Sadness, Moving Things Around, and Decorating for Christmas

My bedroom is back together and the cat is back in his weekend winter spot. I had been missing Maisy and Roger yesterday as they would lay and watch us decorate and flit about the house. It just especially hit me yesterday. My shoe rack is back together and no longer in two baskets of piles where I couldn’t find anything. Now I need to locate my other winter things downstairs that includes my scarves so I can put them out in the basket on top of the shoes. I’ve missed them last week. I could have used them on those 20 degree mornings we had.

I now have two drawers of pajamas! I can fit them all in. Not shown is the 1st drawer. I have more winter PJ’s coming – likely in the same tub as the scarves. I have to locate them in the basement storage unless George brought them up already. They may be in the kitchen. There’s a tub of clothes in there. But I had to stop working on clothes to get the Christmas done. I’m only about half way through considering the tree is not done yet. It seems we are always having to buy a string of lights. The middle section of the tree never wants to work on any prelit tree we seem to have. So we have to buy more and it’ll have to be today because I need to get the tree done today. We go back to work tomorrow.

My sock drawer is back, complete with section of Christmas socks and one bathing suit in case we go to a heated pool or hot tub in the winter time. It’s rare but possible.

I listened to Christmas Cafe Jazz on YouTube- just a pretty scene filled with beautiful Christmas music. I listened while decorating and moving stuff around.

Mid-day we took Mom some Turkey and Dressing and other leftovers and the rest of her clothes. George had to check a fuse. A fuse had “tripped” or whatever that meant on one side of her cabinets. I don’t know what would make that happen. But I guess it was an easy reset.

She wanted us to put her clothes we took over on her bed. She was going to put them up later in the day. It took us about 5 trips with the two of us to bring them all in. We had two complete car loads again. I think there are a few more things downstairs but mainly yard critters, some videos, and we’ll just have to go through and move things around as we straighten the basement and make sure we took everything over.

I had tears while putting up Christmas. Just so many emotions. First, I miss the love of my Maisy dog who loved me unconditionally. I am also upset that I couldn’t get Mom’s house put together more for her with the time we had the past few weeks. It was just the weirdest move ever. The boxes went in before the furniture making it very difficult to unpack. I had thought the last out items from the old house would be the first in. If we had done it that way it would have been easier on the unpackers (mainly me). But it was first out (all the unneeded items) and first in to the new house which meant we were accessing and unpacking a lot of boxes that were not needed. There are so many boxes and so many of the needed boxes have been on the bottom or where we can’t get to them and many of them heavy. George moved boxes around two or three times trying to find things. We still don’t have her TV hooked up and can’t find the remotes.

Since Mom can’t do much, everything totally falls upon us. I saw a Facebook post yesterday indicating she had made a mistake by moving. I think that is because so many things are still in boxes and she has downsized (well the space has) but her things have not much other than furniture. But with her statement on Facebook It makes those of us who have worked so hard to please her, feel bad. However, she didn’t have anyone to take care of her in Columbia as she and my sister quarreled and had a falling out and my sister has set a boundary with her to never see her again. So she gets no care from that side of the family. Mom would not hear of assisted living as an option, which I can see now would have been the best of options seeing that she is winded just getting up out of the chair and moving three feet. But it is what it is. There are just some facts that can’t change. And a big one is that it was her decision and we have all worked hard to make it come true. It’s a beautiful place and once we get the place together it’ll be recognized, one can hope. But there are only three of us trying to work on it and Mom can’t do much, and now I am paying for it with being out of line and I am having to quit lifting so much. Although I don’t seem to be doing a good job of it. Last night I was in so much pain with my rotator cuff and back that I had to take Tylenol and put a heating pad on my neck. Jaw still not right and will go to doc when we are back from our trip. I just don’t have time this week. I can open my mouth wide now but there is this one section of my jaw that is hung and will not open up.

There are a few facts that cannot be changed.

  1. We can’t and won’t be there 24/7. We are trying to accommodate the best we can. But we don’t and can’t give 100% of our time.The move details are going to take a while to sort out. We knew it wasn’t going to be overnight.
  2. It took several weeks to move out of her old house. It’s the same moving in and setting up.
  3. It takes patience and resolve – which are things both Mom and I – I get it honest – are not very good at. We want it and we want it fixed right now.
  4. She knows where she wants things. I don’t. When I try to ask where things go she doesn’t know yet. I get it. Somethings she just has to figure out.
  5. The most important thing to remember is that: This was her decision.

