Thursday Went Missing, Getting My Crown, and Mom’s Declining Health

So, something happened a couple of weeks ago. Thursday went missing. lol. It’s aggravating when things start to disappear. But my life has been in somewhat of a shuffle this month. I always take good care of things and try so hard to put things back where they go so they don’t get lost. I keep my pill case in my work bag. At work, I always take my meds for the morning and then toss the pill box back to my work bag and the next morning when I get the new one out of the case I put the old one (yesterday’s) back in the case. Well I had other things in my work bag too, including a box of Triscuit crackers and other things.

I told George I’d lost Thursday. It was kinda funny. I just had used a baggy for the pills in hopes it would show up. Well it did.

I got a text from George that said. I found Thursday. It was in the Triscuit box. lol lol

So you are looking at my pill box and wonder what all those pills are? No problem.

I only take one Rx and that is for blood pressure. I’ve refused Metformin and other drugs. I chose to just eat better and take supplements and exercise more. I have a physical tomorrow and we’ll see how I do. Still prefer not to put a lot of chemicals in my body but I’m ok with supplements and vitamins. I have found a mix that finally work for me to aid me in staying as healthy as I can to avoid diverticulitis, lethargy, brain fog, moodiness, helps with heart issues, etc. Who knows if I’ve chosen well but I’ve come off the pricy multi-level marketing (MLM) vitamins and supplements that I liked, for a less expensive approach. I think I was getting overloaded with the MLM stuff anyway. It’s been confusing making the switch in the last year and a half, and who’s to say I won’t still mix things up from time to time.

Here is what goes in my pill box:

  • Rx for blood pressure
  • D3 – it’s just so important for regulating everything and women don’t get enough
  • Vitamin C is there because somedays I don’t get enough fresh fruit in. If I do I will leave it off.
  • Active B Complex – This has been vital for my emotional well being. If I get sad and moody – I probably need more veggies, greens, fruits, and B-Complex! If I don’t take this B Complex as a supplement I start having bad days.
  • Omega-3 – (Fish oil). I just recently started taking this for my heart as we don’t get enough fish in our diets. I really need to work at that. I used to eat a lot of salmon but it’s gotten expensive and the restaurants are different in the new area I work. I eat tuna fish but not near enough. This one has a vanilla taste and is much smaller of a pill to swallow. I first ordered some big honkers and had to give those to George as I was afraid I’d choke.
  • I have to take Calcium for my bones per doctors orders, but I don’t take near enough. I kinda felt like the calcium was blocking my blood pressure for working. I am only suspicious of that. But I try to take half of what he wanted me to at an alternate time of day from my Rx. I also try to eat mozzarella cheese or the lower fat cheese sticks, and I drink Glucerna “Snack” drinks periodically all in an effort for increase dairy with doing damage. We have been eating more sour cream though b/c some of it comes with Hello Fresh in making the drizzle over sauces. Might be good, might be bad.
  • And turmeric is supposed to be good for inflammation and several other things so I faithfully take it now.

I take some in the a.m and some in the afternoon, just to NOT take so much at once.

Also at night I have my probiotics and magnesium and then a couple of squirts of melatonin. For the most part these things tend to work.

Do you have certain supplements that you take? Let me know if you have found something that works well and why you like it.

Updates

So I got a crown at the dentist office Monday morning and was very impressed with their service and the crown itself. They brought a warmed blanket out. I’ve never had that before. And the technology was incredible. They had my tooth up on a 3 D screen and got it exact. I cannot tell the crown from my real tooth. It was so fascinating how they used graphics to do it. I wish I’d gotten a pic for the blog but my phone was in my purse across the room and I was under a warm blanket. They even provided dark glasses for over my regular glasses so the dentist light wouldn’t be in my eyes. Oh my gosh I love this dentist office. They also put on HGTV for me. Does your dentist do all that? Come move to Mount Juliet, just for the dentist, lol!

Monday night George fixed us a great meal! A good salad and then also the Hello Fresh meal as seen below. So good with the yogurt sauce. I forgot what it was called but it’s kindof a Greek dish. Hello Fresh always has good flavors and layers of flavor.

