What Stands Out from Your Childhood Memories?

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Having Mom staying in the household has brought back a myriad of memories. I decided one day to list the first five happy things that I thought of when remembering childhood, followed by the five worst memories -if you do one side, may as well do the other. After a while, I likely thought of more but these are my answers. I think it’s quite fun to quiz yourself sometimes, or interview yourself. It can be quite entertaining! 😉 I’m going to bullet point these instead of numbering, as they are not in order of importance.

Positive Memories from Childhood

  • Vacations. Our vacations were mainly taken to Florida and these were my favorite. Usually to Panama City or Daytona Beach. I loved everything about it. I took stuff to do in the car like reading, puzzle books, small toys or gadgets. I loved the places we got to go out to eat. I loved the water, looking for dolphins, swimming in the pool, and staring at the ocean, the boats, and walking on the beach.
  • Pool Days. Mom and Dad had friends that managed an apartment complex and on Thursday’s if it wasn’t raining, we would get up early, clean house, pack our bags, and lunch and head to our friends house, who had a big long house amidst the apartments in Columbia,TN and was beside the apartment complex’s pool. (For those in Columbia, it was the Colonial House Apartments on Nashville Hwy). In the younger days, my grandfather sometimes took me to the KOA campground. One time I got sick from it though, some type of virus or flu, and we never went back, until I had a friend whose family camped out there and then I went again!
  • Christmas. Christmas was always special, a magical time. First the decorations. Coming home and seeing the tree all decorated and then the house. Everyone seemed happy and the momentum built both at home and at school for THE BIG DAY. I usually got to “put in my order” for Santa which would show up under the tree. And the gifts were so special. I loved having Mam-ma come in to stay. She brought fudge too. Someday I’ll do a blog entry about Christmas Day as a child. It pretty much happened the same way every year. I could do a whole post on this one. Maybe I will one day.
  • Breakfast on the Back Porch. It’s funny and only fitting that this would pop up as one of my first top 5 that I thought of: FOOD! I loved our outside family porch time. It was rare and different. I mean usually it’s too hot or too cold, too rainy, but some days the weather landed just perfectly outside. We had a top on the patio. And mom would fix bacon, eggs, toast, or biscuits, jam and molasses and butter, juice, cantaloupe a lot of times. I think it’s why I love breakfast so much. It was like a little celebration for weekends and holidays and down time.
  • Going out to eat with church friends. Our entire family would go out to eat after church with other families. The adults would sit at the table with adults and the kids would eat at their own table. We would laugh and talk and be silly. This happened mostly every Sunday and Wednesday night. It was always something I looked forward to.