I think George is going over there for a few things today. After sleeping I can’t remember what for, but maybe something for the TV or the rails. Not even sure. My mind is all over the place. But she has some mail and a flash light and some things he is taking over today. He suggested I stay here at the house and do what I need to get done being that today is our last day to get Christmas up and my winter clothes out and finish our laundry.

We also have to pack for our trip that we go on later in the week. Also Lowe’s has not called about the dishwasher we just had to buy and paid for install. It’s been two days. But I understand it’s been a holiday weekend and all and things are not normal. I figure they will call on Monday.

Mom was nice to buy a tank of gas for me yesterday. I had to stop and get gas. It does not take long for the gas to go when I’m driving to Nashville every day and then several trips to Lebanon in the other direction. So I appreciated that. She has taken us out to eat numerous times too in the last month and I appreciate that.

So today’s agenda:

  • Finish Putting Christmas out
  • Obtain Christmas lights and get that figured out. (I hate having to add the lights. I hate that part with a passion. And it makes me in a horrible mood.). Mood gets better when putting the ornaments on.
  • Moving my summer clothes over from the coat closet to the office closet
  • Moving the coats back up to the coat closet
  • Looking at this week’s to do list
  • Redoing my vitamins for the week
  • Putting a few things on the iPhone to do list
  • Changing George’s sheets – bless his heart I think it’s been 3 weeks.
  • Find my winter clothes container
  • Begin packing for trip – no more off days til then
  • Wash dishes
  • Fix eggs for breakfast
  • Wash 2 to 3 more loads of clothes
  • Vacuum
  • Watch a show mid-day with pop corn when I get tired
  • Might stop for an hour late afternoon and work on the iMovie and drink coffee when my back starts to hurt and my energy wanes.
  • I’m sure there’s more stuff but I am not sure what it is.

I did some Christmas shopping at 1:30 a.m. night before last – it’s kinda the only time I have had. I have asked God to help me and I think he wakes me mid morning to shop. lol. Mom also needs some things to be ordered. Once the move started it has been hard for us to sit down together and do it. She said she would try to send me the link. Or at least a picture.

I got a full night’s sleep last night of 8.5 hours. That was nice. I am a little stiff this morning but at least not in pain. The icy hot also was a quick remedy.

The alerts seem to be working for some of you and I have one person saying theirs is not working via email. It’s the strangest thing. I wonder if it is sending to trash or junk? Maybe it’s a sign, lol! It will need to be on the safe list. I need to sign up for my own blog with another email address and see if that works for me, lol, so I know if I get it or if I don’t.

So I’m off to it this morning. This big long list. What all are you doing today?

Where are the White Plates? And Watching a Girl’s Vlog from the North Pole

Just a quick weee word this morning as I am giving myself the gift of sipping a full cup – maybe two – of coffee before we set into the day. George had announced he is going “yard sailing” first this morning. So that buys me more time. I went to bed at 8 and woke up around 2:30 and was awake for an hour. Then back to sleep until 7. Seems to be a habit sometimes. I played with widgets on the iPhone checking to see if there were new ones and rearranged my apps so I could get to my “tasks” on the first Home Screen much easier and played around with my watch face and settings so it shows up there. Eventually my eyes got heavy and I laid down again. I was cold. The front moved through so I reached for the extra throws at the bottom of my bed and went into a warm cocoon and sleep found me again until almost 7.

Yesterday, when I woke up, I think I mentioned that Mom was on overdrive. She must have been up in the wee morning hours herself planning and thinking and released loads of her plans and ideas upon us before we could hardly even wake up. There’s no problem with having plans and ideas. I have a few of my own as does George. I had lists upon lists to try not to forget anything.

I put a few items we needed for the day in the car. I was told to get the vacuum. I did. I got the Swiffer mop so we could get the dust off Mom’s floors from last weekend when we moved things in and had construction dust from the road on our feet with no welcome mat to rub feet on. And a few other things I tossed in the car for the day at Mom’s.

So we went to Chic Filet first b/c it was bout 9:30 and I needed food. Mom was game. The line was long but went by pretty fast. We had to back track to Lowe’s. I knew it was going to take a while because 1) We had a return 2) We had to see the appliance department for a 4 prong plug. 3) Lowe’s is a huge place and we had a few items we needed 4) Mom can’t walk fast nor far so it would be a slow go with her using a buggy as a walker.

And a long time it took and we bought two outside welcome mats and 3 inside rugs by the doors. So that is two layers of mats before entrance. The “wipe your paws” is cute and she immediately found rugs that she liked for the inside ones so that was a success. We had to wave someone down for a price. Not one anywhere.