Also Monday night George and I had to go get my car. We had put it back in the shop (again) Sunday once we found someone that had a key/note drop off. Our favorite place had shut down. George had a half day Monday and the car was ready so he ran by and paid for it and then we went to pick it up Monday night.

Mom had asked every day since we borrowed it if we got the car fixed and/or if we brought the car back so it makes me uncomfortable borrowing it. I’m not sure if she is worried we are not going to bring it back or maybe she was just genuinely curious but every day she asks “did you bring my car back?” So I will be glad to get the car back over there so she won’t have to worry about it or ask about it every day, lol.

Mom’s ’bout with gout is back. Tuesday I get to work and about to start payroll and Mom calls and says she can’t walk at all that the gout is back and that she can’t feed Fancy or let her out and she needs me to come over after I do payroll. I told her I’d come at lunch so Fancy would not have to cross her legs. The dog uses paper most of the time but Mom lets her out some. Mom said not to come at lunch and admitted that she had been able to get the dog some dry food and let her out once already. She wanted me to come after payroll and not at lunch. She gave me a list of things to get at the grocery and added to it with texts during the day. She accidentally texted the neighbor to bring her cherry juice thinking she was texting me. So the neighbor brought cherry juice. lol She also asked me to stop and get her dinner. I called George and told him I’d be home for dinner eventually that I had to go do all that.

I ended up leaving around 3:15. I made good progress with payroll and did about three tax returns while waiting for our deposit to load to the bank. I only have two returns left. It broke my heart to have to pay penalties and late fees and interest fees yesterday, but when you don’t get the info in time you can’t do a month work of work in the last week of the month, so everyone has no choice but to live with the results. We had special circumstances I guess but still, it’s not how I like to do things. I like to get things done early and certainly by on time.

I went to Kroger and got Mom’s things and killed two birds with one stone by buying her baked chicken from the deli and it will take care of several meals for her. I got potato salad also and some kind of chicken salad with cranberry and pecan for her to eat for lunch and a pre made salad that has to be eaten in the next day or so. Hopefully this will get her taken care of til she can get around better. So I took care of the dog, fed her, put dirty dishes in the dishwasher, got her mail and she asked if I brought her car back, again. “No Mom when I left the house this morning I didn’t know I was coming over here so I’m in my car.”

Fancy’s eyes look swollen around the rim of her eye like she is allergic to something. Fancy looked rough yesterday. She will be to the vet soon.

The phone call yesterday has made George and I realize that assisted living is coming sooner rather than later. We have already known it would be a short stint in the house but if she keeps getting gout, which can do permanent damage if not put in control, she will be less likely to get around much. So we began talking about where do we go from here. George and I have to work still. We are not at the point of retiring and cannot just go and take care of Mom’s needs every day. I’ve said before we are not assisted living staff. The past few days have already been so stressful for me with everything going on: car, work crunch as QE is late and it’s already month end again, family birthday’s to prepare for, plans being made for this and that, and the dog, and Mom’s dog, and all of Mom’s needs stacking up. I’m about to lose my sanity. It’s just hard working FT and trying to deal with everything we have been dealing with. It’s times like these when I remember my sibling is out there living her best life hanging out on beaches, and not here to pitch in to help the mother that raised her. It’s her choice but I have to give it to God continually in prayer because I’m trying not to sin during these times when family needs to be supporting one another. My sister knew this was coming I guess I didn’t want any part of it. But God keeps telling me to take one day at a time. Otherwise I will end up unable to function. When I get overwhelmed to a point, I get paralyzed and can’t do anything and have to shut down for a day or two.

