Whirlwind Weekend, Being Told Every Move to Make, and Needing Rest

The peonies have been beautiful. I have not had “time to smell the roses” and enjoy them. It’s been a quick flash of “oh look something bloomed”! So I will share flowers and random pics of the last few days here among my words.

Saturday was a quick but wonderful trip out to the Cool Springs area. Mainly because we had a gift card to the Cheesecake Factory. I mean that is how we do things. We have ONE thing that causes us to go a direction and we build the day across that in our excursions. Kinda like decorating a room around a special piece of decor, lol.

So we like to start around lunch and we made plans to go to YAT’s. I looked up about three places that looked good that were not overly expensive that we had never been to and asked George if he would like to try them. He picked Yats! We had told our good friends that live in the area that we would be out their way if they wanted to join us in any of our activities. So they joined us.

At Yat’s you can order half n half! That way you get to try two as it’s hard to decide. I got the Drunken Chicken and the Sausage with Red Beans and Rice. I did not eat all of my rice. This was great! I enjoyed it very much. Their lights were interesting and the food was quick. So its a quick service.

Afterwards we headed to grab a beer with our friends at a nearby brewery only to find it was closed. So we went to another ale house nearby called Brewhouse South. It was a special time to get to see our friends for a extra round of catching up. We were not ready to say good bye yet. And it was a blessing to see them all. And even Miss J who had flown in from California. Bless her, she bought our beer. And friend Lisa told me about this beer that is mostly gluten free. On our side of town the gluten free is hard to find. But this one and Daura Damm have big flavors but not the heaviness that the other ones have. I liked this a LOT. We spent a long while there at the place catching up. I only had the one in case you were wondering. Although Lisa topped me off once when she didn’t want all of hers.

Then George and I went to Gabe’s and shopped. It’s a discount store. I never buy much in there but I always find something. It’s fun to shop. It’s about the search. I bought a $4 shirt to wear with pajama bottoms, and I bought some hand soap. And a new pillow. They had good brands for “real cheap”, including memory foam.

Before I knew it we were ready for our reservations at 5:45. We checked in but George left his phone in the car so we missed our reservation call when they called for us – even though we were standing right next to the hostess desk. lol. When others behind us began being seated I asked George if he had his phone. “No, it’s in the car”.

“Then how are they to reach us?” George had made the reservations. He is used to me doing it and giving them my number. Or really just used to them calling “Cox, party of two”. So we inquired and they had called us, but they seated us anyway without further delay. We sat at a two seater (Mom would have hated it and complained). lol But it was plenty of room there. We had a pleasant meal. And iced tea was my drink of choice, lol. Our food was devine! The steak medallion dinner was out of this world.

Afterwards we went to Sprout’s, a grocery store we had not been to. We only had 30 min to shop as it was 8:30 when we got there. Shocked at how long the Cheesecake Factory took. But we wanted to go so we kinda rushed through. Thankfully it was a smaller store and not as big as a Kroger. We loved Sprout’s. A lot of healthy choices and much of it organic. We were just in love! But at the check out with not even a heaping amount in our buggy, it was nearly $200. Sticker shock. We bought lots of new things and some fresh things for the week. Our Hello Fresh doesn’t start til next week. I had storm warnings on my phone for our home area but was glad we shopped as it was no longer raining when we got home. It was totally clear on the other side of town.

We got home past bed time. I still think it was 10:30 when I finally laid my head on the pillow. And wake up time came much too soon. I was shocked to realize I’d only truly got 5.5 hours sleep. I think I tossed and turned some.

My body was feeling the tired crunch Sunday but we got up and took Mom to church and brought her a cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory. (We also bought us one which I ate bites of Saturday night before bed and Sunday afternoon).

After church we went to a new subway shop near Mom’s. Jersey Mike’s. Their sandwiches are good. They only have subs that I saw. I didn’t see a wrap or a salad. But their rosemary parmesan bread was really good and seemed fresh. We had a little trouble inside ordering. Mom had given me money to order hers and then George and I were to be on a separate ticket. So I was trying to give them a name for Mom’s order and ours a separate name so it would not be confused. George interrupted/corrected me and told them to just put it under one name. That was his first mistake. lol

So at the check out they rang up Mom’s order and my sandwich. I knew it was going to happen, as George had changed the name and made them do it as one. I’m sure he was trying to make it simple for them but it really only confused them.