The appliance guy was always busy or gone whenever we came through each time. About out of patience I called Lowe’s on my phone and told them we needed help in appliances. lol. They guy came pretty quickly. Mom asked for the plug and then we checked into what seemed like a line at Walmart on a Black Friday, complete with idiots who come in from the front and sneak in front of others to pay. One cashier and a line forming down through the store.

We get in the car to go, storms threatening, and begin to head to Mom’s. We didn’t get very far when Mom announced she got the wrong plug. She said she had asked for three prong instead. So I turned around and waited at some red light that seemed to be about 8 minutes long. I’m sure it was more like 4 or 5. I got back to Lowe’s and Mom locked the car before I could open the back. lol. I had to dig my keys back out and unlock – I’m not even sure what all she was rattling off about locking the car back or something in the front but I ignored it til I could check the prongs. I checked and it was correct. She got the right thing. So that delayed us about 15 minutes but we got back in the car and then I had gooooooooo! You know. We were supposed to stop at the model house to pick up her mail box keys. But knowing that NOTHING is quick these days I told Mom we’d have to go back to the model house after I went potty! lol So we went to Mom’s and then went back to the model house to pick up the mail box keys and then to her mail box and YES the keys worked. We can get her mail now.

Then back to her house where Mom did the Swiffer Mop across the floors and I put down all her rugs we bought. I finished putting up the utensils and washed the silverware. Mom had decided she wanted the shelving spacing changed in the kitchen cabinets so everything I did the other day had to come back out. But it will help her to be able to reach another shelf – we think. So I redid all that. George arrived and helped with the corner cabinet as it was deep and even on the ladder, I could not reach the peg with enough force to be able to pull and push on it. Got that done and dishes back in.

So we cannot find Mom’s white every day dishes. There are still some boxes we have not been able to get to. So all we can find are boxes and boxes that say “china”, lol. Anyway. George set up her bedroom areas with furniture in them and it works. Mom was excited it would fit. But she has to do some fancy footwork figuring to get queen beds on reg frames, by extenders or something like that. I may work for a mattress company but that is not my forte. And I don’t want to be blamed if something goes wrong so I’m staying out of it. And George bless his heart, has just tried to follow her orders and ends up right in the middle of it. She told him to give away her good mattress not realizing it. Somehow things got switched or she couldn’t see. He reminded her that he had asked her every time and followed her directions when she tried to place blame on him. Soon this will all be over.

We have most of her dishes set for every day but the plates themselves. George devised a plan to put all the bubble wrapped pics in the guest room and we could move boxes against the wall for retrieval as we went through each one. We found the dessert plates and a few coffee cups but there should be another box in there somewhere of white plates.

Mid day I had stopped to eat the fruit that came with my chicken mini’s. It was lunch. We got there around 10 or so and pushed through lunch. The cooler air felt good. The rain had arrived just as we got in there. Mom said God was watching over us as it rained REALLY hard at times. I said “yeah I can hear the rain” and she said “no that’s the fan”, lol. You couldn’t hear the rain at all from the inside. The rain had gone by the time I ate the fruit.

You can see the beginnings of construction to the houses behind her. We met a couple named Mark and Lisa from Indiana I think or was it Illinois? Not sure. They are one of the houses or villas to the left. We’ve met several neighbors and have heard of some we haven’t met yet – like the two sisters that live one in one villa and one on the other villa next to each other. Everyone is really nice and most are around Mom’s age. I think the people next to Mom are younger. But not sure. So far so good.

Eventually I suggested that we go and eat an early Cracker Barrel. It was less crowded than usual but still pretty busy. We had to wait in line but not long for a table and it took a while for the food to come out, but it was so good. We must have looked like we’d not eaten in months. lol I ordered the “steak and 3”. I’ve never ordered steak at Cracker Barrel. But it sounded good and it was. I had pintos, potatoes, and fried okra for my veggie sides. It came with muffin and a biscuit. I was so hungry I ate every bite except I gave Mom a couple of bites of steak for Fancy dog.

Anyway, we came home and watched what I keep calling as the North Pole Girl. I’ve shared an embed before, but I’ve decided to watch her YouTube’s from start to current. So it was fun to grab a blanket and sit on the sofa all cozy and watch what life is like at the North Pole. A perfect end to a very busy move set up day.

Today George and I are dropping Mom off to work in the new house – she has clothes to work on. And he and I are going to get my new iPhone ordered (one of my Christmas gifts) and the police report (finally). And I told him we could have sushi for lunch if he wanted since Mom is taking her lunch today to the house. So his eyes got big at that. And then we will head over and help Mom some and then head home. At some point this weekend I’ll need to be here long enough to get some laundry done. But anyway we will see what we get done today.

