Plantain Sandwich, Finger Puppets of My Life, and Figuring Out my Schedule

Plantain Sandwich, Jose’s Sandwich & Grill

George and I had an excursion on Saturday – one in which time has not allowed me to share yet. It appears that not one, but all of my hobbies are being taking away – eaten away – one by one but at least this day was replaced by some fun. I’m forcing this entry in today to discuss at least an hour of my Saturday, although really I’m robbing time from my video editing this morning. The rest of our excursion (The Hermitage) will have to come for another day.

We began our excursion day out Saturday by eating at Jose’s Sandwich Shop in Hermitage, TN.

It’s way more than your average sandwich shop – it’s Venezuelan sandwiches. I want to go back again and get the “bowl” – pictured in the window above.

George’s Pepita Sandwich, Jose’s Sandwich & Grill
Peeking into the Inside of a Plantain sandwich

I did not eat all of the plantain. But I love plantain. The entire thing was so good. The beef, the sauce inside, and the ingredients were fresh with the lettuce and cheese. I don’t think people realize what a gold mine this is. It was so good. And the lady that was running it was so kind.

Oh look, the “bowl” is on the card here. That is what I want next time. Also I the same strip mall there is a hot chicken place, and Italian place and a Mexican place – none of which we have been to. So our summer bucket list (when I get time to work on it) will include these restaurants we’ve not been to.

Our day out was fun and hopefully on the weekend I will get some time to do my Hermitage entry – The Hermitage – Home of Andrew Jackson as opposed to the town of Hermitage which is in between Mount Juliet and also Nashville. It’s really only about 10 min away (the town) and The Hermitage is about 15-18 min away, closer to Donelson side which is on the very far out East side of Nashville area.

Thank You

Thank you everyone that left comments for Cody and Katy on the loss of their doggie, Findlay. She reads the blog and my heart has just been so heavy with this. I know how they feel but they had expected to have this dog until she was old -at least, so it has been a shock to lose a very important part of their family. You were kind to leave them a message (previous entry) and I appreciate you all for doing that.

Puppet Lives

Finger Puppets at The Hermitage gift shop

Looking at this photo made me laugh this morning. I was thinking that these puppets are the stage of my life. Which finger puppet is Sonya wearing at this moment? Let’s name all the puppets! The Work Puppet? The Homemaker Puppet? The Care-Giver Puppet? The Family Member Puppet? The Blogger/Writer Puppet? The VLOG-er and/or Video Creator Puppet? The Traveler/Excursion Puppet? The Project Puppet? The photographer/videographer “wannabe” puppet?

What you say? There’s only five puppets there and several are missing and not enough to go around? Yes! My thoughts exactly! That is why it’s my life, lol. At least we can find humor in the situation.

Can someone say “Bless Your Heart!” lol I need a heart blessing! I like the brown one on the end. It looks most like a dog. The black and white one could be Maisy and the black one “Little Bit”.

