to do anything but lay around. Next morning though he was back to being a spastic puppy and was ready to get up and eat and play. He’s been a good boy this week other than he learned how to break out into the other areas of the house so we are having to beef up perimeter security, lol.

It cracks me up when a dog lays like this. It’s like the doggie splits! lol

Hello Fresh has been delicious this week. The enchiladas were so good. I am failing at taking pictures but I’ll try to do a better job next week of the final product. I’m learning how to make a lot of Mexican food. I made bean paste (pretty much just mashed 1/2 the black beans and seasonings) and you put the bean paste on tortillas and made the filling (meatless this time but with the other half of the black beans, half tomato, poblano pepper, and half the chives). The other half of these things were put on fresh on the top after the enchiladas baked. It had me whisk together a Mexican “crema” sauce out of sour cream and that drizzled over it also after baking. The “crema” was made by adding southwestern seasoning and then warm water enough to make it drizzle consistency.

I love learning how to cook these things. I love that I can roll things in a tortilla and bake them w/o it falling out. You put your filling on one half of the tortilla – not the whole thing. You start rolling from the filling side and it scoots over as you roll tightly. You bake with the seam side down. Top with mozzarella cheese and bake it. These were baked just until the cheese melted on a high heat of 450. And it gave the enchiladas a steamed effect. It was sooooo good!

I think I have cooked three days this week! I cooked spaghetti last night. George has had to work over a couple of nights so he gets 1/2 day on Friday. He will enjoy the minimal Friday (today). So will Dexter. But on those days I have left to get home with dog and have started dinner as he also has had to work in the yard some. The heat has been horrible and his riding mower died. The man that works on them has retired. ::sigh:: So he ordered the part and I guess will try to fix it himself or find someone else to. Meanwhile he used the push mower in 102 degrees heat – I’m not sure what the heat index was but he started in the shaded area first and the other areas as the sun was lowering in the sky. He had water and popsicles ready to go.

I’ve been faithful at the 15 to 20 minute exercise routine – mainly steps and arms – but it’s nice to do this inside. Dexter is good while I do this. If not I throw tennis balls in b/w steps. George wakes up to dance music, ;-). I try to start it down low but sometimes it is really loud til I get it lowered.

I went to Chic Filet for breakfast yesterday. I got the “egg white grill” and I was pretty impressed. It had grilled chicken on what appeared to be a whole grain or whole wheat muffin and it had cheese on it and the egg was good. I think that is awesome. I also get fruit and unsweet ice tea. I try to go once a week. Can you believe that it’s $10 to get that so that is $40 month. I might have to quit that. But it is nice to have that treat once a week. I usually also eat out once in while for lunch.

I am going to be curbing expenses some in the coming months because of all the increases in prices. I’m working on my list to share with you. I haven’t had time to go through my blog notes to blog on various topics as I do sometimes. My life has been dexterized so I’ve spent less time in my office. lol lol lol

I am trying to hold things together though and looking forward to another relaxing catch up weekend. George is taking Mom to church Sunday. It’s working well for now with the new doggie to take turns so that we minimize his time alone so he doesn’t become neurotic, lol. It says on line Beagles can have issues if left alone for too long. We already hope the work week is not damaging to him. Anyway once he gets settled a bit we can do more things. We are trying to spend time with him though so he doesn’t have too much separation anxiety and all. This swapping of time allows us to have more time for home projects and getting things done.

George is looking forward to Father’s Day weekend though. Even though he’s offered for me to stay home Sunday, he will take her to church and then help her some in the garage Sunday. She wanted him to come sooner rather than later but he was busy last week with working over, I had my hair cut one day which meant he had dog duty, and then he had yard work. So tomorrow his treat (since Katy is not here) is to go to McKay’s bookstore and do a few errands tomorrow. I’m sure he will enjoy working in a garage on Father’s Day, lol. But he will get Mom’s green chair out and load some goodwill up. A neighbor is helping her unpack some things. I’m so glad b/c after a year of moving mom (twice), packing, unpacking – we have got to catch up and have time in our lives. We have promised work days here and there but we usually give her 2-3 days of our time in errands and doc appts and church and store, so it’s just hard to keep her up and us too. But we do what we can. I think she doesn’t grasp sometimes how much time it takes to work full time, plus commute, plus take care of our own needs, store runs, pay bills, yard, housekeep. So when she needs a chair moved it’s hard to just drop everything and go move a chair. Now we have dog dog to consider and have to be here for him right after work – one of us does.

