Trying to Discover the Art of Getting Things Done with the Time We Have

I’m really trying hard to do several things, mainly these things, and it really doesn’t seem like it should be too hard to manage them. But these seem to usurp most of my time:

  • Keep up with Mom’s doc appts, keeping her happy, meeting her needs
  • Keep up with my own doc appts (what few I’ve allowed myself to have this year)
  • Participate in helping cook (some)- finding recipes, getting the ingredients, carving out the time
  • Keeping bathrooms clean, sheets washed, laundry done, fall decor done, minor vacuuming and dusting here and there
  • Keeping up with family birthdays (I pretty much fail on the friend ones and is a point of improvement)
  • Attempting to do all my little projects (lose weight X failure, become healthier X failure, exercise more X failure, camera lessons X failure, develop a better beauty routine X failure, You Tube vlog videos, some social media presence, blog–enhhhh).
  • Working Full time, trying to fit everything in around work and around everything else

It amazes me how so many little things eat up your time. I’ve read books on being focused, managing your time, and “just doing it” and you name it. I’ve done all these things. I just need more time. No more motivational books. I couldn’t be more motivated. I’d really be frustrated if I was more motivated! lol None of those books will give me more time. I’m tired of people saying “You have the same 24 hours everyone else does”. Heard that a lot in Network Marketing when the “uppers” wanted more work outta ya! Enhhhh, that doesn’t work with me. It may be true we have the same 24 hours but we don’t have the same circumstances, the same personas or situations, and our desires are different and our goals different. Some of us are thorough and precise and some just slam into whatever they do without thinking. Or could care less.

So this blog entry is not to seek advice, nor slam advice (although I kinda just did), but just a recognition entry of “I’m feeling frustrated with myself that I’ve not done more”. Time just moves so fast. Every weekend I think “yay it’s the weekend and I can knock a few things out”. And I do but I add more on and there is just more I want to do. I usually get my rest in and relaxation – some – but it frustrates me sometimes on Sunday night that I have to get up and go to work for another 5 days and try to sneak in time during the week to work on my goals.

I also just need a spot to complain I guess, lol. Just park my frustrations here and be done with it til next Saturday and try again. I’ll keep trying. I’m not discouraged, just frustrated. Most weeks I just accept it as “part of the life game”, but I had to spend my precious Saturday morning at the police station b/c me (and a few others) had their identities stolen, as I was notified last week at work about that. I get strongly irritated when I lose my Saturday mornings. So forgive me I mention this forty eleven times before the year is out. As I sit here this Monday morning and remember what I didn’t do Saturday morning rolled into Sunday or didn’t get done at all. What I normally would do on Sunday some of that is rolling into the after work zone this week where I get about 30 minutes to an hour free where I have to choose between doing something fun and relaxing or working toward goals. I do a mix of both. But quite frankly after being up for 14 hours at that point and having a work day – my mind is zonked as far as productivity and creativeness. So you guessed it. I usually choose a few moments to wind down.

I did get to some things last week on this list. I keep this project list going on Focus Matrix app b/c I can reorganize it by order of importance and can use the various quadrants as I wish. I usually don’t put all the weekly to do’s on it. But sometimes I do.

Most everything on my calendar list at the top of this blog got marked off. Those are little things to do after work. They build up as the week goes.

Items Accomplished Last Week: Big and Small

I guess I should marvel though at what I DID accomplish instead of rolling myself in mud at what I didn’t. I guess that is pretty good considering I work FT and all that went on.

  • Checked out my test results on line for my bone density test (need to take calcium)
  • Ordered my calcium on Amazon
  • Ordered a bridal shower gift
  • Bought a birthday gift card for family member
  • Worked on George’s anniversary card and his 30 reasons I love him.
  • Made pedi appointments for Mom and myself for this week ahead
  • Found recipes for the upcoming week
  • Fixed two meatloafs this week (and dinner) one night
  • Cancelled AARP as I’m just not using it and don’t have time to read the magazines
  • iPhone update, Mac update, and iPad update due to scams/security updates
  • Started KYD55’s program (late and not through the whole starter programs but several days in)
  • Ordered pictures of River (5X7) for our work
  • Brought some things out of storage I needed from downstairs
  • Going in early to work some to make up for doc appointments
  • Took Mom to eye appointment
  • Celebrated 30th Anniversary
  • Took Mom to Slim Chickens so she could buy us dinner. Nice!
  • Got several loads of laundry done – not all folded but washed – still need to do another load.
  • Changed George’s sheets out.
  • Reloaded my vitamins for the week
  • Did a Target order b/c I’m tired of hauling in groceries – that’ll help with some of the household supplies.
  • Did an Amazon order for something yesterday – oh yeah – make up. More of a choice on Amazon than in the stores.