I decided to blog instead of work on vlogging. The vlog sucks me in – the blogs do too but I think the blogging takes less time. My family may argue that point but wouldn’t dare, lol.

Ya’ll have a good day today. Hope your Friday is a good one.

Vietnamese and Thai Food, Appliances Purchase, and Challenge Update

Surprise! I’m here this morning! I just wanted to pop in with a few updates. We are very excited that we were able to get Mom to Lowe’s and she ordered her fridge and washer and dryer. The fridge arrives Saturday the 13th and the Washer and Dryer on Dec 1. Not bad in today’s world. She was able to get the ones she wanted for the most part. She bought a fridge like ours that has the little see through door that opens up within the big fridge door. She was happy! I will have to do her laundry for a couple of weeks.

We were going to come home and have hot dogs but George suggested we go out for Pho as we’d not taken Mom out to try Vietnamese food. In Mom’s head, I know she was thinking “Good Grief” and she admitted she wasn’t sure when she saw the place. But I suggested the Orange Chicken and it was perfect for her. She loved it.

So the place had nice relaxing music and a nice little vibe. The decor seemed to say “Happy Everything” as it was decorated with Halloween, Fall, and Christmas, and they admittedly said they had decor left over from Valentine’s Day sitting around. lol. The food was excellent. George and I got a Singha Beer from Bangkok.

We had several appetizers including the egg roll or spring rolls and chicken satay. This place had both Vietnamese and Thai food.

It was all delicious. And they do an amazing amount of take out. There was a constant stream of people picking up to go orders. I ordered a ginger salad, because I love them so. Their lettuce was the freshest I’ve seen anywhere in a long time. I also selfishly had ordered hot green tea also. I drank both my beer and the tea and loved it! ;-). Better than getting a 2nd beer right?

Can’t you just see the freshness of this lettuce? That was really good to see. I’m so tired of bad lettuce. Things are taking longer to ship and the store’s goods are just horrible these days. So I’m not sure what their secret is, but I loved it. I could eat there every night. I would have Ginger Salad and Pho or Chicken Satay or Orange Chicken, lol. Every night! I had a bite of Mom’s and it was awesome! We must go back soon!

Here was my Pho. It has rice noodles, chicken, scallions, red onion, probably basil and bok choy. I couldn’t eat it all. The broth was an amazingly good flavor. The waitress said we got the last of the Pho last night.

It was a happy place.

We needed happy.

Back home, with our first freeze of the season at 30 degrees F, George put Little Bit’s box on the front porch. He was in it when we got home, lol. It’s not the most pleasant looking thing on a front porch but he will be warm there. Don’t worry, when it gets much below freezing he comes inside and stays in our basement which is probably 50 ish to 60’s as it gets heat from the house. The box is a little dusty it seems. Or maybe it’s the shadows/light. I didn’t notice that being that way last night. Anyway, it has a warm blanket inside. I need to put another one over that one though b/c I think he will get his claws stuck in the threads of this one. I need a thin little baby blanket or something to put over this one. We’ll get him fixed up.

Mid-Week Update

Traffic was horrible yesterday. I’m not sure why. I was running behind and hopped on the interstate. I got to work by 8 – barely – but it was very slow. I really enjoy the back roads but if in a hurry I have to go the interstate as it shaves off about 10 to 15. Sometimes the back ways can be slower than normal but I just enjoy the more pleasant pace of the back streets. I don’t have to worry about as much.

So today is my Friday. I’m off tomorrow for the closing. We have a full day lined up. We have to go sign up for the water – that was the only thing Mom has to do in person. And I need to go get my police report from where someone stole my identity. They are only open during the hours I’m at work so I have to go do that. And Mom will have a few errands. We need to get our plan on tonight so we don’t have any problems tomorrow about what the plan is – if you know what I mean.

We also brought the grout sealer for her backsplash and also for the granite. And we got the shelving paper. So I’m sure we will start on those things first. Snoksred suggested the chair – not to forget it til the furniture arrives. Thank you! Yes, we will need to go put that in my trunk tonight. TWO chairs, and maybe a little cooler with water. We also have to program our own house keys and we have to figure that out. I’ve never in my life seen such a thing. There is a tool you use and put the key in the door and program it to the lock. So how do we know someone has not already done this and has a set? Weird. And where are those garage door openers that were missing? Can someone get in now? Or will they be reprogramming the new set? I have no idea how that works! But what if some construction worker our there still has the openers and can get in?