My Worst Memories from Childhood

  • Tension in the household. Every household has it, some worse than others. Some for different reasons than others. Some on certain occasions. I think mainly the things I remembered were just daily being afraid I’d do something wrong to make someone yell at me, or slap me, or whip me. I was yelled at a lot, slapped at much less, but it was something you never forgot. I was in a very strict household, where everything had its place, everyone had their jobs, and everything went in a certain direction, and on a pretty much set schedule. Work always came first, play second. (That is not bad though!) Often there were certain raised voices in the household and it when it came toward me it made me nervous and anxious and afraid and I would cry. As I grew into a teen and began to exercise my own voice and opinion, it could be volatile and very explosive at times. I learned to keep a lot of things to myself so nothing would explode. The less said, the better. It was what it was. I am what I am. And while I won’t go into detail about it, I DO KNOW I WAS LOVED and I do think they were doing the best they knew to do to try and FORCE things to be a certain way. Some things just can’t be forced to be effective I guess. But that said, our home was mostly safe, secure, happy many days, as long as you kept your thoughts to yourself. :-). Maybe that is why I’m so quiet and introverted huh?
  • Mowing. I hated mowing. Well I liked it if it weren’t so dreaded hot when it needed to be done. I didn’t have to do it all the time but sometime I was asked to do it or told to do it and it was all fun til I would realize I was too hot. I would come in, drink ice water and lay across the bed to recover from nausea and just being overheated. Today I look back and think gosh – I mowed mid day sometimes and it was 90 something and it’s a wonder those times weren’t heat exhaustion.
  • Not getting to be in the band or play piano. I wanted a piano and wanted to learn to play so bad. I thought it was so pretty. But we couldn’t afford a piano. Then in junior high when the teachers told us about the band, I wanted to sign up so I could learn to play the flute. I thought it sounded so pretty. But Mom talked me out of it as I guess she had a bad experience. However, I watched my friends join, enjoy it, and had amazing experiences from it. I always feel like I missed out on that. I love music. I would have loved learning the scales and the new songs. It was an avenue I never got to explore until one day when I bought a keyboard. But then life happened and so I never really got to “go down that road” during my learning and formative years. Well, they bought me a guitar, but I just really didn’t have the desire to play it like I did the piano or flute.
  • No one believed I needed glasses. I remember while talking the neighbors next door, we did what kids do – “hey let me try on your glasses”. I was shocked at how much better I could see. I told Mom but she felt like I was just wanting to be trendy like my neighbors and didn’t believe me. Until the teacher sent home a note that I failed my eye glass test at school. I was having to pull my eyes sideways to read the chalkboards. I could always see when I did that. My grandparents took me to the eye doctor and to pick up my glasses. I will never ever forget being able to see the leaves on the trees. Everything had detail instead of just being blobs!
  • Getting lectured. One parent liked to yell, the other lectured. lol. And they were long drawn out explanatory with bullet points and outlines and pretty much a complete sermon or talk series. It went on and on long after I had gotten the points. I remember wanting to dig a hole or just be able to go do something else but I had to sit and listen – I’m guessing they lasted from 15 min to an hour. I’m not saying it was bad or good or was needed or not needed. I just remember not liking it. lol

So all of these things – again – not saying they are good or bad, not trying to bring judgment upon anyone. I just simply sat down to do an exercise and this came from it. I’m sure there were probably many good things I should have remembered first and I’m sure there were probably more horrible things that happened that I should have remembered also, but both sets of bullet points were truly the first things that came to mind! So they must have made an impression.

It is what it is. It is what it was. EVERY FAMILY has had its good days and bad days. Ours was no exception. What would YOUR childhood list of the “first fives” look like? What did you like or dislike about your childhood?

Other Updates

I had the best lunch yesterday from Santa Fe. It was their enchilada meal. My boss went out for take out and she asked me if I wanted something. So I got this meal and gave her the $ for it. Oh I’ll have to get this again. Nothing fattening about it huh? lol

I’m so glad this morning to have been able to sleep in a couple of hours. I’m about to dive into laundry, a shower, breakfast, more coffee, and fall decorating.

What are you all doing today?

Meanwhile in Texas

Awwww, I feel for my daughter in this moment. Bitter Sweet it is. He’s taking formula now that they are back to a busy schedule with jobs and summer over. And he is learning to eat table food and had been on baby food for a while. It’s hard to leave each stage behind, but in other ways it’s a relief. On to new stages, new ways, and new details to manage. It’s a beautiful process. It’s hard work. But so worth the time and effort and patience to raise a well rounded, patient, persevering, spiritual minded, mindful and productive human being. Love that little River Roo! And my daughter for the lovely person she has become. Katy is a good Mom and Cody is a good Dad. And they love their little Chunky Monkey!

Ya’ll have a wonderful day and I’m going to set about mine!

How to Set Alerts with WordPress

Ok so I took some “screen shots” of my phone to share regarding the WordPress Alerts. I also looked to see if it was something I had accidentally clicked to say “no alerts” but there was nothing I did or changed. It looks like the alerts are controlled in the Readings settings. You can elect to have it show in WordPress “Reader” if you would like. Or you can sign up for the email alerts. Depending on what you have elected and what your settings are.

