How’s YOUR Psyche Doing Today?

Red Spider Lillies

These caught my attention pulling in the drive yesterday. Often we are so busy I don’t notice as they are in the back yard next to the tree line. But bright red with the sun shining down on it caught my eyes. See, after yesterday’s post, I may not have stopped to smell the roses (didn’t see any) but I did stop to admire the spider lilies!

I also stopped mid-day to go to Logans and get salmon on top of rice, a side of broccoli, a side salad, and ice tea. Yes, I ate a buttered roll for dessert. I was going to tell her no rolls but she brought them to the table when I sat down. It was meant to be but I only ate one. It was so good. I have to have a salmon fix every now and then. Mom does not like much fish so we’ve not fixed it at home. Sometimes I don’t either unless the fishy taste is covered up good with a good sauce. While at Logans I blew through some 400 something emails. I have not taken the time to check them in a few days. I am going to have to eliminate some of them. But I missed my bone density results. I haven’t even looked at them yet. I saw the email sitting there and didn’t want to log in on my phone. I would mess up the password. I can get in on the Mac w/o having to log in again. So I will look this weekend at the results.

What if we went around asking each other “How’s Your Psyche Doing Today?”

I slept from 9:15 last night to 7:10 this morning. I woke up around 1:30 and sipped water and had to go to the bathroom. This is most nights. One time. Sleep was just wonderful. And my psyche is doing a lot better. A rosier side.

What if we went around and asked each other “How’s Your Psyche Today?”. That would be interesting conversation wouldn’t it? But can you imagine? “My psyche is pleased today. I’m not as stressed. I’m letting go.” or “My psyche is in a weird place today, a little depressed, and moody, and dark.”

People should really talk about their psyches more I guess but we all have so much baggage at times, in a hurry, and who wants to go there really? Well I’m all about loving anything psychological so I’d be for a good ole psyche discussion most any time. But I’ve always wanted to go deeper into conversations than most people want to go. So I try hard just not to talk as I know that about me, but if I ever get going and someone listens, I tend to go overboard b/c I think I’m conversation starved sometimes. That said, sometimes I don’t know what to talk about so go figure! As I’m typing this, I’m realizing the art of conversation has just really changed in my lifetime I think. What do you think? We are less interested in each other and spend more time just getting our opinions out there.

I suppose everyone talks about weather, sports, the dreaded illness that is so rampant. But not many really talk about what is on their mind, or ask each other genuinely how they are doing, or how’s your Mom and ’em? It’s as much my fault as anyone’s. I always dive into what we are doing or what we’ve done or what we are dealing with and go from there to start conversations. Honestly really hadn’t thought much about it until I started typing. I usually don’t know where I’m going when I start typing. It’s kinda both amazing and freaky what happens when I type. lol

Been a while since we went to a Titan’s game. We had a lot of fun adventures when George worked for Gibson. We met a lot of people. Many became friends. Or at least for a while, while paths crossed, businesses ventured, and geography allowed it. I haven’t really thought about these foodie Tailgate adventures we loved so much, celebrating life, enjoying a day out, watching football, eating cold brats afterward and riding with friends on their tailgate bus back to the car. I saw this pic and remembered those days.

We had many an evening that vendors took us out to nice places. Now so much has happened in our world, I am apprehensive to even be in Nashville at night. I’m sure it’s fine, but not always. It seems in so many ways, the carefree days are over. The days of fun and food and adventure and travel. I know that is not entirely true, but it’s not like it was anyway. And here I go zooming down the dark path again like yesterday. Not meaning to, but recognizing the difference. There is a sadness now I didn’t have back then. Mainly in looking at our world, not me, just our world is sad and angry and different as a whole.

This makes me realize if I feel this way, others must also. It means a lot in our world when someone smiles even and honestly wishes you to have a good day. Or speaks to you with kind words. I have noticed it has greater meaning! We must do it more. Being kind to our waiters and waitresses, checkers, people we pass on the street. We need more nice and kind.

