Whirlwind Weekend, Being Told Every Move to Make, and Needing Rest

The peonies have been beautiful. I have not had “time to smell the roses” and enjoy them. It’s been a quick flash of “oh look something bloomed”! So I will share flowers and random pics of the last few days here among my words.

Saturday was a quick but wonderful trip out to the Cool Springs area. Mainly because we had a gift card to the Cheesecake Factory. I mean that is how we do things. We have ONE thing that causes us to go a direction and we build the day across that in our excursions. Kinda like decorating a room around a special piece of decor, lol.

So we like to start around lunch and we made plans to go to YAT’s. I looked up about three places that looked good that were not overly expensive that we had never been to and asked George if he would like to try them. He picked Yats! We had told our good friends that live in the area that we would be out their way if they wanted to join us in any of our activities. So they joined us.

At Yat’s you can order half n half! That way you get to try two as it’s hard to decide. I got the Drunken Chicken and the Sausage with Red Beans and Rice. I did not eat all of my rice. This was great! I enjoyed it very much. Their lights were interesting and the food was quick. So its a quick service.

Afterwards we headed to grab a beer with our friends at a nearby brewery only to find it was closed. So we went to another ale house nearby called Brewhouse South. It was a special time to get to see our friends for a extra round of catching up. We were not ready to say good bye yet. And it was a blessing to see them all. And even Miss J who had flown in from California. Bless her, she bought our beer. And friend Lisa told me about this beer that is mostly gluten free. On our side of town the gluten free is hard to find. But this one and Daura Damm have big flavors but not the heaviness that the other ones have. I liked this a LOT. We spent a long while there at the place catching up. I only had the one in case you were wondering. Although Lisa topped me off once when she didn’t want all of hers.

Then George and I went to Gabe’s and shopped. It’s a discount store. I never buy much in there but I always find something. It’s fun to shop. It’s about the search. I bought a $4 shirt to wear with pajama bottoms, and I bought some hand soap. And a new pillow. They had good brands for “real cheap”, including memory foam.

Before I knew it we were ready for our reservations at 5:45. We checked in but George left his phone in the car so we missed our reservation call when they called for us – even though we were standing right next to the hostess desk. lol. When others behind us began being seated I asked George if he had his phone. “No, it’s in the car”.

“Then how are they to reach us?” George had made the reservations. He is used to me doing it and giving them my number. Or really just used to them calling “Cox, party of two”. So we inquired and they had called us, but they seated us anyway without further delay. We sat at a two seater (Mom would have hated it and complained). lol But it was plenty of room there. We had a pleasant meal. And iced tea was my drink of choice, lol. Our food was devine! The steak medallion dinner was out of this world.

Afterwards we went to Sprout’s, a grocery store we had not been to. We only had 30 min to shop as it was 8:30 when we got there. Shocked at how long the Cheesecake Factory took. But we wanted to go so we kinda rushed through. Thankfully it was a smaller store and not as big as a Kroger. We loved Sprout’s. A lot of healthy choices and much of it organic. We were just in love! But at the check out with not even a heaping amount in our buggy, it was nearly $200. Sticker shock. We bought lots of new things and some fresh things for the week. Our Hello Fresh doesn’t start til next week. I had storm warnings on my phone for our home area but was glad we shopped as it was no longer raining when we got home. It was totally clear on the other side of town.

We got home past bed time. I still think it was 10:30 when I finally laid my head on the pillow. And wake up time came much too soon. I was shocked to realize I’d only truly got 5.5 hours sleep. I think I tossed and turned some.

My body was feeling the tired crunch Sunday but we got up and took Mom to church and brought her a cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory. (We also bought us one which I ate bites of Saturday night before bed and Sunday afternoon).

After church we went to a new subway shop near Mom’s. Jersey Mike’s. Their sandwiches are good. They only have subs that I saw. I didn’t see a wrap or a salad. But their rosemary parmesan bread was really good and seemed fresh. We had a little trouble inside ordering. Mom had given me money to order hers and then George and I were to be on a separate ticket. So I was trying to give them a name for Mom’s order and ours a separate name so it would not be confused. George interrupted/corrected me and told them to just put it under one name. That was his first mistake. lol

So at the check out they rang up Mom’s order and my sandwich. I knew it was going to happen, as George had changed the name and made them do it as one. I’m sure he was trying to make it simple for them but it really only confused them.