Here’s What’s Going On In My Head, My Heart, and Life

  • We are planning another Excursion for Saturday – mainly because we have a couple of gift cards to a particular restaurant so we are headed out to go to some areas we like nearby that area. We’ll start the day at lunch somewhere and then shop and explore our way until dinner. We have contacted our friends and plan to join up with them at some point.
  • My arm is better but….. I’ve decided it is hampered by lifting heavy things, doing a lot of data entry, and or blogging and writing. I do think I hit my elbow hard enough a few weeks back to have a hairline fracture as that still kinda hurts but it’s healing. I will mention this to the doc in July that I’ve had trouble with my arm. It feels better after a rest and the elbow only hurts if I lean on it like elbows on the table. So I just don’t lean on it. Icy Hot works wonders for when the muscles hurt. I do think I have a cyst developed on my right wrist just from years of working that muscle from typing. The knot on my lower arm I have determined that is where my arm rests against the table or desk and creating a dent in my arm making a knot of sorts form next to it. It’s almost like a callous inside my arm, lol. Hard to explain but basically a dent in my muscle making the sides against the dent bulge out. Am I making sense? Again, I’ll show the doc all the knot spots. I don’t want surgery and I don’t want pain meds and honestly really don’t want anything. I just really need rest more than anything.
  • I’m trying to work on a couple of projects but time not giving me any of itself to work with. Everything I do is stolen time away from something else. For example work yesterday was a 10.5 hour day with 45 min commutes on each end. I left in the 6 pm hour and got home in the 6 p.m. hour. So my personal time was gone. I ended up doing my video editing because it was nagging at me in my head to do it last night while George cooked, and I really needed to be working on other things. Dinner was ready before I got through working on the video edits.
  • I am wanting to convert cable but with me it’s a whole research thing b/c I want it to be right. And I have not had time to even *think* about it. I’ve at least made a list of what all I need to do: get a current cable bill, talk to Comcast, see how much various streaming live TV services are, check out the Hulu box and Live TV and check out YouTubeTV, etc. I’m just so confused.
  • I am going to get my REAL ID also and get that out of the way. I don’t want to wait until winter or 2023 close to the deadline or it’ll be packed or snowed out or whatever. I have to call and get that set.
  • I have to call and set a GYN appt. I’ve not been in several years and I think it’s worth a check out.
  • I want to do the Summer Bucket List.
  • I’d really like to do a few things on my Winter into Spring Bucket List to be able to check them off. If I could find about 3 hours of time.
  • I need to get a car wash with mud all over my white car, lol. After work I’m too tired to stop or have other things that need doing worse.
  • We began looking for doggies yesterday on a PetFinder website. I’ve downloaded three apps for it and mostly they pull in the same dogs. There is one I can’t get out of my mind but she gets carsick -extremely car sick, it said. I don’t think that will work but —her face. Oh she is so cute. Anyway that is a start.
  • My desk is snowed under with ideas, projects and to do’s.
  • I was able to get a refund processed for our recent tow when my car broke down. Yay – progress at SOMETHING
  • I’m taking Mom to Cracker Barrel tonight. George is going to stay home and work on his music project. He too, has been fussing over no time to do things. He’s been wanting to work on his winemaking also but that has been put aside for quite some time. I mean, we basically have given Mom all of our free time last year and a chunk this year. So our interests are few and far between when we get to spend time with them.

I’m trying not to be overwhelmed by the things I am not “getting to” and by not getting any days off or at home for like – a month. So I’m claiming Memorial Day as a stay home day with NO plans. I think company will be in town but we will have to plan time on other evenings. Memorial Day. It’s mine! For Sanity’s Sake! I have all of the PTO’s spoken for. A lot of it comes toward the end of year – at Thanksgiving, Christmas prep and shopping – when I really really really will need it and then rolling over some into ’23 so I have some at the beg of the year to use for that first quarter before I’ve accrued any yet.

The Time Thing….I Think I Have Figured it Out

Sorry to fuss about time so much but I’ve determined that until our schedule gets ironed out enough to be able to cover all the things I need and want – I will continue to vent about it. It’s a continual struggle that doesn’t go away until I get time for what I need to be a complete person and human being. It’s always something I’ve vented about when I feel life strangling me.

I’m just not willing to give anything in my life up. So each part of my life will continue to screw up the next part. I can’t give up work (yet), can’t give up caregiving, and refuse to give up things I like and want to do as that is a part of who I am as an individual. I refuse to give up going to church as I do think it’s important as we have started back.

One thing I can do is track my hours at work and cut back to 40 instead of working upwards to 50 (or more some QE weeks). I mean with expenses going up and me having a time problem and my income probably not going up I can cut back on my hours to at least give me some time back and it’ll just have to be what it will be. That will make my value go up per hour – even though I’m salaried. I doubt I will go by that during a quarter end month. Hmmm..if you work a snot load of extra hours over 40 during QE one could actually do less than 40 during the other times – not that I will do THAT but that is what would be fair. But I at least should cut back to 40 then.

I leave sometimes early for doc appts but I’ve been waaaayyyyyy far over compensating for those times by coming in early, staying late, forgoing lunches, and working extra during quarter end months —- and I need to manage my work time more to have more of a life balance. That is really the only place I can steal time from right now and it’s not really stealing – it’s taking what is rightfully mine back! :-O So that is the only logical answer I can come to. It’s the place that is sucking most of my day. So there ya go. Tracking starts today. :-). I’m so glad we had this talk! lol. I love coming up with solutions.

