Choosing Happy and Finding THAT ONE THING that Makes Your Day Feel Worthwhile

I have this “Choose Happy” hanging in my laundry room, where I actually spend a chunk of my time. It spoke to me yesterday. This week we are in now is THE last week of quarter end, year end. In a normal quarter end it is bad enough but year end is quarter end on steroids x 2 and multiplied by life’s curve balls = the reason why I call it “impossible”. Normally impossible is not in my vocabulary. But the month of January is very persuasive in thought and action and is convincing me otherwise.

Regardless, I have fought with myself nearly every day but as I near the deadline my attitude, my resolve, and my determination are on very shaky ground. My immediate thought this morning was that I should not talk to anyone for a week because I would do nothing but complain. And it is true that I will probably just not do a lot of talking this week.

My second thought was that every day of this last crunch week, I need to just do THAT ONE THING that is going to make me feel like I have a life that day. Just THAT ONE THING, so that I can go on and choose to be happy for that day, and feel less like a robot checking off eternal boxes that never seem to end.

While everyone else in the universe was enjoying their Sunday afternoon and evening, I was working. But after I packed up my “suitcase” of work, and before dinner, I decided to find time for THAT ONE THING that would make me feel like I’m am my own person and able to something I want to do. So I downloaded another song from Epidemic Sound – not just a download but picking it out. That was a big deal to me.

So now I have the two songs that will be on Roger’s tribute. I still need about another two hours of editing to make it viewer worthy. And that will be one of my first projects in February among the big list, unless somehow I find some surprise time or make it THAT ONE THING I get accomplished each day.

I will confess though that going to Walmart yesterday could have been my second thing. I know it sounds hilarious but just to have time to go to a grocery store, walk the isles, and pick out food we love and look at things was a delight. And it was a huge morale boost to have food in the house again that was fresh, food in the fridge, and not just frozen meats, canned goods, and crackers with nothing to put on them. ha. Finding something to eat in a hurry like we have been in, has been – bland or non existent.

So I’m trying hard to be content during the impossible week. And I guess each day I’ll do THAT ONE THING (which has to be a quick thing). All this week, I am choosing to still have my hour in the mornings. IF I don’t have that my sanity will leave the building. I’m already going to be tough to be around this week. So I’m trying to curb my talking so that the truth does not come out about how insane this line up is for IMPOSSIBLE WEEK.

I started to take a pic of my check list – of all the withholding returns, unemployment returns, and all the w-2 reporting for both of our companies that I do but I guess that would be “too much” to share. And you wouldn’t believe it anyway. I will try to get everything done this month but I’m not sure it is going to happen. My week is only built to have a few hours to work on taxes as most of it goes to payroll and at the year end there is just so much extra and no time allotted for it for one person. This year I’ve had extra on me with Mom and family responsibility time such as a grandson’s first birthday that we would not miss, and not to mention all the snow, and working through being sick with some flu like thing. It’s taken about a week or more from me in total and that did not help my work’s cause. lol. I’ve tried to make up all the time. And I’ll be giving it my best shot this last week to get it done. And I’ll be finding THAT ONE THING each day to do (besides my morning personal hour) to make me feel like something in the day is on my own agenda. No Mom responsibilities this week. That I am aware of. We gave her half our week last week in spare time. She should be good.

I will try to post something each day but there could be some missing days if I choose to work on video. So in case I’m not here, have a great week ahead, CHOOSE HAPPY, if not speak little, lol and find THAT ONE THING that makes your day worth while.

Staging Your Day for Contentment and Happiness

I have a bad habit of taking quotes like this and picking it apart, agreeing or disagreeing. I guess it’s the conversations you have with yourself, invisible arguments with no one, LOL! While I do agree one must be comfortable with the details of their life before being happy, I also think that one has to feel spiritually connected as well, and satisfied that one is meeting our Father’s goals and doing His will. Scriptures indicate joy and peace as a fruit of the Spirit. Even with the mess going on everywhere in the world, it’s comforting to know that we can still maintain a level of joy and peace. The devil tries to overcome us and keep us with fear and anxiety to keep us stirred. Only God can bring a level of protection over man, our fear, and layer on the fruits of his spirits. And nothing can keep us from our God, not even death.

Staging Contentment

That said above, I work hard to have little things – little daily details in life that bring me joy – at work, at home, and even in the car. At work the things that I stage to bring me joy are:

  • Food – having what I need right there, and having options, including snacks, healthy options, and maybe chocolate 🙂
  • Drinks – again having options – water, tea, coffee, and my greens and fruits
  • Gum, mints
  • Sayings, reminders, my daily calendar
  • Plants – even if they are fake
  • Family pictures around me
  • Ability to play music if I need – requiring ear buds
  • My daily calendar that brings encouragement
  • A nice computer setting background and theme – changes weekly lol
  • A working computer, functionality of the office equipment, back up office supplies so no running out
  • Working out of the way and beyond to avoid surprises but they still happen anyway, lol.
  • My window – which I’m having to close the blinds as it’s 80 degrees if I don’t

At home, hmmmm, that is so broad it’s hard to narrow down the details that bring contentment as so much does. But we are talking about staging your details to bring contentment. We do it without thinking about the fact that we are doing so.