I immediately googled assisted living places near us. And George knows of an agency that helps you find a place for Mom. But he said it goes quickly. Once you sign up with them Mom would be in a place within 6 to 8 weeks. So I think it is time to start considering this. She is going to have to eat better. My guess is she is eating only starches and sugar and her body is reacting. She needs greens and fruits and grains (not white bread) and a balanced diet. But I think she reaches for unhealthy things and apparently doesn’t want to cook anymore. She is so addicted to sugar. Something really needs to drastically change because we can’t just get to work and be called to come take care of her. I already miss enough work as it is. This is not working for us. I don’t mind taking her things once or twice a week but we just can’t be there every time we get a call. This has all just been so much. I never dreamed things would be like this. With Dad dying, my sister taking off into the blue yonder and leaving us here to deal with this, and the time this would all take. I don’t mind helping – that is not the point. If I minded, I’d be on the beach too. But I’m doing my God given responsibilities but it is still overwhelming trying to get it all done. Time is the problem. I’m behind on everything in life. The older I get the more behind I get. Well at work I’m not the reason for the lateness, it’s because the numbers were not given to me in time but all the rest, it’s just because there is no time to cover it all.

We are also headed into the busy time of the year and that scares me. Of course we are and of course we will be stupidly and insanely busy again. So I am going to just have to rely on God to get me through these insecure times.

Today I have my physical at 7:00 a.m. I am sure my BP will be sky high. I’m behind at work and have all these appts this week. But it is what it is. I’m trying to be happy and take one day at a time.

Overnight I felt I was coming down with something. The dentist asst and dentist sounded like they had a cold, but they were wearing masks. I just felt really run down over night. I didn’t exercise this morning but rested instead as I sat under a quilt and sipped coffee. Anyway off to the doc and then to work and will check on Mom. Her foot was a little better but it hurt to walk on it. George said you can walk with gout but it is painful. I reminded him she had a lot more weight on her than he did.

Anyway, we’ll see how the rest of the week goes and where we go from here. But if things don’t change I think we are going to have to talk about assisted living where she can be assisted and fed three meals and have her needs taken care of. We just can’t wait on her like they can.

I’ve not forgotten that several of you asked for recipes of things cooked/fixed in my YouTube video. I have pulled the recipes and have them here and will get them posted in the next few days. I’ve run out of time today. :-).

Hello Weekend, Hello Fresh Notes, My Exercise Program, Alexa Pranks, Fish Oil, and Pet Search Notes

Photo by Daniela Constantini on Pexels.com

Yay! It’s Friday and we are setting upon a 3 day weekend. I thought the picture above reminded me of relax time. I usually don’t hang out in bed with tea and reading but I do have coffee in my office and journaling or reading chair. Sometimes I read at night before bed if there is time to do so without getting too far off my schedule. If I read too late I cannot get up on time in the a.m.

Well, usually there is not much to share when I’ve been working for 5 days and not a lot of down time. But I’ll share what I know.

Hello Fresh, Flautas with crema and pica de Gallo. Beans with extra flauta mixture and Corn were added.

Hello Fresh. I really have enjoyed the meals. I think George has too – other than the not having many seconds and he is closely wanting to monitor the costs as compared to if we fixed it ourselves. My guess is if I like it he will find fault with it. He often will take the opposite stance, I have found. So it is to be expected. I want to continue doing it though and we can stop it the weeks that he wants to cook other things since we can suspend it. Therefore an immediate compromise can be made should he not want to do it every week. He is inserting hints of “we’ll see it how it goes” now that I have raved over it.

Sometimes I think men don’t like for women to make decisions. He is used to being in the kitchen so I get it. And it puts insult to him and infringes on his grounds so to speak if I have glorified Hello Fresh and raved about it. He is a good cook too but it’s nice to have some different flavors and different types of dishes. I cooked 2 of the 3 Hello Fresh meals this week. Just because I ordered it doesn’t mean that I want to do ALL the cooking of the Hello Fresh. But I think that may be what he has in mind. As he mentioned “Aren’t you going to cook your Hello Fresh?” as if it were just my thing. And yes I involved him in the ordering of it.

He cooked Hello Fresh last night instead of me as I was working on video editing, so he then made the comment of we will see how the cost goes. Maybe it is just a cost thing, and nothing more, but I figure if I like it he’ll take the opposite stance. Kinda how things have gone much of the last 30 years. If I say blue, he will say purple, just to be different, and claim stake to his own opinion. lol. At least it’s predictable, lol.