Anyway, time is always an issue but we are doing the best we can. When we say “ok but not today” it doesn’t mean we don’t want to help, it really does mean what we say it means, no underlying hidden meanings, it means “ok but not today”. So many of us don’t take things at face value because so many of us have hidden agendas and manipulations, lol lol lol.

Anyway enough on that. I gotta get ready and get out the door. Enjoy your Friday and enjoy your weekend. I’m looking forward to mine. What you gonna do this weekend. And has the weather been hot?

Take care.

Plantain Sandwich, Finger Puppets of My Life, and Figuring Out my Schedule

Plantain Sandwich, Jose’s Sandwich & Grill

George and I had an excursion on Saturday – one in which time has not allowed me to share yet. It appears that not one, but all of my hobbies are being taking away – eaten away – one by one but at least this day was replaced by some fun. I’m forcing this entry in today to discuss at least an hour of my Saturday, although really I’m robbing time from my video editing this morning. The rest of our excursion (The Hermitage) will have to come for another day.

We began our excursion day out Saturday by eating at Jose’s Sandwich Shop in Hermitage, TN.

It’s way more than your average sandwich shop – it’s Venezuelan sandwiches. I want to go back again and get the “bowl” – pictured in the window above.

George’s Pepita Sandwich, Jose’s Sandwich & Grill
Peeking into the Inside of a Plantain sandwich

I did not eat all of the plantain. But I love plantain. The entire thing was so good. The beef, the sauce inside, and the ingredients were fresh with the lettuce and cheese. I don’t think people realize what a gold mine this is. It was so good. And the lady that was running it was so kind.

Oh look, the “bowl” is on the card here. That is what I want next time. Also I the same strip mall there is a hot chicken place, and Italian place and a Mexican place – none of which we have been to. So our summer bucket list (when I get time to work on it) will include these restaurants we’ve not been to.

Our day out was fun and hopefully on the weekend I will get some time to do my Hermitage entry – The Hermitage – Home of Andrew Jackson as opposed to the town of Hermitage which is in between Mount Juliet and also Nashville. It’s really only about 10 min away (the town) and The Hermitage is about 15-18 min away, closer to Donelson side which is on the very far out East side of Nashville area.

Thank You

Thank you everyone that left comments for Cody and Katy on the loss of their doggie, Findlay. She reads the blog and my heart has just been so heavy with this. I know how they feel but they had expected to have this dog until she was old -at least, so it has been a shock to lose a very important part of their family. You were kind to leave them a message (previous entry) and I appreciate you all for doing that.

Puppet Lives

Finger Puppets at The Hermitage gift shop

Looking at this photo made me laugh this morning. I was thinking that these puppets are the stage of my life. Which finger puppet is Sonya wearing at this moment? Let’s name all the puppets! The Work Puppet? The Homemaker Puppet? The Care-Giver Puppet? The Family Member Puppet? The Blogger/Writer Puppet? The VLOG-er and/or Video Creator Puppet? The Traveler/Excursion Puppet? The Project Puppet? The photographer/videographer “wannabe” puppet?

What you say? There’s only five puppets there and several are missing and not enough to go around? Yes! My thoughts exactly! That is why it’s my life, lol. At least we can find humor in the situation.

Can someone say “Bless Your Heart!” lol I need a heart blessing! I like the brown one on the end. It looks most like a dog. The black and white one could be Maisy and the black one “Little Bit”.