THE TRIBE HAS SPOKEN

The Daily Struggle With Myself, Meeting Mom’s Needs, and Conquering my Work Agenda

I noticed yesterday morning that frost had developed on the windows in the sun room. It was pretty with the sun shining through. The phone did a pretty good job of capturing it. I think one day I’d like to have the lens that lets you get really close with my camera- but I’m not pressing that one. I am hoping to enjoy my camera more upon retirement, as I’m sure not getting to enjoy it otherwise. When I say “enjoy” I mean 1) learning how to use it other than the automatic settings 2) taking specific trips out to take photos, aka “photo excursions”. 3) Using it in the blog and vlogs. One day. At least there is hope.

What we do without hope? I am having to have a lot of hope these days. And trust. Every conversation I have leads to time doesn’t it? And the lack of it. I’m obsessed with it because I have to face cramming so much into one day. Or as the case may be, not being able to. So I am facing my frustrations daily. How can one not be obsessed and protect of one’s self?

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I’ll admit, I woke up this morning a little miffed because I realized now that I’m home on this off day, but I have to work. I also have to laundry, go to the store, get ready for another work week which is the last week of the quarter end / year end and there is so much to do. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel ONLY because of the calendar, but not in the work load. I am miffed because I can’t do what I really want to do today. I can’t enjoy a weekend to do things I need to do and want to do- not this weekend and not next. I am stuck. Stuck in this situation called my life. But I’m trying to be positive. Yet life keep happening to try and suck all my time away. I’m trying to be positive but I am also trying to be true to self. So as I go through this time period I’ve labeled “impossible”, forgive me as I have periods of moodiness. If one does not get self time, one is not delightful to be around.

So that I can get it out of my system. If I were off today, what would I do? I would clean the house and organize, take down the Christmas tree, finish the Roger tribute video, cancel my Isagenix auto ship, use my audible credit, add family birthday’s to my iPhone calendar, restock BP meds and vitamins (I’ll have to do that anyway), restock for work (food and needs which I’ll also do anyway), clean the kitchen, work in my office some, put up the Christmas dishes and the rest of Christmas, finish putting up Nic nacs in the house, and look at my projects and goals, read, watch a show, and rest. I really just miss having “piddle time” (lol). Time to randomly do whatever I want. I think that is it. I just don’t have time to putter about. We work so hard to have a “nest” and yet we are gone all the time. Ok I’m done. I’m ok. I just had to have my daily lament of being too busy to pee and piddle. So instead of Less Hustle, More Coffee (which rarely seems to occur) should I just rename the blog “Too Busy to Pee and Piddle”? Sounds good to me.

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I’m trying to turn the day around. Be happy, check off boxes, get work done, get personal things done and some how have a blend of the two. That is the only way I can sanely get through the next week.

So let’s start over, have a little faith that God got us through the month so far and He’s gonna get us through this week and beyond. It’s insane to think that I cannot do a mix of both personal and work today. I own the slate of time, I can do what I want. I DO want to finish QE/YE on time and I hope that I do and I will give it my best. But I do have to get a few things done here. I’ve given my last three days to work, Mom, family. So I’ll have to do a mix of things today. Or I will be nothing but negative energy next week. I may still be anyway. It’s a daily struggle when you have such urges to conquer your agenda but have to throw it over your shoulder and say “another day”. Christmas tree will come down in February. All goals, creative time, mani’s, pedi’s, household projects, 2022 projects- anything over 20 minutes in length will have to wait til February. We’ve known that all along, so why the set back today? I think it’s just that I’m used to having a day in each weekend to get a certain line up of things done and I don’t have that blank slate of a day this weekend.

All that said, at least Mom is happy. The heart doc done, eye injection done, curtains hung, boxes moved around in garage so she can get to the next few, new tennis shoes bought to help her walk better, and the first round of furniture shopping done, another round of grocerying done, mail picked up, taken for a burger, and mirror anchored to the dresser after George found the right bolt.

Lots of things have come together in her house. We are down to pictures and unpacking of and getting rid of boxes, good will items, and so forth. Mom is unpacking boxes as she has time and when I ask to help she says “no I’ll get it”. I snapped some pics yesterday of what is put together so far.

Mom’s bedroom is the white, pink, green quilt and the pink bedspread room is the guest bedroom. The bathroom is the guest bathroom all pretty in blue. There is a little room that can be used for an office or sitting room. Of course I’d have it as an office if it were me, lol. But Mom has it as a sitting room with her Victorian “living room” furniture. The room Mom is sitting in is her “open concept” room extending from the kitchen and dining. The area is not very big for furniture – so she is looking at new furniture to try and make it fit where at least 4 people can sit. So George hung all the green curtains you see there. Now there is no glare on the TV screen. We watched back to back Leave it to Beaver for hours, lol.