Be someone’s hero for the day! So let’s challenge ourselves:

  1. Say something extra to those you come in contact with.
  2. Smile more and say hello.
  3. Be helpful even to strangers.
  4. Genuinely ask your friends how they are doing and mean it.
  5. Reach out to three of your social media buds by commenting on their picture, post, etc. Comments mean a lot.
  6. Just Connect.
  7. Say more to your coworkers when you are in the same room or pass.
  8. Have lunch with a friend(s)
  9. _______________ Keep going with this list and make other suggestions in the comments. It’s endless, but we have to make our daily world a better place. What if we changed someone’s day by a smile or a few simple words or actions?

Or it’s a Disciplined Mind and a Wild Eye or a Wild mind and a Wild Eye but probably never a Disciplined Mind and Disciplined Eye? Who knows! lol

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Ok so….Mom liked her doctor on Thursday and was able to get her Rx’s filled. However, after sleeping on it, decided that she didn’t like the fact that he didn’t take her blood pressure, temperature, and that I had mentioned how dingy the office area looked (it was for a doc office). So she has decided she doesn’t want to stay under him. We’ve kinda gone through all the doctor’s practices in Hermitage, Lebanon and Mount Juliet that take the hospital system she wants to be under. So many of them not taking new patients. Many of them not taking Medicare. So she is backing herself now into us having to go to Nashville. Or she will have to relax her standards. I am probably going to refuse to go to Nashville. I don’t drive there and park downtown, so…..I’m setting boundaries. I mean I would do it if there was just an emergency or the only doctor in town that will do xyz! But not for a primary care. It’s been shocking to me at how many doc offices refuse to deal with medicare. Mom doesn’t want to be at a doc office that ONLY does medicare b/c she says you don’t get the best care. She also doesn’t want any care from 2 of the 3 hospital systems in our area b/c of the same reason. So we’ve dwindled down to having to relax some standards here. I have spent SO MUCH TIME researching docs with her criteria and still can’t seem to find the one.

So I told her while she sits here all day and plays games on her tablet and reads political agendas on Facebook (we hear about it at dinner) then she will have time to do research on the doctors in the area. lol. That way she can see what I’m talking about. It’s my opinion you have to manage your own health care in a way. I told Mom “tell ’em you want your temp taken and blood pressure checked, tell ’em how you want it to go”. I understand her concerns though. I’m not heartless. It’s also concerning to me that they did not do these very basic things most doc does. They even called her back before she finished the paperwork, leaving me scratching my head. So I’m not sure what the answer is. I just know I’m tired of trying to find a doctor to please so “I’m gonna let” her do it since I’m striking out. At least we found a good heart doctor. Maybe they will be able to make her a good recommendation.

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Anyway we are going out to Lebanon today to see Mom’s house, eat some BBQ, and check out some parts of Lebanon, maybe stopping at a few places – a butcher shop, a gourmet farmers market, and so forth. Not really sure what all we are going to do but we are taking Mom out to get her out of the house some.

Tomorrow we are hanging out with my SIL and BIL going to a newer brewery they’ve not been to, and out to eat and to see their new place in Lebanon. We miss them and need to catch up. They have sold their house in Gallatin and living in Lebanon a little closer to us and certainly more accessible to us since we will be in Lebanon a lot. Of course they have two locales, as they have a condo in the mountains near their grandchild (what a thought huh?) Well their grandchild is only 4 hours away and ours is more like 14! Yes, we have considered having an apartment in TX! But it’s not worth it b/c we wouldn’t be there enough to warrant it. At least not right now while we are working FT.

Anyway, I think this is a good point to end the blog. But it’s a good day. We’ll be open minded, sipping coffee, doing laundry, doing some weekend routines and getting ready for a little day out. Sunny and 84 today. And I’m going back for more coffee if there is any left. My heart is just so glad it’s the weekend. There’s nothing like working on YOUR OWN agenda. Even if you love the job you do, it’s just nice to be on your own turf doing your own thing. Not hustling (no hurries) more coffee. Maybe I should have named the blog “lesshurrymorecoffee” but at the time, I was doing a side hustle of network marketing and made an abrupt turn after circumstances, sprituality, and some soul searching changed my thinking.

Sometimes I think of changing the blog, the blog title, and so forth but I already have SO MUCH invested in this title and in building up the blog, the videos, and social media- so I stick with it. Even though my growth is not very big. I don’t want to lose what steam it has. It’s not a bad theme. It’s still me – I don’t want to hurry – I want to enjoy life – and I love my coffee to get me started and my wine to finish! 😉 What you all doing on this fine Saturday in September?