Here’s What’s Going On In My Head, My Heart, and Life

  • We are planning another Excursion for Saturday – mainly because we have a couple of gift cards to a particular restaurant so we are headed out to go to some areas we like nearby that area. We’ll start the day at lunch somewhere and then shop and explore our way until dinner. We have contacted our friends and plan to join up with them at some point.
  • My arm is better but….. I’ve decided it is hampered by lifting heavy things, doing a lot of data entry, and or blogging and writing. I do think I hit my elbow hard enough a few weeks back to have a hairline fracture as that still kinda hurts but it’s healing. I will mention this to the doc in July that I’ve had trouble with my arm. It feels better after a rest and the elbow only hurts if I lean on it like elbows on the table. So I just don’t lean on it. Icy Hot works wonders for when the muscles hurt. I do think I have a cyst developed on my right wrist just from years of working that muscle from typing. The knot on my lower arm I have determined that is where my arm rests against the table or desk and creating a dent in my arm making a knot of sorts form next to it. It’s almost like a callous inside my arm, lol. Hard to explain but basically a dent in my muscle making the sides against the dent bulge out. Am I making sense? Again, I’ll show the doc all the knot spots. I don’t want surgery and I don’t want pain meds and honestly really don’t want anything. I just really need rest more than anything.
  • I’m trying to work on a couple of projects but time not giving me any of itself to work with. Everything I do is stolen time away from something else. For example work yesterday was a 10.5 hour day with 45 min commutes on each end. I left in the 6 pm hour and got home in the 6 p.m. hour. So my personal time was gone. I ended up doing my video editing because it was nagging at me in my head to do it last night while George cooked, and I really needed to be working on other things. Dinner was ready before I got through working on the video edits.
  • I am wanting to convert cable but with me it’s a whole research thing b/c I want it to be right. And I have not had time to even *think* about it. I’ve at least made a list of what all I need to do: get a current cable bill, talk to Comcast, see how much various streaming live TV services are, check out the Hulu box and Live TV and check out YouTubeTV, etc. I’m just so confused.
  • I am going to get my REAL ID also and get that out of the way. I don’t want to wait until winter or 2023 close to the deadline or it’ll be packed or snowed out or whatever. I have to call and get that set.
  • I have to call and set a GYN appt. I’ve not been in several years and I think it’s worth a check out.
  • I want to do the Summer Bucket List.
  • I’d really like to do a few things on my Winter into Spring Bucket List to be able to check them off. If I could find about 3 hours of time.
  • I need to get a car wash with mud all over my white car, lol. After work I’m too tired to stop or have other things that need doing worse.
  • We began looking for doggies yesterday on a PetFinder website. I’ve downloaded three apps for it and mostly they pull in the same dogs. There is one I can’t get out of my mind but she gets carsick -extremely car sick, it said. I don’t think that will work but —her face. Oh she is so cute. Anyway that is a start.
  • My desk is snowed under with ideas, projects and to do’s.
  • I was able to get a refund processed for our recent tow when my car broke down. Yay – progress at SOMETHING
  • I’m taking Mom to Cracker Barrel tonight. George is going to stay home and work on his music project. He too, has been fussing over no time to do things. He’s been wanting to work on his winemaking also but that has been put aside for quite some time. I mean, we basically have given Mom all of our free time last year and a chunk this year. So our interests are few and far between when we get to spend time with them.

I’m trying not to be overwhelmed by the things I am not “getting to” and by not getting any days off or at home for like – a month. So I’m claiming Memorial Day as a stay home day with NO plans. I think company will be in town but we will have to plan time on other evenings. Memorial Day. It’s mine! For Sanity’s Sake! I have all of the PTO’s spoken for. A lot of it comes toward the end of year – at Thanksgiving, Christmas prep and shopping – when I really really really will need it and then rolling over some into ’23 so I have some at the beg of the year to use for that first quarter before I’ve accrued any yet.

The Time Thing….I Think I Have Figured it Out

Sorry to fuss about time so much but I’ve determined that until our schedule gets ironed out enough to be able to cover all the things I need and want – I will continue to vent about it. It’s a continual struggle that doesn’t go away until I get time for what I need to be a complete person and human being. It’s always something I’ve vented about when I feel life strangling me.

I’m just not willing to give anything in my life up. So each part of my life will continue to screw up the next part. I can’t give up work (yet), can’t give up caregiving, and refuse to give up things I like and want to do as that is a part of who I am as an individual. I refuse to give up going to church as I do think it’s important as we have started back.

One thing I can do is track my hours at work and cut back to 40 instead of working upwards to 50 (or more some QE weeks). I mean with expenses going up and me having a time problem and my income probably not going up I can cut back on my hours to at least give me some time back and it’ll just have to be what it will be. That will make my value go up per hour – even though I’m salaried. I doubt I will go by that during a quarter end month. Hmmm..if you work a snot load of extra hours over 40 during QE one could actually do less than 40 during the other times – not that I will do THAT but that is what would be fair. But I at least should cut back to 40 then.

I leave sometimes early for doc appts but I’ve been waaaayyyyyy far over compensating for those times by coming in early, staying late, forgoing lunches, and working extra during quarter end months —- and I need to manage my work time more to have more of a life balance. That is really the only place I can steal time from right now and it’s not really stealing – it’s taking what is rightfully mine back! :-O So that is the only logical answer I can come to. It’s the place that is sucking most of my day. So there ya go. Tracking starts today. :-). I’m so glad we had this talk! lol. I love coming up with solutions.

THE TRIBE HAS SPOKEN