We had told the guy it was two separate orders when we ordered but down the way where they ring it up, they didn’t know as it was all under one name. So when she only gave me $4 back from Mom’s $20, I knew that they had overcharged us. I asked where the rest was as it was just one sandwich. They said “oh you didn’t tell us”. I said “well we told the guy when we placed our order”. (But since it was under one name, she wouldn’t have known.) She said “ok I’ll correct it”.

As she started to correct it George said “don’t worry about it. We will settle it up b/w us.” He was trying to make it easier for them. But I wanted them to make it right for Mom so I could give her back her correct change. I said “I don’t have change George let’s just let them make it right for Mom.” He said he said “no” that he would take care of it and pay her back.

I left to get in the car as everything I said was overridden and corrected and then I was told to move out of the way by George. So I just said “well I see you have everything in control, I’m going to the car”. I was embarrassed at being treated like a child, not like an adult that is trying to fix a problem. People were starting to stare. I am not sure if they were staring at me for the confusion of our order or staring at George for being patronizing and adversarial. But he wanted to correct everything I tried to say so I let him finish up the order and bring it out.

When I recalled the incident to Mom after short changing her for her sandwich and trying to explain what happened and why she only has very little change back, George didn’t want me to tell the story by saying “it’s all in control” twice. He wouldn’t let me speak. I called him on it. I told him that I get to have a voice and speak from time to time and if I want to tell Mom what happened I most certainly will. He retorted by saying we could just go to lunch by ourselves next time. I said “fine if you want to draw that boundary for yourself, go ahead”. So I guess he will begin taking a separate car. And if that means that I can order without such pandemonium and being corrected every time I speak, hey – I’m up for that. I just know that I don’t want to be shushed, overridden, and contradicted at every word that comes out of my mouth. It’s very frustrating and not appropriate and I will refuse to tolerate that on my end either. Everyone has to have “their way”. And I give it to them a lot to avoid confrontation. This is just a good example. I may have a few boundaries of my own to settle. We may need to have some serious conversation if that ever happens again!

Of course with all my manipulation and narcissist training, I have been trying not to let people get to me. It’s a curve you have to go around. I’m not saying George is a narcissist, but I do think that some of the 5 people I am around the most have narcissistic tendencies (possibly even myself) or perhaps we are just all very individualistic, selfish, and opinionated and we all like to call the shots and have things our way. So much so that it creates confusion – such as above when three people have three different ways they want to do something. But I have to learn to let people know how I want to be treated. Just because someone wants to do something their way doesn’t mean they should demand to have it their way. It’s really ok for Sonya to get to decide how something should be done too.

I think I did well yesterday. I left the scene so I would not cause one! Or I’d have given boundaries right there in a the restaurant for all lol. He is lucky I didn’t scold him on the spot and embarrass him as much as I was already embarrassed for being patronized, corrected, and interrupted, and overruled by Every. Little. Thing. I. Tried to do and say in the deli which continued in the car. SMH.

So we got to Mom’s and I’m trying to be calm and I choose to just be quiet and helpful so that we can eat and get home and move past it all. So I start to take our sandwiches outside to be helpful. And I was told not to do that we’d fix our plates inside. My every move is always being watched by someone yesterday it seemed. I could do no right by anyone. I told Mom “however you want to do it”. I think at that point I was just thinking “Lord I can’t do anything right by these people today that just want to control every move I make.”

I guess it just gets tiring being around so many people that are so opinionated and have to do things their way – every little thing – it gets so tiring. Can I just make a decision on my own puhhhhlease? It may be little things but it seemed all morning long no matter what I tried to do or say it was getting corrected or needed to be done a different way. Mom said “Sonya” —and then stopped. And it’s a good thing she did as I’d have probably left and gone home if she’d said another word. I’d had enough of being told what to do and how to do it. I told her “hey – I said however you want to do it. I’m agreeing with you – take it!”