We had told the guy it was two separate orders when we ordered but down the way where they ring it up, they didn’t know as it was all under one name. So when she only gave me $4 back from Mom’s $20, I knew that they had overcharged us. I asked where the rest was as it was just one sandwich. They said “oh you didn’t tell us”. I said “well we told the guy when we placed our order”. (But since it was under one name, she wouldn’t have known.) She said “ok I’ll correct it”.

As she started to correct it George said “don’t worry about it. We will settle it up b/w us.” He was trying to make it easier for them. But I wanted them to make it right for Mom so I could give her back her correct change. I said “I don’t have change George let’s just let them make it right for Mom.” He said he said “no” that he would take care of it and pay her back.

I left to get in the car as everything I said was overridden and corrected and then I was told to move out of the way by George. So I just said “well I see you have everything in control, I’m going to the car”. I was embarrassed at being treated like a child, not like an adult that is trying to fix a problem. People were starting to stare. I am not sure if they were staring at me for the confusion of our order or staring at George for being patronizing and adversarial. But he wanted to correct everything I tried to say so I let him finish up the order and bring it out.

When I recalled the incident to Mom after short changing her for her sandwich and trying to explain what happened and why she only has very little change back, George didn’t want me to tell the story by saying “it’s all in control” twice. He wouldn’t let me speak. I called him on it. I told him that I get to have a voice and speak from time to time and if I want to tell Mom what happened I most certainly will. He retorted by saying we could just go to lunch by ourselves next time. I said “fine if you want to draw that boundary for yourself, go ahead”. So I guess he will begin taking a separate car. And if that means that I can order without such pandemonium and being corrected every time I speak, hey – I’m up for that. I just know that I don’t want to be shushed, overridden, and contradicted at every word that comes out of my mouth. It’s very frustrating and not appropriate and I will refuse to tolerate that on my end either. Everyone has to have “their way”. And I give it to them a lot to avoid confrontation. This is just a good example. I may have a few boundaries of my own to settle. We may need to have some serious conversation if that ever happens again!

Of course with all my manipulation and narcissist training, I have been trying not to let people get to me. It’s a curve you have to go around. I’m not saying George is a narcissist, but I do think that some of the 5 people I am around the most have narcissistic tendencies (possibly even myself) or perhaps we are just all very individualistic, selfish, and opinionated and we all like to call the shots and have things our way. So much so that it creates confusion – such as above when three people have three different ways they want to do something. But I have to learn to let people know how I want to be treated. Just because someone wants to do something their way doesn’t mean they should demand to have it their way. It’s really ok for Sonya to get to decide how something should be done too.

I think I did well yesterday. I left the scene so I would not cause one! Or I’d have given boundaries right there in a the restaurant for all lol. He is lucky I didn’t scold him on the spot and embarrass him as much as I was already embarrassed for being patronized, corrected, and interrupted, and overruled by Every. Little. Thing. I. Tried to do and say in the deli which continued in the car. SMH.

So we got to Mom’s and I’m trying to be calm and I choose to just be quiet and helpful so that we can eat and get home and move past it all. So I start to take our sandwiches outside to be helpful. And I was told not to do that we’d fix our plates inside. My every move is always being watched by someone yesterday it seemed. I could do no right by anyone. I told Mom “however you want to do it”. I think at that point I was just thinking “Lord I can’t do anything right by these people today that just want to control every move I make.”

I guess it just gets tiring being around so many people that are so opinionated and have to do things their way – every little thing – it gets so tiring. Can I just make a decision on my own puhhhhlease? It may be little things but it seemed all morning long no matter what I tried to do or say it was getting corrected or needed to be done a different way. Mom said “Sonya” —and then stopped. And it’s a good thing she did as I’d have probably left and gone home if she’d said another word. I’d had enough of being told what to do and how to do it. I told her “hey – I said however you want to do it. I’m agreeing with you – take it!”

I’m surprised someone didn’t barge into the bathroom and explain to me how they wanted me to tear the paper off the roll and wipe my butt. Sorry, TMI, but that is how I feel. I can’t move without someone trying to correct every move or telling me what to do. “Lock this, close that, open this, put that here, where’s this, you are walking too fast, no do it this way, put it here, sit here, let’s do this, let’s do that”.

I think I just need Calgon to come take me away. And I’m laughing because as I typed that it changed to Calvin instead of Calgon. I’m like who is Calvin? If he can let me be my own person and treat me nicely I might go with him! Just kidding, but gosh. What a day.