The Week Ahead

**We have Pedi’s after work today. That will be relaxing. I can go through personal emails. Behind on that.

**I have a 7:40 eye appt for myself on Wednesday morning – my annual to check and make sure I don’t have what Mom has – macular degeneration.

**I have to iron as I didn’t get to to that yesterday.

**I cook Teriyaki steak and spinach Orzo on Thursday night. Will have to get ingredients but I think George is going to the store again so have to give him my ingredient list and study on what all I need to do.

**Need to update to iOS 15 which is out today I think. More updates on all devices I guess.

**Need to prep for a coworker’s birthday

**Need to update my Isagenix autoship

**Need to be specific about my KYD55 goals, watch the rest of the prep videos and print off the tracker. (I’ll have to explain more on this later, but it’s about setting and reaching goals for health, mind, helping others, and improving self. Yes I didn’t need any more projects I said, but I do. This is about habits. I’ve got to force it til I figure it out. I’ll explain later. But no more motivational books, I’m so motivated I could jump over the moon! But this is just mapping it out and working it in! lol. More on that later.

And that’s about it for now – not to mention trying to work in some things on the other list, trying to finish some of the bucket list items, and also doing some office work on things I need to do at home.

I know, I know, get rid of the lists? Then I’d be going crazier in my head and a list is a way I can remember the important things and park the ones that are less important. And I guess those are the ones I’m really wanting to get to. I didn’t even get to work on the video any for the next vlog.

I need another day off! 😉 But here we go into the work week and will see how we do.

End of rant, end of dumping my frustrations here. I’m really motivated to try again. Each day is a new day and I really DO get a lot done in the week. I’ll keep working at it. And trying to work in some personal goals to tweak my routine a bit. And that is what it boils down to is getting the most important things done, trying to be healthy, help others, be a better person. And If we didn’t have things we wanted to do —we’d be bored with life. I’m far from that. My lists keep me going and keep me living so I’m thankful for them, wanting more time to do them, but grateful! It’ll be ok.

Sacred Saturdays and Productive Downtime

Good morning! I thought I’d jump in for a quick hello this morning. I’m excited to say I had another full day at home yesterday and that plus my day off Thursday has put my psyche in better shape, not to mention the house. It’s still not perfect and honestly I worked on other things yesterday. I mainly got my to do list for the day completed and that made me happy. I was even able to work on files and start the next video.

Saturday’s To Do List was Completed

I wore Alexa out yesterday giving her my grocery list. What started out as small has vastly increased. I wonder if she is able to carry on with the strain on her memory now, lol. Please note Mom’s medicine basket and vitamins, and Fancy’s meds in the plastic bag. And the treat basket for the dogs. I managed to store all the dog food underneath the table from Mom’s Chewey’s order. I was hoping we could eliminate the table as the kitchen looked great without it but it’s a quite useful table. You know how horizontal real estate space is. It’s in short supply and we are all itching to find some and cover it up.

I worked on my “wellness company” order which ships on the 12th. Added a couple of things for this week. And making a list of things I might add next month. I’m needing some “snacky” items so I’ll leave potato chips alone. I love a good crunch.

George has a birthday coming up, also on the 12th. I managed to get his birthday gifts wrapped. I have a few more things to add, but I’m not going to the store again until Tues night.

I also changed George’s sheets and got those washed. I ironed a few things. I have been putting off wearing my linen tops and they are so comfy in this hot weather. So I got those done and pressed some wrinkles out of some pants.