  • Coffee – having coffee available makes me happy
  • Setting a routine makes me comfortable and happy
  • Having lots of food options in the freezer and pantry
  • Having control over the calendar and my time
  • Being able to schedule some down time and protect it like a fragile bird – lol.
  • Organization and function in the home
  • Decor and aesthetics
  • Greenery in each room lifts the mood – even if it’s a fake plant that doesn’t look fake
  • Positive sayings or Nic Naks that bring joy when you look at them
  • Family pictures
  • Loving Pets and Pets to Love
  • Favorite quilts in bedrooms and sitting rooms
  • Functional Washer and Dryer and other appliances
  • Easy to access items
  • No clutter
  • A To Do List – I’ll never be bored EVER!
  • Lots of drink options here too, including iced tea, wine, beer, mixed drinks if I want, after dinner drink – no not all at once. One a day – maybe two if dinner is late. It’s five o’clock somewhere and then it’s six o’clock! lol

In the car:

  • Car phone plug/cord, phone holder, gum, hand sanitizer, cup holder, drink, Alexa to go, audible, sunglasses – the obvious!

How detailed do we want to go here? I could go on at how I stage things to bring me joy through the day. The joy of everyday living! A comfortable bed, Vicks Vaporub at bedside for stuffy nose, sleep spray for a sleepless night – the staging is endless. Our every need met. We are rich in so many ways and spoil ourselves. So little in detail but yet aids in the contentment and comforts of our being.

Three shampoos in the bathroom – always – one a herbal essence, one a Suave Rosemary mint, the other is allowed to change to try new ones. These little things bring me joy. ;-). Certain types of cleaning supplies one gets used to that bring glee when you smell it or when it works. These little things bring happiness. Clean bed linens and towels and clean underwear. Blessing the nest! Ok I’ll stop!

Other than that I really don’t have much for you in two days time. So I simply chat about “staging your happy”. Hey it works for me. I hope it works for you!

Good Food, Good Times, Good Joy

We get GREAT JOY out of our menu planning board. Much conversation goes around it. I fixed spaghetti Wednesday night. Mainly wanted to give George a break as he worked in the yard this week, as we had a really rainy period from days last week making it hard to keep things under control.

Salad I fixed on spaghetti night with some fresh greens, celery, carrots, cheese, and splurging with garlic and onion croutons.

I even made garlic, cheese bread. I used up some hot dog buns as Mom and George like their white bread. I used a whole grain muffin for mine. Still bad with the butter and cheese. Mom likes bread almost every meal. I would be as big as a barn. I cannot do that.

You know what though? I’m craving bacon! Might have to fix some Sunday. I think we are having to lay low b/c of the rampant “illness” in our community. So maybe Sunday morning we will have time.

I had dinner with a friend at Memo’s in Mount Juliet last night. She got fajitas and they looked great. I got the 3 enchilada meal and although good, left kinda hungry. Three small folder over tacos of a sort, not much meat, not much of anything really – not even beans and rice. I could have added them (beans and rice) separately for $3 each. Was just not enough for an $11 plate of food. Quite pitiful. Not enough to compete with the restaurants around. Sadly, I’ll likely not be back there. Just didn’t meet the expectations. Taste was not anything special either. The others are better. I didn’t want it to be that way, but it just is. I could have easily made this at home. I had to eat more chips and salsa to fill up. Oh well. But I did enjoy the conversation with my friend Christie. We caught up a bit. Two hours worth of chatting.

Meanwhile in Texas

Someone else got to try spaghetti today -he was not sure at first but liked it! Once he got it in his mouth. lol

Keep your chin up out there. You have the power to make life how you want it – if only in the little details! Sometimes we can’t control the big things like we want, but we can control the little things and little details to make our days better. I’m sure I missed a LOT above – just the few things I thought of while sipping my morning nectar (coffee). We really are blessed in so many ways aren’t we?

What details of your day bring you joy? How do you stage YOUR day for contentment?

Burgers, Babies, and a few Yahoos!

Good morning, as I type this, although it may be afternoon while reading! It is Friday! TGIF! It’s been a quick little minute of a week! Packed with lots of work and a little bit of fun aside in the small crannies of time when we are not working.

We took Mom to get a burger Wednesday night. She eats a LOT of burgers during the week normally but is not driving up here. So I try to figure out how to make her world more normal. She and Fancy would go out and “get a burger”. Fancy got her own – not the bread but just the patty. Fancy couldn’t go this time though as we were going in and sitting down inside the restaurant. We chose a restaurant that we could be served – Burger Republic. I love that place! It’s been good EVERY time we have been. And it’s nice to get a good side salad with a burger instead of fries. They have a gluten free bun but I got the regular one this time.