Bottom line is I think I’m just overly tired and stretched too thin and quite frankly just had enough of everyone. I’m not getting any time to myself to rejuvenate and likely not getting any rest. So guess what? This is what you get. You get your way most of the time still but I’m coming out of my skin to call you on it when I’m tired. It is true that I usually let everyone around me have their way. Give me a tired moment and let me have my way once please?

So we ate sandwiches on the patio which I’d been looking forward to. We did it Mom’s way and fixed our plate on the counter. I don’t see as it made much difference. I ended up having to carry the fixed plates to the patio, lol. So it wasn’t easier for me but if was easier for everyone else that is fine. But whatever.

So bottom line? Did George settle up with Mom? No he didn’t have change and I didn’t either. I told him so in the deli. But he had to have his way. Everyone has to have their way. So I let them. Now Mom has been short changed. I was just trying to make it right for her. George was trying to not have the place go to so much trouble. So we were both right except for his treatment of me and shushing me aside and overriding every little thing I tried to say. He should have just let it go. Instead I did. Arghhh. I hate situations like this. It was embarrassing for all. But bottom line the problems is now ours to fix. Well his. And I’m going to let him fix it as he is the one that owes her – not me. He overruled me.

I’m not going to hold a grudge over this incident. I’m going to let it go. I’m just venting. It’s just one of those things that happens in marriage and relationships. But I may need to set some boundaries about not being interrupted when I am talking, handling a transaction, or ordering. If I’m truly doing something wrong it’s one thing. But it made it confusing for everyone. There is more than one way to skin a rabbit but no need to try to skin it three ways at once.

The tribe has spoken.

Coming back home, I had about three or four days of stuff to do. I did not get it all done. I had laundry to do, ironing to do, kitchen to clean, dishwasher to reboot, dishes to wash. Work bag to pack for the week, vitamin/med pack to fill up for the week. I had my colonoscopy instructions to read so I’d know what all I can’t take this week as far as supplements. But I did take time to consolidate all the notes, thoughts, ideas, and to do’s that had accumulated across my desk for the past month.

I still did not get finished blogging today but I am already running behind. There is still way too much on my to do list for the week. Grad cards need to be mailed, we need to get to the bank, still haven’t worked on the cable, haven’t finished the dog applications (the ones I was doing, George finished his). I did get some dusting done though, Yay and changed George’s sheets. I have to go to Publix and pick up Rx and get groceries that Sprouts didn’t have.

I’m actually looking forward to the Colonoscopy to get a day at home. I still have to go have the procedure so it’s not a true day at home but at least I’ll have some down time to rest and/or do things I want to do that allow you to sit and do it. It’s so frustrating to fight with my time. Even now I’m probably late to work. And will have to work over to make it up. Always robbing Peter to pay Paul with time. Arghhhhhh! I was going to work on the schedule yesterday and figure a few things out, but I didn’t have time. How ironic.

Late Spring Blooms, More Closet Moves, and Hand Rail added to Front Porch

The Asian Lilies bloomed and they are so pretty. The peonies have also been blooming and I almost missed getting a picture. The weather turned really hot and it just kills them off when that happens.

Moving over closets

I spent the day yesterday moving my things out of the guest bedroom closet and into the office closet. It was quite the task. But really made more sense than having Mom put her things in the office closet, lol. I had to move things around anyway. That way she has her own space for the months she is here. She has closet space, closet shelves, and chest of drawer space. In previous weekends I worked on the bathroom giving her half of the drawer space.

The process made me go through some things. I have a storage bag of “too small” clothes and also of “extra clothes”. I couldn’t fit all of the clothes into the office space I have. It was no big deal. I have a lot of tee shirts I have collected when we visited places and I have way more than I need. I also have way too many socks! So I pulled out the favorites and put the others back. Also had some shoes I put back. And some PJ’s. I have a note in my calendar to get out the “extra” clothes after Mom leaves when I move my stuff back into the 2nd bedroom.

I also cleared out my shoe bin. It’s a nice cubby hole of shelves behind the door in the 2nd bedroom. Mom will love that for her shoes. I placed mine in these two baskets so I can pull them out and they won’t get lost on the bottom. I’m in no mood to be crawling around on the closet floor looking for shoes! I go down I can’t get back up as these bones are feeling a bit older and helpless.

It’s a tight fit but I moved my personal files over to this spot. It had just enough room. I’m glad. I didn’t want this eye sore out anywhere else in the house. It’s fine for my office area though and now my records will be where I can file and retrieve. Mainly file. lol

So I brought these plastic “chest of drawers” from the basement. Previously I had used it for my office but had moved it out when I put the office journaling chair in. I’ve changed this office around so much it’s pitiful.