I’m surprised someone didn’t barge into the bathroom and explain to me how they wanted me to tear the paper off the roll and wipe my butt. Sorry, TMI, but that is how I feel. I can’t move without someone trying to correct every move or telling me what to do. “Lock this, close that, open this, put that here, where’s this, you are walking too fast, no do it this way, put it here, sit here, let’s do this, let’s do that”.

I think I just need Calgon to come take me away. And I’m laughing because as I typed that it changed to Calvin instead of Calgon. I’m like who is Calvin? If he can let me be my own person and treat me nicely I might go with him! Just kidding, but gosh. What a day.

Bottom line is I think I’m just overly tired and stretched too thin and quite frankly just had enough of everyone. I’m not getting any time to myself to rejuvenate and likely not getting any rest. So guess what? This is what you get. You get your way most of the time still but I’m coming out of my skin to call you on it when I’m tired. It is true that I usually let everyone around me have their way. Give me a tired moment and let me have my way once please?

So we ate sandwiches on the patio which I’d been looking forward to. We did it Mom’s way and fixed our plate on the counter. I don’t see as it made much difference. I ended up having to carry the fixed plates to the patio, lol. So it wasn’t easier for me but if was easier for everyone else that is fine. But whatever.

So bottom line? Did George settle up with Mom? No he didn’t have change and I didn’t either. I told him so in the deli. But he had to have his way. Everyone has to have their way. So I let them. Now Mom has been short changed. I was just trying to make it right for her. George was trying to not have the place go to so much trouble. So we were both right except for his treatment of me and shushing me aside and overriding every little thing I tried to say. He should have just let it go. Instead I did. Arghhh. I hate situations like this. It was embarrassing for all. But bottom line the problems is now ours to fix. Well his. And I’m going to let him fix it as he is the one that owes her – not me. He overruled me.

I’m not going to hold a grudge over this incident. I’m going to let it go. I’m just venting. It’s just one of those things that happens in marriage and relationships. But I may need to set some boundaries about not being interrupted when I am talking, handling a transaction, or ordering. If I’m truly doing something wrong it’s one thing. But it made it confusing for everyone. There is more than one way to skin a rabbit but no need to try to skin it three ways at once.

The tribe has spoken.

Coming back home, I had about three or four days of stuff to do. I did not get it all done. I had laundry to do, ironing to do, kitchen to clean, dishwasher to reboot, dishes to wash. Work bag to pack for the week, vitamin/med pack to fill up for the week. I had my colonoscopy instructions to read so I’d know what all I can’t take this week as far as supplements. But I did take time to consolidate all the notes, thoughts, ideas, and to do’s that had accumulated across my desk for the past month.

I still did not get finished blogging today but I am already running behind. There is still way too much on my to do list for the week. Grad cards need to be mailed, we need to get to the bank, still haven’t worked on the cable, haven’t finished the dog applications (the ones I was doing, George finished his). I did get some dusting done though, Yay and changed George’s sheets. I have to go to Publix and pick up Rx and get groceries that Sprouts didn’t have.

I’m actually looking forward to the Colonoscopy to get a day at home. I still have to go have the procedure so it’s not a true day at home but at least I’ll have some down time to rest and/or do things I want to do that allow you to sit and do it. It’s so frustrating to fight with my time. Even now I’m probably late to work. And will have to work over to make it up. Always robbing Peter to pay Paul with time. Arghhhhhh! I was going to work on the schedule yesterday and figure a few things out, but I didn’t have time. How ironic.

Music City Brew Hop, Monday Night Brewing, and Easter Meal Menu

Well, George and I had a fabulous day yesterday. We’ve looked forward to the day for a while. I wasn’t convinced that I could endure the “number” of breweries we visited yesterday but I knew I’d enjoy the journey of it – as we were going by trolley with the Music City Brewhop! If I counted right, I believe we managed to hit five of them. :-/. Katy had given this to George for Christmas.