George and I also enjoyed a Calfkiller beer. I couldn’t tell you right now which one it was, some kind of lager. It had a good taste. We have been to Calfkiller brewery before a few years ago- near Sparta, TN but it’s a ways out and a good day trip. As for the name – well – named after the Calfkiller River. Then you’d have to research that one. What a name huh? The beer was very smooth and pleasant. I sipped mine.

Guess who had his 6 month check up and shots? She is keeping him entertained. He LOVES and NEEDS to be entertained. He loves to eat and keep busy!

We got to face time him at his dinner last night. Katy fed him fruits and greens. She said “watch his face when I give him peas”. He made a horrible face and spit it out. She has to mix his fruits with the greens to get it down.

There was a retirement party at work yesterday. It was the first time we had been able to eat and gather together in our break room in a year and half. It was nice. We still had box lunches though and not buffet. It was Panera’s box lunches. Pretty good!

Then at home last night we had pork chops and Mom made an awesome banana pudding. I was about to take a pic of it but Mom had already dipped hers out so I didn’t take a pic. Nobody wants to see half eaten pudding. So you will have to use your imagination. That said, it was really good. Nobody was eating the bananas bought so Mom made the pudding.

Weight Loss Encouragement

I still have my 5 lbs of fat I ordered from Amazon. I think it’s important to realize just how much fat you lose when you lose 5 lbs or any number of lbs. I saw this yesterday on social media and thought it would be good to share. So it kindof gives you some perspective and makes you want to try harder.

We have really been eating well and probably more since Mom has been here. So something has to give. We have more breakfasts on the weekend and eat more meals, and taking leftovers for lunch that are more fattening. It’s all been good but I need to be careful and cut back some. It’s just been kinda like a celebration though – now that the BIG MOVE is over. We have been eating a lot of favorite foods and sharing the joy of our favorite meals with Mom and hers with us.

All that said, we have Corned Beef and Cabbage coming this weekend. And going out for Taco Tuesday at a new place in town —you guessed it —next Tuesday. lol

Mom’s House Build Update

The wood came in finally. It was late. So I think we are a week behind schedule – maybe two. They told Mom they were putting extra crew on it to get it back on schedule. We’ll see. They do have a timeline though and it is a domino impact with all the ones being built down the line. So they were to begin framing the house this week. So exciting!

Looking at the chart here, we are three months away from closing. I’m thinking it’ll be behind that schedule but we will see what happens. Maybe by Thanksgiving or Christmas.

It’s looking like our holidays will be busy! But one thing is for sure – on THIS MOVE, there IS NO TIMELINE! Mom will be anxious to get in there and we’ll help her get there as quick as possible – making it livable. I told her I’d stay over a bit on some weekend nights to plump and perty her up! But again there is no timeline on this end of things.

We will have to have enough time to do some shopping and prep for Christmas.

A List of Yahoos!

  • We get to go look at flooring tomorrow! YESSSSSSSSSS!
  • Today is Friday and we are going to eat pizza tonight! (Not working on losing those 5 lbs just yet!)
  • I finished reading the New Testament this year already. Reading the books of the Bible backwards. I’m in Amos now in the OT. Started in Jan I think. Only 2 chapters a day. Very doable! Try it! Every morning I journal a prayer of thanks and needs, worries, requests, and then read my 2 chapters. It really sets my day off right!
  • I have been able to work on the next video – every other morning – doing voice overs and editing mainly, music is next.
  • I found 5 minutes to stick a few puzzle pieces in.
  • Made reservations for Mom’s birthday.
  • I’ve been reading a book on the Kindle app of my phone at night, lol. It’s called “The Next Wife”, author last name of Rouda. A simple read and very easy to read without much thought, but one that has me very hooked! Page turner.
  • Also booted out an audio book I was struggling through and began “Where the CrawDads Sing. It’s really good so far.” Making me look forward to drive time.
  • I have a chunk done on my to do list. I’m at the point where I can work on the gravy now! That makes me happy.
  • The weekend is pretty open. We will manage to keep busy but it’s a good busy!

THANK THE LORD! LIFE FEELS SOMEWHAT NORMAL. NO BODY BREATHE or SAY a WORD because it MAY ALL CHANGE in ONE SWIFT HEARTBEAT!

And it usually does.

Ya’ll have a Good Friday. I’m working on Quarter End after my normal Friday duties are done, if there are no employee payroll issues (odds are good this week there will be) but we will do the best we can and then the weekend begins! Whatcha doing today yourself?

See ya’ll sometime on the weekend. Lord Willing’ and the creeks don’t rise. They might, rains coming!