But this holds my undies and PJ’s. I didn’t want clothes showing through as sometimes I film in this room. So I took place mats and put in there and flipped up the place mat on the edges to cover it. It’s magic. I like it.

Sadly I will have to keep the little plastic drawer right here in front of the closet. And yes, I’ll be keeping my closet open. It’s just functional like that it seems. I always kept it open in the other room too as I am in and out of it so much.It’s not a permanent solution but I’ve made everything work. I have socks and office supplies in baskets under the twin bed frame. I waited to take pics of that for after George cuts the foam.

I also put back some of my least favorite pairs of jeans (also a bit snug) and some of my less favorite sweats/gym pants. It actually felt good “letting go” or “putting back” some of these things. I know when people are moving into their RV’s for the first time (I watch their You Tube shows), they go through a similar but more harrowing process. I was imagining what it would be like picking out your favorite clothes for the road! lol. I kept way more tee shirts out than I should have though and of course the hanging clothes were not scaled back I just moved those over. I even had extra space! Just enough room for my camera. And I’m enjoying the “blessed” sign. It just works.

Now Mom has her own closet. I left stuff in the very top shelf. I figure she wouldn’t be needing that one up that hight. It has overnight bags and all kinds of “bags”, purses, etc.

George’s Productive Day

George put in the railing for Mom and I will enjoy it too as I often need extra support for my right knee. He has studied on this for some time now. I think he had to buy a tool or two but he did it. He was pouring sweat. I felt so bad for him. It was near 90 yesterday I think. If not well into the upper eighties.

He also rehung my “Home” sign by drilling a nail into the brick so the wind wouldn’t take it off.

So I think we have pretty much got everything ready for Mom’s moving in with us for a few months. There’s not much else on the list as far as our house.

Are ya’ll tired of me talking about this move yet? It has been our life since the Easter visit from Mom where excitedly we found her a place! I still cannot believe all this. I am excited. We are a bit tired and looking forward to the summer months and into fall while we get a little break and get to enjoy life a bit.

I was thinking this morning that once Mom is here, I want to cook up some good meals. George does most of the cooking but I want to fix my meatloaf for her and a few other things. We can also plan her birthday which will include a trip to Paula Deen’s.

This Week’s To Do List

So I have some things I need to do that I didn’t get done on the weekend. I have to redo my vitamins for the week, Roger needs some care – we need to trim him and get him to the vet as he has a toenail that is too long and bothering him. We don’t get him groomed anymore as he just can’t endure it and it unsettles him so. Also have some ironing to do, order some vitamins, resetting my Isagenix auto ship, ordering another Thred Up bag. Marking up the new family calendar I bought for Mom, mainly. And I can work some on the iMovie.

I have added our Texas winter trip to the timeline now and it’s 41 minutes long so will edit it down to about 17 or so, if possible. Excited to work on this for you guys! I’ve already put in the intro! I want to squeal with excitement over getting to work on these.

Soon I hope we will be able to get out more and get something more interesting to blog about. We’ve all been at home for sooooo long now. George and I are ready to get out and do a few things. We want to explore and we are already talking up a “trip to Maine”. I think when Roger passes, we will find us another long weekend to fly up that way. Perhaps we could take a whole week and hit several spots. But at this point, I’d settle for a long weekend. I love George for saying he wanted to travel up that way again. He’s talking my language. It doesn’t have to be in an RV. Let’s just go travel anyway we can! I suggested we take a sail boat ride this time. I’ve never sailed.

Meanwhile in Texas

Off to work and to get started on this week! Ya’ll have a good one! No one commented on yesterday’s post. Am I being blockaded my the social media hosts for some reason? It seems if I mention certain words, it is not picked up by the algorithms. It’s a good thing I like doing these blogs for myself. At least if no one is reading, I have enjoyed myself and recapping what we did. LOL Could be everyone is just busy for Memorial Day. I noticed though that I did have the same number of viewers as normal though. I guess no one commented. And that makes me wonder if it went live or not. Or if we are just losing our ability to say what we need to say and slanted the way the hosts want to slant it. It’s sad really.