Good news is, I don’t mind sharing the cooking though but if I do I’ll not be able to watch as many shows on TV so there is a catch with all things. But yeah, I’m still loving the Hello Fresh and I plan to keep it. Also if I cook more, I can see a complete rearrange of the kitchen as it’s not set up the way I would want it exactly. I would also be getting rid of some dishes. I also don’t enjoy cooking on the becomingly very defunct stove and increasingly outdated kitchen counter tops. The more I am in it, the more I want the upgrades from 70’s and 80’s to today’s time. :-O One things leads to another and tit for tat, lol. So Hello Fresh could actually ignite a lot more than just good appetites, lol.

Hello Fresh panco chicken with diced potatoes and roasted green beans.

These meals have been excellent! And full of flavor. I loved the roasted green beans. Anyway for now it stays. I will stick my heels in the ground over it. I can be stubborn too. I learned from the best. 😉 and have lived with the next best. lol

Health.

So I ordered the Fish Oil to add to the supplements. I did some research first. George takes Salmon oil. But I read where the Fish Oil can be more effective as it can be better traced as to where it comes from and to use a reputable brand. I don’t eat enough fish so I think this may help some. I don’t plan to take but 1 pill a day instead of the two it recommends. I figure a boost will do me good anyway. I still eat tuna once a week. Now that we are not near Logan’s, I don’t get salmon very often. lol

My Exercise Videos

I promised I’d share about my exercise videos. Here is the channel I’m using:

YouTube Improved Health. <—–Link here to her You Tube channel

And here is an embed below of one that I recently did this week.

I’m doing the lower impact ones this week that are 10 to 15 minutes and I’ll increase as my stamina increases. But I can tell an improvement in my mobility in just a few days. She also has “seated” exercising for seniors if you need that. I don’t need that yet, but if I don’t do something now, I’ll be in that situation. A body in motion stays in motion. I heard that from a TV ad lol but I believe it to be true. A sedentary life will continue to be sedentary.

Alexa.

I wanted to share that I set up Alexa to tell you to get some water when you cough, as a routine. I also told her to play nature and birds singing when she hears the shower, lol. I think George finds it annoying. He is not fond of Alexa. As expected, they do not get along very well. Go figure. Perhaps if she were an Alex, they could bond? lol. I figure I’ll stop the routines or change them at some point. I really just wanted to surprise him. I think I did. This is my version of playing a prank I guess. Alexa and I will have to team up with her routines and see what else we can do, lol. There are suggested routines in her app. If you have an Alexa, check it out. They have made it easier to figure out.

Pet Search.

We are expanding our pet search. The online adoption services are proving to be too impersonal “out of sight – out of mind”, we are number or a statistic. Whether I’m right or wrong, bottom line says it all – as good of pet parents as we have been the last 20 years, we’ve only been told no so far and have not even a meeting of a pet to show for our many hours of searches and inquiries. We work, we don’t have a fence, and who knows what else is wrong with us, lol. So we are going out there “knocking on doors” of the shelters and adoption days at Pet Stores and see what that brings. We are still wanting to rescue instead of buy. But we’ll see where this expanded search leads. It seems that most of the shelters feed into the Pet Finder. I don’t fault the app or program but just find that it is not working well for us and breaks my heart when I fall in love with one and then be told “no b/c I work” or “don’t have a fence”. We’ve been at this for several weeks now and not much to show for our labor of love. Maybe I’m just impatient but most of the world operates in a “now” time frame and so do we. Our hearts have been broken twice now.

But I am touched at those who have reached out to share a shelter, or pet up for adoption. We want a lap dog, a little dog, and one not too far away.

Well, my time is 15 minutes past what it should be, so I will have to stop here. I suppose I’ll be back on Sunday. I want to get the video uploaded tomorrow if I can. It likely will not make the 7 a.m. deadline lol but I will try. I have mani/pedi tonight and it takes so long to upload to YouTube. So if not I’ll likely just post sometime tomorrow or wait til 7 a.m. next week and schedule it. Whenever it is live on line, I’ll post it here.