Meanwhile in Texas…

I absolutely LOVE these photos of my grandson. He is so cute in the hat and overalls! I think I shall order one for a frame! Or two or three! So precious. I can’t wait to hug him at Christmas.

A Day of Fresh Air Spent with Friends and a Small Rant

Here she is…that new simple but sleek Coffee Pot that I love – from Amazon. We have enjoyed the brew yesterday and this morning.

We had a nice morning yesterday just lounging a bit. Was happy not to have to go do the errand running we were planning at first. George had wanted to go to McKayes Bookstore. But due to Covid-19 and not wanting to put too much into the day, George decided we’d enjoy our morning at home. It was his day so he got to decide.

He made his veggie pizza and got the filet mignon beef bobs ready and I made dressed eggs for our friends get together at Paul and Judy’s. Cheryl and Joe also. It was rainy off and on and instead of pool time we sat around and talked on the patio. Fans and frequent breezes from nearby rain brought comfortable temps.

We had a lot of appetizers and munched. And we had an amazing dinner with all of our compilations. Kabobs (both beef and chicken) and burgers, pasta salad (yum), dressed eggs (or deviled eggs however you prefer – I switch the terms), potatoes. Key lime pie, brownies, ice cream, strawberry toppings for dessert.

Here was my view. Believe it or not other people were there, lol. I think this was before everyone else arrived. We were all headed to the table and I got there first. I never know if people mind my taking pics so I usually don’t. Sometimes I do but usually not.

We enjoyed chatting and telling stories and having people to talk to. We laughed. That felt good. I needed it. Last week I had a tough time just with everything. For some reason just being tired and a bit tired – no a LOT tired of the times along with so many things I was trying to do – it was just a bad week. But yesterday was like a breath of fresh air. Just taking a deep breath, enjoying ourselves with friends, and not thinking about anything else at that moment. No to do lists, no demands, not even the hobbies. Well ok we did make fun of some of the stupidity that is going on out there without feeling judged by the Facebook masses. That was awesome. To be able to share your views and not get smack talk in return.

Well OK I did shoot some B roll scenery while there which for me is kinda A roll in the videos as it is set to music and turns out usually nice to watch. I took videos of the flag blowing in the wind, flowers being gently rocked by the breeze, and a pool scan. So that will be so pretty in a 4th of July video don’t you think?

So I guess you can say I’ve started on the next video then, lol. My goal is to make them no longer than 13 minutes. Someone said the last one was too long. I agree. I had a lot more material than I thought and when weeding it down I only got it down to 20 or so – it might have been 17. I can’t remember. But anyway it did get long for SOME attention spans. I think the click through rate was about 50% or something like that. So I think that means about half skipped through it or parts of it. (No it doesn’t tell me who skipped thru so no worries, lol).

I enjoyed the scenery around the pool area. It was such a nice little getaway for a few hours.

It’ll be our turn to host. We have no pool or nice patio (ours has lawn mower equipment and tools and wheel barrows). I tried to have a nice place on our patio but all that kept taking it over and when things start taking over an area, I get disgusted and just quit cleaning it. I’m not going to bust my chops to keep up a patio area (or any area) when it just keeps getting messed up with tools and yard barrels and such. It is a never ending battle I don’t have time for so I gave up. I even quit cleaning it off once a year. There was no reason to. I’d clean it and it would just get junked right up and I can’t sit and enjoy and junky spot. So no more.

I brought the patio furniture to the front porch instead for looks. No…we just hang out inside when company comes. Sometimes the sun room but usually it’s too hot or too cold to enjoy. So not very exciting in the summer but it is what it is. We get to enjoy that FINE blue linoleum we have, that I call my ocean so that I can “get over that” since I have to live with it every day. But not much longer b/c I will eventually “put the foot down again”.

George should be so glad he married me because some women – and I’m going to say MOST – would not have been so patient with a lot of these things. He lucked out. lol. I just go get lost in my computer or a hobby and try to forget it.