Here is Mom in her investigative mode with the sales guy. I found this love seat set up and suggested that she buy two of these for the room. All seats recline, cup holders, and a console for her stuff. She really liked it. It was comfortable and even had a pillow setting to puff up or down. I loved this too. Very nice. We have to measure though and make sure it would fit so we didn’t buy. Ashley Furniture wanted $249 for delivery and set up. No sir – deal breaker right there. Mom suggested George rent a truck for $29.99 —I stopped her in her tracks. George is not moving anything. Says me. He has already worn himself out with two household moves and still has to help move her boxes back and forth and be a handy man of sorts and also has to move things around our house as well. We’ll have to have furniture delivered and we may have to find a company who will charge less to do it. George is not a spring chicken that can be moved around with a flip of a switch. He’s already been over utilized – I mean two moves of one person in a year is a lot. We are not asking him to move anything else. The tribe has spoken. lol

So at 1:30 Kevin came to get George and they went to the Titans playoff. Titans lost. My SIL was with fever and not able to come. So Mom and I left after they did. She wanted a burger and so we went to Sonic. We went to get shoes at Academy Sports as they have a big selection. Mom found two pair that slip on (no tying) and was happy with those. She needs more socks thought so we’ll have to order those on line. We went to Ashley Furniture and honestly I think the guy that waited on us was high as his eyes were so watery – glassed over. He had that look but who knows. He was still nice. But we’ve had better. lol Then we went to Kroger in Providence. I’m not fond of that one, but we kinda had to go there as Mom needed things Publix and Aldi didn’t have. So we slowly mazed our way through that huge large store with Mom pushing the buggy using it as a walker. She did pretty good. But she depends on me being her leader of where to find things and being able to see them. She can do pretty good if she is right in front of the thing she wants. She is fine with us getting the groceries but she likes to go out and get them some too because when you do you see things you want that you forget about, so I’m glad she can still get out and pick up some things. When we get her groceries she also enjoys us buying some surprises that we think she will like. It’s fun for her when we get home and bring stuff out of the bags.

We put up her groceries and the sun set on our day with Mom. I headed home. The guys were still at the game and I had time to myself for a couple of hours. It was not productive time. I had been awake since 3:15 a.m. yesterday and jumped up and began laundry before going to Mom’s and so was just exhausted. All I wanted was a glass of oaky chardonnay, my recliner, cat, warm blanket, and to watch the polar bear girl on YouTube (Celia from Svalbard, near the North Pole). I love watching their way of life and seeing their dog Grim. I fell asleep briefly and had to rewind.

Sook George and Kevin made their way from the game and picked me up for Longhorn. I thought it was my birthday dinner as I’d been told it was, but George said “naw, we’ll do birthday celebrations when Susan is present too” and he said (rightfully so) that we would buy Kevin’s dinner instead for him taking him to the game. So that seemed fair. It’s no big deal for the birthday thing – it’s just an excuse for us all to get together and enjoy life and catch up and no worry over gifts – just getting to enjoy a nice place out. So that sounds good to me. We can catch up on our birthday dinners (Kevin’s birthday is today, lol, mine was Jan 3rd). So we have all year til August when is George’s. And perhaps maybe we can all find time someday. They have been so busy – as have we since they have moved twice this past year also and Kevin starting a new job.

On the way to our seat in Longhorn, I saw some lady with Sangria and new immediately that I wanted one too. It was huge! I had to take both hands to hold it. It was like drinking out of a fish bowl. It had a lot of ice though. The steak was good. I got a 6 oz renegade I think as it was the cheapest one, loaded potato (so hot and so good on a cold winter night) and salad with balsamic vinaigrette. I’ve had too much bread lately! So vinegar seems to help with digesting after poorly. lol

Once home, we unloaded Kevin’s trunk and he left us with Christmas gifts and we loaded it back up with our own gifts to them. I’m sad that we couldn’t have had our Christmas together. But a quick check with my SIL proved that she’d made the right decision to stay home and lay around as she’d not felt so good.