So what you doing this weekend?

Scheduling Time for Exercise | How I’m Doing it

When I told you I didn’t have time for exercise, I truly meant it. For me to exercise, work, have a hobby or two, and be involved in care giving, get at least 7.5 hours of sleep – it’s usually the first thing to get booted out. But what if it is scheduled first thing in the morning? Well, that means something else gets booted out right? Yeah.

I’ve been doing the “rob Peter to pay Paul” with time in a circle for some time now. And even with this schedule, I’m sure that will continue some as I “rotate” pockets of time that I find around a plate that is way too full. But when I am determined to do something, I will be resilient until it is done.

So I have sketched out my “model week”. Oh, don’t be fooled by the word “model”. It’s nothing to model. It’s very tiring. But it’s the only way I try to do what I’m trying to do, so “model” is relative, lol.

Sorry, I just noticed that the times are cut off to the left, but really it’s unimportant here for you to see that but you can see the items. And that is what is important on your end.

Must Haves in the Schedule

  • Enough Sleep. I kicked the 8 hours out the window. Most of us sleep in 1.5 hour cycles. I do. And 8 only makes me grumpy waking up in the middle of a REM stage in my sleep. So it has to be either 7.5 or 9 and I’ll do 7.5 during the week and 9 on the weekends as a treat.
  • Work must have 40+ hours each week, of course. I added the plus because I’m salary and we all know how that goes. One has to do her dues. There is no overtime and even though vacation is allotted of an extra week – we all know that we end up working over on other days to cover it. And we get our disability insurance for free. Least a company can do to cover you for all the stress illnesses, lol. Note: I’m being my humorous and sarcastic self here. But it seems others have thought this through. At some point I expect to see laws protecting salaried individuals from being worked to death. In my opinion there is a bell curve of salaried hours. The new ones who are learning and new on the front end and those climbing the ladder giving their life to the cause in the middle and those like me who are nearing retirement and needing to step back a bit.
  • Quality Time for Family/Family needs
  • Self-Care/Time for Self – Hobbies
  • Adequate commute time of course

Where do You Pull the Extra Time From

Yes it is true we only have 24 hours a day and can’t add anymore to it. The clock goes round and round in a hurry. But in MY SCHEDULE, nearly everything is having to cough up some time for me to be able to exercise, self-care, and have some time to myself each day so that I can continue to live and even possibly thrive, and to be ABLE to continue to work and care-give and do all the things we need and are called to do. So where does the time come from really:

  • Sleep – I’m quitting the 8 hour thing. I started this week going with 7.5 and it suits me well. The groggy feeling is over with me trying to wake up during a REM cycle. So the alarm goes off so that I get to sleep in 1.5 hour cycles.
  • Work – I’m going to leave on time instead of giving more to the cause. It’s just that simple. This schedule won’t work during quarter end months. So four months of the year – maybe even five b/c Feb is pretty busy too, I will be living there while I check off quarter end boxes. So if I need to have a doc appt that gives me a shorter week during the other months, it’ll all work itself out in a QE month, so I’m going to QUIT trying to work it out in the week itself! I’m the only one that worries about it and I’m driving myself crazy worrying that someone doesn’t think I’m pulling my weight, but I will write my time to come and go on my planner in case anyone ever asks and I’m going to quit worrying about it.
  • Afterwork – I will be more focused in the afterwork mode. I normally come in, get a glass of wine, read any mail, open any packages, check to see what I’ve missed as far as news, alerts, or messages, check on Mom, do housework leftover from the weekends, and sometimes watch a personal show, or work on video. So those other things will have to scoot out the window or to some other time slot. Often I already don’t open packages til the weekend. Might have to talk to Mom on the ride home, avoid the news until Alexa the next morning and so forth. I should have about an hour in the afternoon.
  • Being more focused and efficient with my time. In other words when I get home get straight to the blog, video, or reading. Not being a feather in the wind.

Why Make These Changes?