He probably wouldn’t agree that I’m patient over that, but I have known a lot of women in my lifetime and most of them call the shots when it comes to things like that – the kitchens and house decor. When I call the shots I have to put my foot down to do it. lol. Oh well. There have been many foot drops over the years. Most of them about led to divorce, but I work too, and I live here too, so…..I do get to have a say even if I have to make a splash sometimes. (I’m remembering a bathroom redo at the old house, a table I wanted to buy but was $100 short but it matched our new dining room and I didn’t want it to get away, and my car after mine had turned into a Flinstone mobile and I had to drive in high crime areas to work, and can’t forget that time I wanted to spend my Credit Union money for Christmas gifts). None of those were pretty moments, but the time came when it was necessary and the foot went down. I do develop some stubborn against stubborn when needed. Ha!

He is usually good to ask me also before spending money, and he’s pretty good to let me pick what we give each other for Christmas as a big item so I’ve been happy that we have bought TV and leather sofa and recliner, and a nice new fridge. That has been very nice so I gave up the floor replacement and kitchen redo’s for that. That was a lot cheaper. But it is time for some upgrades and I don’t want to be in a situation that we have to do them when we move out and have to spend the money but not get to enjoy it. If we have to spend the money to do the upgrades to sell the house one day, I’d much rather enjoy it too. Right? So it needs to be done soon. I was not popular for holding that opinion when we sold the last house. I was considered ungrateful by a few. My guess is that some didn’t understand the whole picture. But anyway, yeah I guess it’s best not to get me started on these things huh? I have a few sore spots. I like for things to be kept up and look nice. I was raised that way. But when you marry, you often take on the views/ways of that person. George has never been that way. If it works you don’t upgrade to make it look nice. So that has been a sort of issue at times -if my wishes don’t fit his model of our finances.

So we have blue linoleum and ugly counters. And again, I will say, he is so lucky I’ve not put the foot down over it – yet. Most women need their kitchen and he does most of the cooking. Ask any woman and they would have said “oh no that would have been gone a long time ago”. I really honestly don’t cook much now because I no longer like our kitchen. I just like for things to look good and feel good. So that is why I personally don’t like to entertain here because I’m embarrassed over it compared to what most have in their homes. Oh should I get started on the carpet? It’s about to go as well! ;-O

One day…I’ll be rid of the damn blue linoleum and pet infested carpet. At least we have friends that still enjoy being our friends regardless, lol. But yeah – there has to be a major carpet reclean before we have anyone over! The pets have not done us any favors.

I love flowers with rain drops on them. And that is my vent for the day.

And Paul and Judy’s “Albert”. He is such a sweetie. An older dog. And so is our Roger and Maisy getting there. There was talk of new puppies at their house yesterday!

Oh I did get a pic of George’s veggie pizza:

It’s crescent dough (baked first) and then spread on the cream cheese. I think he mixes the cream cheese with the powdered ranch dressing mix, but I’m not sure. That’s what I’d do if I were making it. And then chop up whatever veggies you want and put cheese on it. Makes a great appetizer. Very filling though.

And I need to get dressed and get out the door.

I have the coffee pot to return to UPS today. If it is raining I may have to wait until Wednesday. I think I had 14 days to return it. It’s supposed to storm today. I’ve not taped it up anyway, so I think I’ll wait and do it later and not rush today.

Alright. Ya’ll have a superb Monday! Over and out!

Valentine’s Day, Mystery Solved, and Weird Dream

I was running a bit late yesterday due to sleeping late and blogging too but I just COULD NOT leave my flowers like this. I was so happy to have them and they looked lonely and sad all closed up. So….I arranged them before I left.

It was a VERY cold day yesterday but the sun was out and I believe that was a gift in itself for all Valentiner’s out there. I wore one of my favorite sweaters that I bought in Breckenridge, TX – at the Walmart of all things. (I was shocked Walmart could have cute sweaters. I love shopping in Texas b/c you can find things your size. It’s hard to find anything cute around here w/o paying out the HEE HAW for it. Too many people get to it first.) So yeah, got to wear a cute colorful sweater yesterday that was just right for the temperature. I often can’t wear sweaters because I get too hot.

I realized I was a colorful girl when I reached down to pet Roger – sweater and socks. The skies have been so gray until yesterday we needed color in our world so – Valentine’s flowers and my sweater rocked with color making the gray go away and the sun felt so good coming in the window at work.