Well, so, what was my strategy? For me to enjoy this length of a day and get to experience each one, I only had 1/2 pints. And honestly I think that will be my strategy for any visit in the future as it worked well. We were at each place for about an hour. We started out at Tailgate East where we actually parked at a nearby Kroger, as had been suggested as we started our tour there. While waiting for the trolley we had our first beer of the day.

Our trolley tour line up included:

  • Tailgate East
  • Monday Night
  • Crazy Gnome
  • East Nashville Beer Works
  • Barrique Brew

Here were the choices but we didn’t hit all of them.

My favorite was “Monday Night”. I’ve never seen anything like it. The charm of it’s half torn down former meat packing plant – now open – in the state it was for a brewery. As we got closer to it, it seemed like we were in a live computer game. I know some of you are not into video, but you’ll see what I mean below.

It also had amazing views of the Cumberland River.

Monday night had tons of room. And a very unique place. Above are some inside photos we took.

The Crazy Gnome

We also went to one called the Crazy Gnome. I didn’t take pics at all places though. The crazy gnome was fun. Both inside and outside seating. Our day started off completely sunny and mostly without clouds. But as the day wore on layers of cloud cover developed and it never rained on us but we wondered if we would.

George got the sampler flight here. And then we were getting hungry. We ate a pizza at East Nashville Beer Works. I love the breweries that serve food too, even if it is just appetizers. But we went for the pizza and it was perfect! It was kindof between a small and medium size pizza. It was perfect. I forgot to take a picture of it as we inhaled it upon arrival. lol

East Nashville Beer Works had the Pizza!

So I have to explain going into the video below….I am laughing because right before I shot this, I had to wait until George finished “adjusting himself”. This is normally not something I would share, obviously. But being that I interrupted this activity and said “when you get through diggin’ in your britches, I wanna do a video”. So we are laughing here and then George makes this statement at the end…..well, I’ll let you watch the clip. All these clips are short so no worries on time. If you got time to read, you got time to see them and you don’t want to miss this. So I had to explain what was going on otherwise you’d think us to be nuts. We are anyway but…..you’ll see why I had to explain.

Barrique

So we also went to Barrique, which was our last stop. It was in Little Harpeth Brewing’s old building. Little Harpeth moved to “the Nations” part of Nashville where several other breweries are. We think we may do our own little tour over there in the Nations at some point. I was disappointed that the view out the back was covered up so you couldn’t see. That had been the perk of Little Harpeth – seeing the trains and the Nashville Skyline out the back warehouse door. Barrique is losing some charm by not allowing that view as a part of their setting. I tried to capture it in the video above! I was ready for a munchie here and all they had were pretzels. I could have used some carrots and hummus, lol. But no, expect no prepared food at Barrique.

Barrique is unique as it has more sours than anything. Matter of fact. I got water there which was nice that the gentleman actually gave to me at no charge. It was time for water as I’d not had much water. I’m not into the sours but I will say I have not given it much of a chance either. But yesterday was not my chance as it was our last stop and I was done for the day. I tried a sip of George’s and realized it was pretty good. So there is hope for me yet on liking the sours. And I’ll give Barrique another chance.

While my strategy worked for me yesterday of just 1/2 pint or 1/2 pour at each – it’s still important to stay hydrated and alcohol can be very much the opposite so I’d recommend having a water bottle or container with you for sips here and there. They didn’t seem to mind us having water on the trolley as long as we removed the trash.

At that rate, I was also going to be fine to drive. As was George b/c it was usually over an hour before each beer and you lose them at one per hour. So no intoxication in case you wondered. But we didn’t have to drive until the end of day. We looked into hotels and the prices drew us away. Too unreasonable!

We (the trolley) also dropped some visitors off in downtown Nashville and that was fun being on the trolley. There was a Garth Brooks concert only two hours from that point and the roads were starting to be filled with police set ups, road closures, and various traffic set ups for that. But we got in and out quickly.

Before heading home, George and I went out to eat in Mount Juliet for a proper meal at Chada Thai Restaurant as the pizza had mainly kind of been an appetizer as it was small and we were ready for dinner as it was wearing off. We chose Asian for a hot meal. And we both enjoyed hot green tea as well which was very good.