  • I currently weigh more than I have ever weighed in my life.
  • I feel horrible.
  • I am miserable and angry most of the time.
  • I need to get some stress and weight off of my psyche and my body
  • I want to live to see my Grandson grow up
  • There’s a lot left I want to do with my life
  • I’m driving me and everyone else crazy
  • This is the BiGGEST gift I can give myself and it will help others too
  • Having it scheduled leaves out the guesswork and makes it more real

The Downside to Maintaining a Schedule

  • Life happens. It won’t be followed perfectly as things will come up to get in the way.
  • There are doc appointments, nights where I do the cooking, grocery stops, someone screws up your payroll day schedule and you have to work over, hair cuts, nail days, dinner with friends, and Mom’s needs.
  • Something will still go out the window each week. And that’ll have to be ok.
  • Scheduling it is half the battle.

Bottom Line: The Impact

  • The exercise is coming at the beginning of the day and won’t be put off. It will include some days of cardio, yoga, and stretching, and even dancing on the weekend.
  • Apps and YouTube and my own den area will be available at that time.
  • George may hear it before his alarm goes off but I’ve decided that is ok. I endure his loud TV at night when I go to bed. He can turn his noisemaker on more loudly like I do.
  • Blogging/videoing/reading/puzzling (Hobby Time) will take its seat either in the early a.m. or afternoon and will be done at whatever tugs at my heart the most, and whatever time slot fits in the most.
  • Blogging during the week could be shorter. Or there is this possibility of getting some of my blog entries done ahead so that you always have a regular post. This will help. No worries I’ll still have my “regular updates on life” content. (I thank you for being interested in reading about our lives here and sharing ideas on how to best live it).
  • I should lose weight
  • I should be happier
  • I should be more focused
  • Maybe I’ll quit fussing about time
  • Everything “gets a spot” (ideally – but understood many spots will be replaced as real life happens).

I just chose not to include Mom time on there, or our doc appts, time with friends – these pop up at random times, other than church on Sunday and is hard to schedule. It’s been really tempting to pull back on going to church on Sundays and it’s not to say that I won’t sometimes when I’m at the bottom of a pit and need time to myself, but I’m trying not to let that impact a Sunday and push through for the most part.

Push through…we have DONE! We have gone almost 30 days I think without a full day at home. It’s back to the days of having a kid. Gone every day, and lately….gone all weekend. And my psyche needs down time to recharge and rejuvenate if I’m going to continue to be a person that is effective. So I’ve had to take tomorrow off as a PTO day. In looking at the days ahead with Colonoscopy on Friday and a trip out of town going to a graduation on Saturday, church on Sunday (we may actually choose this Sunday to do online church to be home so I can be ready for the work week and get strength back from colonoscopy and running for 30 days straight).

The liquids start tomorrow and I didn’t think I could deal with working all day and the prep starts at some point tomorrow anyway. I have not yet heard from the doc office but suppose they will call today to let me know what time prep starts (elimination pills). So I was going to have to leave work early anyway to be near the bathroom. I just took the day off tomorrow as I needed a day anyway. I feel like I’m at the end of a whiplash. Remember skating and how the person on the end of a whiplash is just battered and scattered and rushed around knocking into everyone and everything? That is me!

So tomorrow I have scheduled myself to do a lot of things that involve sitting and or light duty chores or fun: pet website, getting set up on Hulu Live, dropping Comcast cable, reading, puzzling, videoing, blogging. It will be a good day even though much of it will be liquid dieting and near the toilet by day’s end.

I’ll likely blog tomorrow since I’ll be here. But I think I’m making the right decision by doing the exercise first and then everything else will shake out by day’s end. It may end up that I work on videos each morning and blog in the afternoon. It’s easier to stop videoing than to stop blogging as I’m determined to get my ideas across in the mornings and then have to rush to get ready. So I’m thinking if I blog in the mornings, I have to get ready first. It’ll all shake out. Next week will be the trial run. Didn’t want to start til this colonoscopy is done. I am guessing I can do physical activity by next week. If not I’ll move it to stretches or something or just start the week after. We’ll see.

I’m curious what you think about my new plans/new schedule?