Check your Word Press Settings

Check Your “Spam/Junk Mail” if You Follow by Email and Make Sure you are Allowing Word Press Alerts

It would be easy to accidentally cut off your alerts if you told WordPress not to send any more alerts because you got a stray ad that you sent to the spam list or you sent it junk mail. I’m sure they probably send you OTHER emails from time to time and perhaps you surpassed those not thinking that it would end the blog alerts too. So you might check up on that.

If you get alerts on your phone, it could be that those are not coming through if you had changed your settings. You could have everything set up perfectly on WordPress but if you told your phone not to allow the apps alerts, that could do it.

Or You Can Try These

I am so sorry you all are having problems with your alerts. I hope this helps. I sure like getting your comments! It seems we are having an increase in traffic with new people arriving and following. But I don’t usually get many comments. I did make it easier to comment though so hopefully that helps with that. I just hope your alerts are fixed. Keep me updated!

Sneak Peeks of Our New Flooring Giving a Farmhouse Feel

I was on pins and needles all day. I watched them arrive after getting an alert on my phone from the camera that someone was at the front door. They unloaded supplies and worked fast. They got way more done than I expected. They still have to do the foyer, part of the den, and do the quarter round and the transitions. I’m over the moon thrilled. I was so afraid when I got home and pulled in. I was very nervous “what did it look like and would I like it, would the grey just not work with the other colors”. I was fairly confident in my decision but what if they had laid it sideways or something, lol. You know me and my worries! So I walked in and was just absolutely FLOORED! Sorry, had to say that. I absolutely LOVE IT.

Of course I’ll do before and after pics (I took some before pics even though they were messy, lol). But once we get things back in place I will do proper shots but just wanted to share what we have so far. All the furniture still moved to the middle til they get the edges done.

So carpets will be put down next Wed in the bedrooms. So we will have to move some things (Nic Nacs and other items that are on top of the furniture) this weekend. It’s going to be a VERY busy weekend. But we also have Mon night and Tues night too for final things to be moved.

All in all it’s been an easier process than I thought. That said we DID work hard to get a lot of things moved, but spread out over a few days, we managed it.

I’m super excited to start putting our house back together once it is finished.

Blog Milestones and “VLOGGING Plans”

Well, the blogging milestones are happening! I had a notice I had a lot more traffic than usual and I have also had a lot of new followers. The blog is growing. I appreciate all of you who come and read this daily or every few days. Several of you engage with me with your comments and I really like that most of all. It makes the blog worth doing. I really started blogging to park my feelings, to document our life, and to meet the need that I have to write. I begun to learn to share my life and open up to the world all the details of my day. And in sharing the things I experience and do. Some things we struggle with. Some things we excel at. Some things we experiment with but all the while learning and growing – and if not – accepting, LOL! So once again thanks for reading, and I wonder how many blog posts I’ve done in my life as a whole? I have had several blogs in the past. Blogging has been a consistent activity in my life.

And now we are VLOGGING and that is a whole ‘nother animal that I’m loving even though I don’t have time for it. And with Mom here I’ve not done any filming in the house. There’s just too much happening, not much time, too much trouble to set up the lighting, but…..I can still do some videos of this summer because we have had some excursions and lots of photos even if I just do some voice overs. It’s all gonna be fine. But I am looking forward to being able to film in the house again around October and will order my ring lighting soon and plan to ask for a lighting ensemble for Christmas (umbrella diffuser and such – a kit I found on Amazon that is phbbbbth – very inexpensive.) So once things get a little more settled I’ll begin using the camera again and setting up some scenes. I just figure Momma doesn’t want to be in the videos – it’s kind of a George and Sonya thing. So excited and looking forward to that once “the coast is clear”! lol But….no worries, I’ll still be doing videos of some sort just none with me in the house much. Can’t wait to get cranking on the next one once we get the house settled. That is first priority now so we can LIFE FUNCTION in the house!