But I still do what I want whether anyone reads it or not. As long as I’m having fun it really matters not. The blog and the videos are there for the taking, but certainly if I am the only one that ever sees them, I decided when I started all of it years ago – that would be just fine with me! 😉 I DID try to share my blog link on FB yesterday and I don’t think anyone saw it at ALL. lol. Links are just not in their algorithm. So I have no way to really share like we used to. It just sinks to the bottom when you do. So no bother. I’ll sit here all alone with my words. lol lol lol

Iris Blooms, Moringa Superfood Supplements, and Life’s Getting Busy

The Iris are blooming! They look so pretty against a backdrop of a freshly mowed yard! George worked hard in the yard this weekend and even washed and cleaned all 3 cars! Coming home yesterday after working all day and a trip to the store, these were a sight for sore eyes and soothing to a tired soul.

And no problem with the Rosemary surviving! Plenty of it!

The Moringa came in. I invite you to do your own research on this. You may be ordering it too when you read about it. I have only been taking it a week. They say it takes about a month to begin seeing the efforts. Two capsules a day. Safe. And when you read about it- it seems like a wonder drug. But you can do your own research on it. I mainly bought it for blood pressure reduction, but it has many other good functional qualities including helping metabolism. It said to be careful while taking with blood pressure meds as it may go too low. Well if it does then maybe I can get off my meds, lol. I will let you know what happens.

I went for a walk yesterday in our complex. And Sunday I also did a 20 minute work out that including “fighter lunges” – that’s what I call it. It’s boxing as you do squats, lol. Oh my gosh I could hardly move yesterday and getting up and down out of a chair was killer. I was kinda taken by the shadows and trees in the breeze. It reminded me of the eclipse.

I was so tired after my walk and lunch yesterday. And sleepy too. I wanted to nap so bad. I have been incredibly tired. Like…..tired on steroids tired! For the last 3 days. I think it’s for about four reasons: 1) the exercise taxing my muscles 2) moving Mom and lifting moderately heavy boxes – nothing major -but still heavier than what I do on a daily basis, lol 3) The lack of good sleep – meaning instead of 8 I’ve had six the last few nights – except last night was 8, thank goodness! 4) Possibly the COVID shot with my body trying to react to what has happened to it with that COVID injection shot.

I do feel better this morning after an 8 hour sleep.

Mom’s Move and the Video Update

Things are progressing. Mom’s realtor sent in the paperwork. He said he forgot. We’ll forgive him. lol And they are going to come video her house Thursday. Wooops! I totally forgot about the fact we’d need the house to be cleaned before the videographer comes in. We were thinking about having it ready by the time it was listed. Mom said no worries – she’s getting it ready. I feel bad but I think they probably won’t be able to see the dust. lol. They will be viewing the room from afar. She is getting the boxes we left for her to pack in – out of the way.

Thursday night I’ll go get her and then Friday she and George will go to her Low Voltage meeting. I’m anxious to see how that goes.

Made a LOT of progress on the video Saturday and Sunday. It was fun to work on and close to being finished. George is in it and he is going to make you laugh. I laughed out so hard when editing! I just need to continue editing it some. Need to get the length down to keep it around 17 to 19 minutes. It’ll probably be ready for upload in the next week or so. I would guarantee it over the weekend but we are going to be busy both days of the weekend with back to back trips moving Mom’s stuff. This will continue for weekends to come as we slowly migrate her stuff here by car. All of this is because we just won’t have the time to pack it all and move it all at once. That would take about 2 weeks I think, lol. We don’t have that kind of time when you work Full Time.

The house date to list has been moved to May 5th which is Mom’s Design Studio meeting day where she picks out everything for the new place. So that way they can list that day and it can start being shown on May 6th. We didn’t want people wanting to see it and Mom being gone. She has to be gone of course anyway, but….Fancy (dog) will be there and Mom has to be around to take her out and leave the house while it’s shown. So this works best.

This is all about to get exciting! We keep progressing from one step to the next. But there’s a lot to go!

Meanwhile in Texas

Dates are coming together for some special days with River and Katy and Cody. We have a zoo day planned but we also are taking another day with some PTO time and getting off work to hang with them. This makes my heart happy. And Aunt Martha and Uncle Ken will be coming the week before that.

Lots of things going on! The calendar is filling up. And this was a cute Instagram story post that Katy posted about our Little Roo!

Ok, I will check in with you guys probably Thursday morning! I’m doing the video editing every other day sharing blog time and that seems to satisfy my soul and give me a scheduled time to work on it – even if it is only an hour every other day. I’ve hesitated to do this in the past as I was learning iMovie because it was frustrating to have to leave it. It still is a little frustrating and I have to pull myself away but as I learn it becomes less frustrating to tear away in the middle of it. If that makes sense. I know what I mean but hard to put in words.

ok…over and out!