Sleep was so good last night. It was 10:00 or so going to bed. And I woke up at 4, this morning but went back to sleep as I was short on sleep. I made coffee, rebooted laundry, and George said “it’s Christmas morning again, wanna open gifts?” I said “Sure thing, let me find my glasses and take my blood pressure meds because I totally forgot to take them yesterday”.

Santa was good to us again! 😉 Here’s mine plus both our gift cards to us together. They over did it! George has his own stack of gifts. SIL knows what I like. I have more prayer journaling notebooks, a wrap, candle, and books.

In my prayer journal, I daily Thank God for what he did the day before for me. He gets credit for all good things that happened – even the deer. He provides me with nature, sunsets, and all sorts of things each day. He answers my prayers in ways He sees fit. I write about that before I begin asking for help. I pray for others and I pray for all things that I am anxious or worried about. I try to park them there. But as you see I don’t always. I come here and vent, fret, wish, long for, and just hash out things I’m working through. It’s a process daily to try to overcome your human nature, your desires, your worldly longings, and try to realign with what God’s purpose is for you. It’s a fight daily.

So there you have my Saturday in a nut shell. The blog entry here today has set me back quite a bit in time. So I guess I cannot complain about time huh? But it’s so important sometimes to just be able to vent, communicate, and park your feelings somewhere. Now I will try to get our groceries done and laundry finished, bpmeds and vitamins set up, and then I’ll get a shower and get some work done. It may not all be in that order. I’ll just have to do what I can do.

Little Roo and Katy and Cody have been a little ill also but everyone is starting to feel better. Little Roo has thrown up a few times in the last day so pray for him. He seems to want to eat and gets made when he doesn’t. So far he has kept breakfast down. I don’t think he has a fever.

OK off to conquer Sunday and I’m so delighted I don’t have a meeting off site anymore tomorrow so that gives me half a day back into my Monday to work. That was a blessing from God right there. He and I had talked about it. It was just unnecessary and a waste of everyone’s time. So I’m so delighted. Only I had packed the suitcase full of work for two days and then some lol. It’s all good. I’ll get this all figured out. There is only about another week to January. Then I can see February and start whittling away at things I long to do and love to do. One can only HOPE. Another entry of accepting what is and embracing it and forging and finding my way forward. Gotta get that slogan on my board in my office but….even that takes time I don’t have. LOL

Finding Ways to Deal with Pet Peeves

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As in inward look to myself, and in trying to understand some of my triggers that can make my world go south in a heartbeat, I made a list of my pet peeves. Pet Peeves will never permanently go away, so if we can find ways to deal with them and turn the negative thoughts away quickly, it can give us a better outlook and a happier day when they occur or present themselves. These are usually things outside of our control that we wish we could control that bring annoyance. Here’s mine. Can you identify with any of these? I’m sure there are more if I sat and thought a bit, but here’s the first few that came to mind. Some may overlap a bit.