I tested the alarms in the house for their batteries for fire and carbon monoxide. I didn’t check the one downstairs though. We need to check that one too.

Restocked my vitamins for the week.

Made Brownies to take to Don & Lisa’s.

And gave George a hair cut.

And then……Yay……Got to work on my videos.

So, yeah, I’ve got the files pulled in for this video which includes St Patty’s, Mom’s Visit at Easter, and the finding of her house. So I’m feeling better about being behind. That covered a lot of the year right there. I have files for about two more videos after this one. I always want to be a little bit behind, lol. Do you know how happy this made me? Yes I’m very happy to be able to do this.

Why Do I Want to Do So Much with Such Little Time?

I guess my aspirations in life far outweigh the time I have. I was thinking about that yesterday and wondering why I have so much I want to do. What inspires me to want to do x, y, z, z1, z2, z3? lol My immediate conclusion was “because I don’t want to be bored!” I almost wanted to argue with myself. Really? That is why you put so much on the list? Well, that was my soul’s answer. I’m not sure it is a good answer. But I ALSO KNOW that I get deep satisfaction from accomplishing anything I set out to do. It gives me glee. And that’s all I really know without digging down into the surface. But there is definitely something that I enjoy about doing the videos, and creating something with the photos and video I’ve taken.

I’m looking forward to 2022 because I want to upgrade to Final Cut Pro! :-). I can do more with it and take it to the next level as far as what all I can do. iMovie is limited. But it has been great to learn from. And YouTube is great for teaching. I can have more layers within the video settings and various fonts and other things to add more special things to the videos. That said I’ve still not mastered iMovie to perfection nor done all the things with Canva that I could. But I’ve about tapped into what I wanted to do and I am finding myself wanting to do certain things now that iMovie won’t let me, so that to me is a sign I’m ready. But I know there is a bit of a learning curve. I’ve not even taken my camera lessons yet. I just keep going with the flow. I need to focus on that *somehow*. I’m going to have to push it to make it happen. I need to schedule it. But it’s like my health. I never find time to get the walking in.

BBQ Grilled Chicken by George! Love that Grilled Taste!

Much to my delight, George grilled yesterday. He has a sudden interest in grilling again and that is what delights my soul. I’ve missed grilled food. It used to be something one looked forward to as a child and a teen and other times in my life when the ingredients were gathered, the fire was started, the mouth watered. So grilled chicken and Brussel sprouts and it was so good.

He also had made homemade slaw and we had a corn salad he made. Yum yum. Dinner was excellent.

Saturday’s are Sacred

Photo by Maria Orlova on

Things are starting to feel a bit more normal now and falling into a routine with Mom and with the house now that flooring is down. The only problem I see really is that Mom is not getting out enough. And I think she has a time adjusting to our meal times.

We work all day and are ready to be home in the evenings and then on weekends I like to have at least one full day at home to get laundry, housework done, orders done, get ready for the next work week, take a glance and what all needs to be accomplished for the next week, and so forth. And then the other day is errands, grocery, going to church, or going other places. I can deal with a mix of the two if I get a “morning” time to get things done. If I’m going out in the mornings then I’m not near as productive when we come back. So Saturday morning is really critical and important for me in many ways. It’s the only day I can truly sleep until I wake up with no alarms. It’s the only day I can hang in PJ’s all morning and sip coffee.

Mom used to eat out every Saturday morning. So we are completely opposite. I cringe to think of giving up my Saturday mornings. But I can give up some. So I guess we just have to plan it. I also do not eat big meals at the beginning of the day anymore. So we have that difference. It’s not like I can’t periodically though as I love breakfast. I just like to wait til I’m hungry to eat it though. Mom likes to eat with a few minutes of getting up. I probably don’t eat until after I’ve been up 3 or 4 hours. I get up in the 4 a.m. hour and eat around 8 at my desk at work. And it’s never a huge deal.

So Mom on the other hand sits here all day and is ready to get out and go somewhere. She is not driving up here so she can’t get out safely by herself. She can’t see anyway so it’s really a blessing that she is not driving so she doesn’t hurt herself or anyone else.