I got the Bento Box as it had a lot of everything. But it was too much for me to eat. I loved the salad and the chicken dish and the sushi and the sweet potato tempura. The rice was a bit too dry and the egg roll was more like tempura’d instead of the egg rolls I am used to. I was not a fan. The crab sticks tasted really fishy as did the seaweed of course. But it was fun to try it all and I had plenty of it to eat. And of course as you see below, nothing would be wasted.

Overall, it was a great day. I failed to mention we started our day at Chic Filet so we’d have something on our tummies and I think that was important as not all the breweries had food. I think some type of food is expected and appropriate. But we are foodies as much as we love a good brewery. I think their beer sales increase also when you can get some food in you and stay longer. Sometimes we’ve opted out on restaurants because we ate the brew food instead. There’s just my plug for more food at breweries – not a complete menu lineup but a few things at least – salsa and chips go a long way as does hummus and carrots. There are a lot they could without having to cook a thing. Pimento and cheese and celery and pita chips. No stoves necessary. Come on. Just do it breweries! 😉

Weekend Outlook and Easter Meal

So, today is Saturday and our Brew Hop is over and I’m the one cooking the easter meal for tomorrow. George is cooking the ham. I’m fixing the rest. I am happy to say that it gives me great joy to be able to fix the meal for my family. For some reason George has not seemed invested in the meal like he normally is and that is ok, because it gives me a chance to cook and claim back some kitchen time. Here’s what we are having:

  • Honey Spiraled Ham
  • Macaroni Salad
  • Green Beans mixed with Speckled Butter Beans
  • Corn
  • Dressed Eggs
  • Sister Schubert Rolls
  • Lemon Ice Box Pie
  • Half Sweet Iced Tea with Lemon

Then we will have leftovers. So I’m fixing what I can today – macaroni salad, dressed eggs, dessert and tea. Then the other can be heated up tomorrow for dinner tomorrow night. I have to see what we are doing for lunch though because we’ll be hungry for something after church. Since George wants the Easter meal to be at night instead of lunch we’ll have to do subway or something. I wonder if anything will be open. I may need to run to the store again and get sandwiches to hold us over. If it had been up to me I’d do the Easter meal as soon as we got home and got it all heated up. But he wanted to do dinner I think so he could do yard work. So I will try to comply. ::sigh::

Anyway I have a lot to do today so I’m getting started. I will need to set the table decor for Easter and also want to finish cleaning up the sun room for sitting in there for the next six weeks or so before it gets so hot you can’t stand it.

Things I’m Looking Forward To

Enjoy it because I’ve not looked forward to much of late.

  • I’m going to enjoy attacking the hell out of quarter end, lol – believe it or not. I’m ready to get it done and over with. And not much time left.
  • I’m looking forward to George getting my office file cabinet put together and it’s on his list, but then I can get my office back together for the first time in about a year. Everything will be accessible then and I can function and I plan on doing a lot of writing and creating after a bit of an organizational period.
  • I’m looking forward to having some reading time at some point
  • Working the puzzle from Christmas that I can finally begin to work on. Some of these things may not happen til May as I’ll be losing some personal time due to working more because of quarter end.
  • Working on a list of things I want to happen to manifest (bring to fruition)
  • Work on the Bucket List for Summer
  • Put out my summer wardrobe
  • Buy some new sandals
  • Watch some hair styling videos
  • Buy a new shirt or two for summer
  • Work on my new way of doing videos
  • Start my new video
  • Do some writing I’ve been wanting to do
  • Analyze a few things (good things no worries, lol)
  • Plan some things – we have a few things to get on the calendar for May and June – May is filling up fast and about to spillover into June now. (Company coming, Mom has some things she needs us for and then we have an excursion or two).

So as I long as I don’t get frustrated over the time pieces – we are good, but I’m trying to learn how to do more with less time and getting the office reorganized will help me with a few things. I’m tired of sticky notes and index cards laying everywhere! I’m ready to get back to being me and being functional with the little bits of time we can find!