  • When people do not return emails or texts. It’s not the little ones, but the big ones that bother me and usually in a work setting. It makes you feel ghosted and non important and eventually makes me angry. The fix? There are some that probably DO ignore you on purpose, and we must realize the ultimate failure is upon that person and not yourself. It is true that some people are genuinely busy and forget and we are all guilty of that sometimes. The usual turnaround on this one is just to find another way to get around the person for what you need, look to someone else for an answer, or even decide yourself and go on. Decide that for whatever reason you are not getting an answer, let your thoughts occur but let them pass and not dwell. We don’t always know for sure why people didn’t answer. Perhaps they are busy, lazy, and maybe they really don’t consider you to be important. They have a right to decide that even though they might not be correct. Add a little laugh at the end of your thinking and toss in a line of “their loss” or “they suck at communication” if it makes you feel better, LOL! It still may not fix what you needed from the person but people may not necessarily be ignoring you because you are you. It could be many other reasons. You can’t make them answer, so let it go and mark them off your list as being a helpful resource.
  • Interrupted. I have a tendency to focus hard on what I’m doing. I like to finish my thoughts, my thinking, my writing, my working. I really don’t like interruptions and because it breaks my concentration and throws off my timing, I find it annoying. The fix? There will always be interruptions. And depending on what or who it is and what the situation is, will depend on what the fix is. You can set boundaries. You can shut doors. The best solution is giving others a time frame or letting them know you need this marked off time. Sometimes interruptions are important and needed. So first you decide if it’s important. I Tell George, for example, “I’m shutting my door to do voiceovers” for the videos. Sometimes it is a welcome interruption! Sometimes you cannot give boundaries. I think for this one we just have to realize that they WILL occur and if we really need to we can set the boundaries or rules to create the uninterrupted time we need.
  • Being judged by others. Oh this is a big one. You know the ones. The ones in your life that talk about everyone you know. They are the ones that you know without fail are talking about you to others as well. You can almost just hear them. If you know someone well you kinda know or imagine what they are saying about YOU as you know what they are saying about others. The fix? Let it pass. You have to realize people are going to say or think what they will and you really have very little control over it. With those people that you likely don’t trust, the less information you feed them or that they know about your life, the better. That is really the only control you have. Just let your words be few with those people. These are the kinds of negative emotion creators that we need to remove from our lives as much as possible because of the way these emotions make us feel. Life is to hard for that.
  • When others sub perform, and it impacts me. Usually this has been a work situation in my career at times. It ends up making me so angry. When you do your part but others don’t, it makes everyone look bad – especially if a project fails or back fires or runs behind, or things never improve. The fix? Sure you can handle your reactions or fixes in numerous ways depending on the situation. You can resign, go around people, come up with alternate plans, etc. But the bottom line is that you can’t always make people do what they are supposed to do. But you can control how you react and respond, even to the point of changing projects, changing jobs, and doing whatever it is to make you feel healthy and valued as a person. I have changed positions before when there were so many brick walls around that I could no longer be impactful. I have to feel like what I do is helpful or it’s no use doing it. So the fix is to make sure you surround yourself with a successful team, people who appreciate you, or simply go find those who are and do and in an area in which you can thrive.
  • Gas lighting. Meaning mainly that others make you feel like the problem is you when it’s really them. I don’t go for that. I’ve experienced this in personal relationships, with family, and in the work zone. It’s never appropriate and it usually involves someone that is not able to accept responsibility, admit their own faults, usually cocky about themselves, and of course selfish. The fix? Boundaries, removing them from your life or your situation or communication on the issues, or simply ignoring them. In some cases communication can be a fix, at least in letting them know you are on to them. But if you have to have this person in your life, the fix is mainly not letting this type of person control you or have claim to you. Just ignore their comments especially if you know it not to be true. If it continues remove them from your situation as much as possible. You may be able to change someone’s way of communication but usually they will think what they want to think or blame because they want to protect themselves. I have called out others when they did this to me and every conversation was very explosive. So if you do bring it up, it won’t be pleasant. You get it to decide if it’s worth it or not. In two of the conversations I had that come to mind, it made things better, but it was very explosive.
  • Manipulation, Guilt Tripping. Just no. These are usually masterminds of people who will do anything and everything to get their way every time. These people are very hard to deal with. The fix? I’d love to say just eliminate them from your life but sometimes that is impossible to do and I think sometimes people don’t even know they are being that way, it’s so much a part of their life or their life’s training. The fix? Boundaries. I know, boundaries are a fix for a lot of things when it comes to spacing out from some of these pet peeves. The big problem is sometimes we don’t even know we are being manipulated or have been made to feel guilty. You basically are in charge of your own life and you get to decide what you will do, when you will do it. When others make you feel uncomfortable, ask yourself why and consider their intentions. Set boundaries accordingly. I can think of several instances in which a family member tried to make me feel guilty over when a certain thing would happen that was really petty in the big picture of things. In reality that person was being selfish and wanted their way to happen on their own time frame. They took no consideration over my life and what was going on and used tactics to try to make me feel guilty that “it hadn’t happened yet”. I faced this one head on when I realized it. You have to accept that people will often stomp feet, yell, cry (maybe even literally) when you catch them in their manipulative state. You don’t have to tell them you did, but when you don’t give them their way and try to be reasonable they will explode into child like behavior and give you a hard time. So expect that. Bottom line, people do not have access to control you. You get to be you. You call the shots on YOU! I’m not saying you don’t have to help people but YOU get to decide when and how. Let go of the guilty feeling. Be reasonable with yourself. What is really needed here and how can I help? Let go of the rest. Especially if you cannot cut the person out of your life.