She skipped church last week and we really didn’t have appointments this week so she likely is stir crazy. She laid down yesterday simply because “there was nothing else to do” she said.

Getting Mom Out of the House

So we have a lot of things going on this week that she will get out of the house for. Then she will likely be ready for a rest. Church, eating, and appointments seems all that she really wants to do. She doesn’t get anything out of shopping anymore – mainly cannot see I guess. She can’t walk very far either as it seems to hurt her to get up and move at all some times. I hear her saying “whew” over and over as if it has just taken all of her energy to get across the room.

So we have church today, George’s birthday outings this week, and her eye appointment on Friday. We will then plan an excursion one Saturday for breakfast out and a couple of other stops and take her on a tour of Lebanon. But she really doesn’t seem to want to be out for very long.

That is the only thing we need to work on I guess is making sure that she gets out some. This past week has been exceptional though being that we had the flooring put down and just really needed to be home more. The fact that she skipped church didn’t help. Anyway, like anything, we’ll keep trying to perfect to what she needs just like we do for what we need.

So we invited her to go with us today to D & L’s but the length of the day I think was going to be too much for her and she is not exactly a social butterfly. So I think she prefers to be home much of the time anyway. Like I said she mainly just wants to go out and eat and to church. I think this move and change has taken a lot out of her. I also think she is sad about the whole thing. I know she is looking forward to her house, but I’m sure she is worried over her heart and overall health and the ability to keep living on her own. And well, that is another story for another day and another venue.

Ok so over an out. Going for some pool time and friend time after taking Mom to church and through a drive through of her choice. Looking forward to seeing our friends!

Amazing How Much We Got Done!

Oh my gosh guys! You would not believe how much we have accomplished in the last week. And especially this weekend. Here was a peek above at last week’s to do list checked off as of about Noon on Saturday.

Saturday around Noon I “redid the list” and then was able to get all this checked off below by the end of Sunday evening.

So having gone into the weekend Friday night with as high as a 103 degree fever at one point, due to the shot reaction so it sure ended up well.

Saturday morning was iffy and I was slow. I probably staved off the fever with acetaminophen and probably pushed myself a bit more than I should have. However, at least I was home, in my jammies and getting things done in the house – mainly laundry, cleaning kitchen, ironing. I cleaned out the hallway closet in the afternoon and rearranged it.

I got rid of some things I don’t use, threw away old things, got rid of old lotions I never use.

It doesn’t look like I cleaned anything out though as I moved over all kinds of cleaning supplies from the areas underneath the bathroom sink so I could make room for me to have one side of the bathroom and Mom to have one side of the bathroom space.

George mowed and ran errands. And did a few things he wanted to do. He was productive too. I rested when I felt I needed to, had a huge horrible headache when the acetaminophen wore off. So as long as I took that every 4 to 6 hours or so I was good. I did have to take about a 45 min nap Saturday – just a brief one – when it felt like the fever was coming on.

I moved all of my things to one side. And Mom’s side is ready to go. Sadly we have pipes in the way, but what can you do. Not sure if this basket will be needed but I figure Mom might need *some* kind of basket to reach in and pull out for anything which will make it easier.

I’ve also created drawer space for her. And look ya’ll, this house was probably built in the early 70’s and I’m not even sure when this bathroom cabinet was built, so it’s not the best of shape anymore in the front. But it’s not the most persistent eyesore now (that’s the flooring) so we deal with it the best we can. The main thing is Mom has some drawer space.

I have to find her two little metal baskets like mine so she can put her counter top things on the bathroom counter. That way we can keep the area clean. One thing that will drive me crazy is things sitting around in a clutter. I can deal with organized clutter a bit, but I need to see clean and uncluttered countertop space! That said, I need to add “baskets for Mom” to the list.

Then off to Mom’s we went with two cars and loads of boxes inside of boxes. We stayed and packed for a few hours. I went and got lunch. I had wanted to do sandwiches – things bought at the store to throw a meal together but Mom wanted something bought out and wanted McAlister’s. I went and stood in line, for an hour or longer due to the church crowds. Glad to see people are out now, but gaaaaahhhhhleeee, that was ridiculous. If it had just been for me I’d have long turned around but I patiently waited as I had orders for all – all across the board – salad for me, spud for Mom, and sandwich for George.