Also anxious to see the place with the grass added. I’ll be sure to take pics in the upcoming days with our progress.

Garnishments Process at Work

Work is coming together with me getting month end done. I only have two or three more states to do. And I need to work on garnishments today that have come in. I never get garnishments unless it is a busy time for me. Then it’s like someone turned on the magnet – “hey Sonya’s busy, lets send all the garnishments now”. lol. They take a while to set up as there are a lot of components since we do our own payroll. The employee gets a copy, you usually have to respond to the company or agency, you set up some of them in excel if it’s a true garnishment and you do a percentage. If it’s child support, it’s good b/c usually you can set it up as a deduction to come out every week, but a lot of ours have to be figured as a percentage with EACH payroll. So I have garnishment tabs on each person. Also you have to keep up with their balances so you know when to stop the garnishment. So I have a tab for that too. Then I have tabs for the actual “cover sheet” that goes with the check showing what the garnishment is covering so the agency knows who the check is for. I also have a little half sheet cover sheet with the A/P code that I use when I run the actual garnishment checks. I have to enter it in the A/P system every Thursday to create the checks. So I have to set up the garn agency as a vendor in the system before I can even do the check run. And I have to put work sheet reminders in the plant payroll folder so I actually remember to figure the deduction and enter it in the system for the employee’s with percentages. After payroll I go in and zero it out so I can start over the next week. There is a lot to it but I have the system down. Then of course after payroll I have to do a reconciliation spreadsheet to make sure what comes out of payroll is matching what I’m sending on the checks and for TN I actually have some that I pay online. If it’s one child I pay on line. If they have three to five different child support payments to varying custodial parents I usually have to do during payroll because it’s certain percentages of the total that go to each parent, up to a certain amount. Anyway it’s all very detailed. I think I have two or three new garnishments to set up today.

Growing To Do List.

So I have quite a to do list of itty bitty things that need to be done. Last week was carefree at home as I working on Quarter End but this week it’s all built up and now I don’t have time to do any of it LOL:

  • Order Christmas things on line that Katy wanted
  • Change George’s sheets
  • Work on Christmas Planning (what the heck to get everyone?)
  • Update my Apple Watch. It won’t do the last update for some reason and it says it should when I look online. But I’ve not had time to reboot the watch. So maybe I will try that.
  • I think Mom has some internet orders she wants me to do.
  • Finish the next video before I do the upgrade the Mac to Monterey. I don’t think it’s any big deal.
  • I kinda want to go to good will and look for more jeans. I don’t want to spend a fortune on new ones!
  • Audible credit is out – need to download another book
  • Need to update my wellness company order with some changes
  • Want to make whole grain bread. Just something I want to try. 😉 I bought the flour and we have the yeast. But ain’t nobody got time for that these days.

Challenge Update

I had to give up making check marks on my sheet for my challenge. It’s all pretty much engrained into my head what I need to do. It’s just been too busy to keep up with the check lists. I’d get two or three days behind. I quit actually tabulating my ounces of water. I would try but by afternoon just had to quit trying to keep up with it. Too much else in life. But I did it long enough to engrain it in my head. I think the goals will stick strong. I won’t be perfect at it but at least I’m significantly better and more disciplined at water, movement, helping others, not eating dessert every night but stretching it out to 5 to 7 days at least. The hard part has been embracing Whole Foods. And that is mainly b/c I live with other people, who don’t or I allow stress and time to blur what is important. But I try to make as good of a decision as I can. It’s been a wonderful challenge despite those that have joked by saying I’m a cheater or tried to sabotage the efforts in some way. Most of those folks who have done that, do not seem to have any desire to improve their own situation in such manner so it makes it easy for them to jab at me who does want to improve and quite frankly, has improved! I’m proud of myself for taking it on and for improving 50 to 75% in many areas! Yay me! lol I will celebrate my efforts. The challenge is NOT over yet. Quite frankly – it’s a challenge to develop good habits so it’s kind of a funny thing – it just sort of morphs itself into reality. I mean why would I want to go backward and stop doing these things? But I can see where some challenges especially if you are doing some specific things like “no sugar” or “studying a certain subject for a period of time” would not go on forever. So anyway, I’m calling the challenge a success and kicking the checklist to the curb. I like the rules I created for myself and I’ll stick with them. But I am going to do another improvement challenge in 2022. It will be little more specific and targeted. And that will truly be a 55 day challenge from beginning to end.

And so now I’ll probably be back Saturday morning since I blogged today. I’ll let you know how closing went and what all we are up to in getting her ready to move in.