Ok I better get on with my busy day. What are you having for an easter meal? And let me know if you made it this far in the post! 😉

Home Sweet Home, Surprise Stop for Sushi, and Czann’s Brewing Company in Nashville

Photo by Kelly L on Pexels.com

So we are home from our magical little trip. Sleep was good last night, and not near long enough. I’ve discovered that naturally my body seeks out about 9 to 10 hours of sleep now for some reason. When I’m off I normally sleep that much. So the 6.5 during the work week is why I’m so tired by mid-week I guess. I’m learning these things of late. I did not want to get up this morning at 4:20 and honestly – I didn’t. I set another alarm for 4:40 and that seemed like 2 seconds.

The drive home seemed long on the last half of the 6 hour journey. We had stopped to grab lunch at Wendy’s. And then as we approached Nashville, I reminded George “we are never on this side of town” and suggested that we go to Czann’s grab a beer and maybe hit Trader Joe’s for a few groceries for this week. He agreed and was totally up for that.

A lady at Czann’s told us about a good sushi restaurant called Sonobana. We were so full from the weekend and sushi was about the only thing that sounded good. Of course eating out with George is NEVER light. I ordered what I wanted to eat and then he ordered a lot of appetizers for the both of us and it was too much. I should have said no. lol But it was all so good.

Then we went to Trader Joe’s and brought home some healthy food for the week as well as some favorites that we like from there – like their tamales. They have beef tamales and also black bean tamales – like original ones that are frozen and taste so good and so freshly made. Anyway we are planning on eating foods that make you lose belly fat this week. My nudge challenge did ok but was blown out the window on our trip. lol

I snapped this while watching Dr. Berg on YouTube. He’s mainly Keto but has some really good lessons on eating. No I’m not taking Cod Liver Oil but I might buy the pill version. The hamburger listed here is hamburger steak. While red meat is not so good to eat all the time, once or twice a week is supposedly fine and this is a hamburger patty (not the hamburger on bread with toppings). I was shocked to read that too. I think we bought most of this but the sauerkraut and broccoli sprouts. I actually did buy nutritional yeast to sprinkle on things.

Oh, while waiting for a table at the restaurant we went to a little market next door and bought some asian foods. Oh well, you can’t see what we bought as the bottles are turned around but these are sauces and noodles for some Asian dishes that George likes to fix.

So it’s back at it this week. A full week with some catching up from last week. Most everything was done but a couple of things. And when I close payroll tomorrow it will be Month End/Quarter End so I will have a LOT TO DO over the next month. A lot of staying a bit later, not taking much time for lunch and maybe a few early days, but at least the days are lighter now so it won’t be dark.

I really haven’t glanced too much at the to do list yet. I wanted to enjoy a few days without thinking about a to do list. I know I have a few amazon orders to do, have a lot of laundry to do. I will resume with my video projects and get on with the clean up of the last one and will set up some files for the future ones from my iPhone. On my board it says I need to organize files from Dec 19th til present so I need to do that.

On the way to Hot Springs, I deleted over a 1,000 pics and videos that had already been copied over into files and many in a video. Once the video is made and uploaded I’ll delete them from my phone. I only do that a couple of times a year- or maybe quarterly. I usually can only do a few at a time as I do it while waiting or riding somewhere. I’m afraid to delete them from the cloud until I’m done – I’m sure it would be fine but one time all my pics went black in iMovie and I’m not sure what happened so I just leave them there from now on until I am completely through. But…I need to do the flip side and get the ones I haven’t made into the files for creating the next movie. I give them a theme or a title and break them up into their respective folders. For example, I’ll have one called “Hot Springs”.

Ok so I guess I’ll be back on Wednesday for a mid-week check in. I think Mom has her doc appt on Friday. And then Fancy Trim Saturday. So we at least have Sunday this week to do things in the house and do errands, store again, and then try to get some of our fun things done. The struggle is real to sneak those in.

I have a ship load of laundry to do, but I will have to do that at night I guess. Not here to get it done. And I’m getting off of here before I begin wining about time. I’m getting slower to accomplish everything but still determined to get it all done.

So ya’ll have a grand week and I’ll be ticking off boxes everywhere I can.