Anyway finally back home and eaten, much of the day was gone at that point. However we had enough room for 3 more packed boxes so I went to get them and coming back in the dining room one of the boxes hit my tea glass left from lunch that I was enjoying still and it crashed to the floor breaking in pieces. Darnit! So the day went downhill for a bit there with the long wait and glass breaking, but better than one of Mom’s china pieces.

We got a lot of fine glassware packed and in storage. All secured in our basement now and unloaded. Thank goodness we have had this basement.

Then I moved our coats from the coat closet to our downstairs closet and I moved my seasonal clothes from my office to the coat closet. Before Mom comes I’ll move my clothes from my current bedroom (guest bedroom) to my office here. This will be my office and bedroom. I hate that I cannot sleep with George and Roger. When Roger passes, I will try again. But Roger’s need to be up and down all night plus the snoring and George getting up plus my own getting up in the night at times -is just too many factors – too much waking up at night. So it is necessary from a health standpoint (not falling asleep at work, or driving, and feeling better) that I be able to separate myself off and get sleep and sanity. So much to my surprise….the closet switcheroo has been started.

I still have to bring up the plastic chest of drawers (just a plastic storage unit) and it will have to be kept in front of the closet here as there is nowhere to store them. My closet will just have to remain open. That grey bag there will be going to the basement. It’s just temporary storage of clothes I am not wearing now that are too small, sadly. lol

I also set up two baskets to put my shoes in at the bottom of the closet, but I may have to set those up on top of the storage system as I won’t be able to get to them, if the storage things are in front. It’s all a work in progress.

I moved the table over in front of the window so I could set up the cot. I could have gotten a smaller cot but honestly the twin size seemed like for me it would be more comfortable for stretching out and turning over and such. It’s a tight fit, but it’s gonna work. Now George just has to cut the foam.

It didn’t take Roger long to find his new spot. I’m washing the blanket I normally keep on his bed. It’s all tight but it’s cozy and I like it. It fits my need. It’s kinda like a little RV space without the kitchen, ha!

I’m going to use what bedding materials I have at home for the bed. Once George cuts the foam I can set that up. I will use an old quilt as a foam mattress cover to put around the foam. I will use regular size sheets – I think we have an extra set I can use, if not I may have to order those. Twin may be too small since the foam is 12 inches thick, so probably have to use REG sheets size and tuck it in.

I have a quilt that is Reg size that will be a bit big probably but maybe not since the bed will have some height to it, but the colors will fit my room. I really like quilts as comforters these days because they wash easily and keep their shape. I have a blanket that I use to sleep with that radiates warmth back from my own body heat and that is all I will need as it’s summer anyway but George likes it cool sometimes.

All that said, I’m so happy with our progress. It is amazing that God gave us energy and will power above anything else including recovering from that Covid Shot and the big fever it caused.

So now we can focus on this week’s list.

Today I have a conference call with Mom on Zoom for one of our meetings. It’s at 8:30. A bad time for me now that I missed part of Friday, but it will have to do. So my lunch time is basically at 8:30, lol. That means I’ll be heating up my lunch, and eating at my desk while doing time sheets at my normal lunch time.

We have our plans set for doing a Cargo Van move, escalating all the things we can move that weekend and then we will do the final moving after that – I think Father’s Day weekend for that.

So there is still so much fine glassware to pack. We made only a small dent. So we will be back to Columbia this next weekend to help Mom pack but she is getting a friend who offered to help, to come over and pack some. We left Mom with boxes and wrapping supplies but had to order a serious amount of bubble wrap to be delivered there this week so the packing can continue.

Eating the elephant one bite at a time. We’ve bit off a lot and chewed it! We are coming around the curve. But it’s time to get serious about getting Mom here to our house. The front porch railing has been ordered from Amazon to help Mom – actually all of us – get up and down the stairs easier. There are only 3 steps but they are pretty big ones.

Thank you Lord, for giving us the energy, drive, and stamina to get all this stuff done! So much more to go but yet we have come so far!