  • When things don’t go as planned. This is a big one. And almost to big to address as the scenarios vary so much. But I love to plan and I love for it to come to fruition. The fix? I’m going with my 2022 motto of “Just Embrace Life as is and Forge Forward.” There are some things I cannot control – like weather, or life responsibilities, or the state we find our world in the last couple of years. All we can do is the best we can do. But the attitude when changes come, can impact ourselves and others. We just have to learn to be flexible. It’s harder when it’s someone’s fault that the changes happen. I struggle with that sometimes and want those to accept their responsibility or say they are sorry. But most of the time it is just plain circumstance. I’m trying to have patience but I don’t always. I try to forgive, and that is often hard for the big stuff. It’s a constant thing that has to be done over and over. I will always struggle with this, but my motto is helping me so much this year to shrug my shoulders, go on, and “figure it out from here”.
  • Technology Failures. Oh gosh, this will make me curse, stomp feet, throw things (not usually but I feel like it). I need for technology to work. It’s not a person. It has no thoughts but it sure can make me mad when it doesn’t work. I talk to it, beg it, get angry at it. The fix? Google. YouTube. Sometimes an IT guy if he is not too busy or has the knowledge. My biggest help has been Google and YouTube, lol. Sometimes it’s simply give it up for a few minutes, sleep on it, and try again later. Ask others for help. Or fix it yourself once you are through cursing and begging, lol
  • Time crunches. Might as well put this one on here huh? The fix? I already do a splendid job of scheduling things across my year. I try not to pack in too many things too tightly. I am of course married, have an extended family, have some extra responsibilities in caring for a parent, and so of course I allow my spouse, my family, and my Mom to make some claim on my time. I’m having an exceptionally hard time though through holidays and our work crunch time in being able to handle all of the responsibilities upon me and juggling them. I’m doing the best I can. We can’t skip Christmas or important family birthdays, or important doc appointments, we can’t skip quarter end or year end taxes and returns and w-2 reporting! The fix? Prayer. It’s the only way I’ve been sane. God has opened up windows of time for me as if he has been altering my world, my support, and has given me the tools and the time I need to stay sane and everyone else to be fed and well maybe not content but at least have their necessities til I can breathe again. I hate January. I really do now. It’s an impossible month. I don’t want to be negative. I’m just being flat honest. And again all one can do is try to schedule things apart but we have had so much of the necessary things happen and I find myself tremendously bottlenecked. So prayer. If I’ve done my best and it’s not good enough – then prayer!
  • Others Planning and Trying to Own my Time. Some of these things are interconnected for me. I like to be in charge of my own schedule. And should be. However, there are responsibilities to being married, having a family, and having accepted other extra responsibilities, and of course working for an employer. So naturally those things take time and others will have a big say as to how you fill the time when you are connected in a relationship whether it be spousal, parental, or work for an employer. The fix? Bottom line, YOU do still control your time but you do have responsibilities if you have accepted those relationships to do what you need to do or have agreed to do. You have to fulfill obligations but you do have power to negotiate, communicate and in many cases say “no” or “later” or “not right now” or “this time is better”. The fix is relative dependent on the situation. I say that speaking up, and not saying yes to everything probably makes sense. It’s important for George to know when I’m needing some time. He knows I need at least ONE day of my weekend particularly in the mornings so that I feel refreshed, get our laundry done, and have a bit of personal time to refresh. So I think communicating to people what your time needs are will help. It’s been particularly frustrating to try and work in everyone’s needs from me this year as my responsibilities have changed personally. I’ve agreed to do these additional responsibilities with the care of a parent but I need to be able to have some type of control over when things happen because I have so many pieces of the puzzle on the table that exist in my world. For example work is being crowded out a LOT. I’m having to be more creative about getting my work done and in getting the time in. I appreciate that most have been patient with me this year as I figure things out. I try to be loyal to all of those that I’ve agreed to give my time for. But it’s almost more than I have time for, so it’s more of a challenge to get it all planned and be sane. So communication to all who want a piece of you is the best bet. Not all of them may have the mindset to understand especially if they are selfish, but ultimately it is YOU that gets to decide w/o fear of manipulation or anger. Boundaries again! Self-respect. 😉

And I will say that Prayer can also be a fix for all these things to be led down the path of saying or doing the right things. So if you are a believer, you have that advantage over others. 😉 It has sure helped me. I love my prayer journaling that I do every morning and Bible reading that sets the tone for me day and gives me hope that someone is with me as I venture onward about my day and my life.

What are your Pet Peeves? Fixes? You are welcome to leave me some advice too! Have a good day out there.