Books I’m Reading

This one I’m almost finished. It is going to be a movie! I have 3 hours left in my audio book. I love a good audio book where you can’t wait to get in the car and drive to work, lol.

I started reading this one. I read the first couple of chapters a few weeks ago. My friend Judy gave me the book so I was wanting to get a feel for it. It sounded intriguing. Last night after eating pizza I had an hour before bedtime and we sat in the living room and read since the den sofa was not available for sitting and TV watching. I read quite a few chapters. The chapters are short and I like that. I end up reading more and even reading more often when I know there is a quick break. It pulls me in b/c I think “oh I’ll just read a quick chapter”.

It’s different, and I think it’ll be really good. It is so far.

I’m also still reading the Bible. And it’s amazing how every time I read it through, I get different things from it or learn something new. I think the most important thing is that when YOU read it through YOURSELF as a book, YOU LEARN the NATURE of GOD. A lot of the questions you have about life, are answered here within these pages, not only with the words that are written but with God’s spirit that guides. The words speak to you. His Word is ACTIVE and ALIVE. “The Word was God and the Word was With God” comes to mind as I said that!

I read TWO Chapters a Day. I actually do a prayer journal after my shower and along with my cup of coffee. I thank God for all the things the day before. Blessings and what He helped me with. I also let Him know my worries and concerns and ask for help for the day I’m in or upcoming big events that are warping my mind with worry. I pray for family. I ask for needs too. Then I close the prayer and begin reading my 2 chapters. This all usually takes 15 minutes maybe less. Two chapters is not much but it allows you to SCOOT through the Bible pretty quickly. I may not finish in a year’s time but it’s fairly quick considering that all the years of my life I’ve only read it through twice. Oh sure I’ve studied it here and there a LOT but just reading it as a book – only in my 2nd time. But this time I’m reading the chapters backwards. You know me and my silly ways. It’s actually been nice to do that.

I’m also still reading one of the Deadliest Catch people’s books. I’m just having a hard time with that one. They are bragging about how “bad” they are and all the stunts they pulled. I guess I had hoped for a more genuine book about the trade and not so much about all the wild personal things the guys did. Anyway, I am going to give it one more shot as I’m half way through.

I grabbed a hold of what I thought was my key chain yesterday and pulled out Roger’s collar. 😦 Things hit you at the strangest times. We had named him “Pumpkin” and then haphazardly after tossing names at him just for fun discovered his name was “Roger” or “Dodger” as he would answer to that. So we inscribed Roger above Pumpkin. Katy always got irritated that we changed the name after she would name a pet. lol. She originally named Tugie “Sandy” b/c she was the color of sand. But the little thing was so cute I kept calling it “Sugar in baby talk and it came out “Tugie”. And she began answering to that. I couldn’t quit calling her that. So we officially named her Katy’s Sandy Tugie on the poodle registration. But called her Tugie. I miss my little Tugie, and my Maisy and my Roger.

So now we have dog friendly flooring and don’t own a dog. But….you know me and my plans. Not this year…maybe not next year (or if so after a trip or two) but 2023 could be the year. We’ll see. I don’t think I have ever planned anything two years out except for graduating from college, ha!

Well better head in to work. It’s Friday and I’m so excited. I was able to get most of the quarter end stuff out of the way. Only two returns I’m working on – one of them is paid already but the information I was given was incorrect so I’m filing an adjusted return. The same state on the transport side of the business, the numbers are not working out either, so that one needs to be resolved today. I’m not sure what the deal is with that but suspect the numbers I’ve been given are wrong – maybe didn’t have the right allowable base or something – it’s unemployment taxes. So I’ve asked my boss to look at where the numbers are coming from in the transport system. Anyway, no work tomorrow. I don’t think I’d be able to anyway as we have to put our house back together this weekend so we can function. I was able to shower this morning but had to squeeze by closet doors that were leaning against the shower stall. lol

Ya’ll have a good weekend. Back later…..