Our receptionist laid the “adventurous” heart on my desk yesterday. She is a kind sweetheart. I wish I had a servant spirit like hers. I have an administrative spirit for some reason instead of a servant heart spirit. But I guess we all make the world go round in our own ways. However, I admire her zest for life and in her ability to make everyone else’s better. I do have an adventurous heart, even if it is in my own mind. I don’t swing from trees, bungee jump, or mountain climb – but travel is my adventure and watching and reading about others adventures. So that was fun to be realized for my love of adventure. And then she had a spread for all of us. And I DO MEAN a spread.

So at lunch I did a FB post for George with a whole lot of our couple shots from the past. One of my favorite was this one.

Here’s a few:

Fun times down memory lane.

We did actually work yesterday though. I finally finished entering 208 W-2’s for the state of Oklahoma manually – every stinking field of the W-2. (My company doesn’t have the software that the state requires to upload them. So I’ve spent HOURS entering these manually.) Social, name, address, and 8 fields of numbers and up to 12 fields for those that had insurance and 401k both. Anyway, at the end it all has to balance to the W-3 for that state so….if there was a transposing of a number or miskey – it throws you off. Its taken me two weeks of “spare time” to enter these and I finally finished yesterday but didn’t balance. I have been through the W-2’s FIVE TIMES and found a few of the errors but I’m still $40 off in one field. $6 off in another and $20,000 off in another one. lol lol lol. I finally gave up and went home – I didn’t get my PTO’s set up for Monday so I’ll have to do that. We have had system issues all week too where it keeps logging us out and I got logged out so it was a good time to work on these w-2’s. Hopefully next week I’ll be able to find it. I’ll have a bit of time Monday afternoon, and then it’ll have to wait til payroll is done and I can try again on Thurs and Friday if I can. I don’t get a lot of extra time in this job to spend on things like this so hopefully I can get it to balance Monday. I just can’t find the erroneous figures. I have other things I need to do in my “spare time” like boxing time sheets and sending the 2019 files to another a cabinet so the 2020 files can build up in the current cabinet in my office. Once I get these w-2’s for OK’s website to balance to our records I can move on in life. lol

Once home I was hungry and ready to “Valentines”! However, when I got home George was wandering around in the garage with a frown on his face, looking confused. I thought “oh no, we’ve been broken into”. But he had laid his phone down and could not remember where it was. He thought it was in his coat pocket. He had gone to work and it was not there. Came home and it wasn’t where he thought he might have left it. So we both looked around the house. We tried calling it – no answer – but he said it was probably on silent anyway. He said it might have fallen out when he went to pay the power bill but he thought he would have heard it (my heart sunk b/c he doesn’t hear me often when I say anything to him). Then he remembered he got out of the car to go back and feed the cat on the back porch. So I looked around on the porch and didn’t see it. Then he remembered that he had picked the cat up in the yard to pet him and take him to the food and he went to that spot and lo and behold – the phone was upside down on the ground and had been there all day! Thank goodness we have not had the big rains we have had nearly every day this week. He says he’ll stop putting it in his pocket. I’m so glad he found it. And glad it was ok. Glad a deer didn’t step on it, lol.

So off to celebrate Valentine’s – first at Catch 22 – a neighborhood tap room. And then on to Smiley Thai and Sushi.

My incredible date that I enjoyed my time with. We had good conversation. The food was a little slow but the place was new and trying and doing a very good job of getting people in and fed. Our food came out at different times – George was almost through eating before mine came out. I was starving! But George ordered an appetizer for dinner so you can’t blame the restaurant. They brought it as an appetizer. I had spring roll, but I forgot that we had ordered Larb Gai and so when it came out, it was so late, I thought it was my dinner. lol. (I don’t know my Thai food I guess.). I grabbed a fork and had a bite and told George “oh no, I can’t eat that”. I didn’t like it. He thinks it’s fish sauce I don’t like. I don’t know what it is but tasted and smelled dead. He said I normally liked Larb Gai anyway, whatever. I finally realized that wasn’t my dinner – I was about to order something else. And then my real dinner arrived. And I absolutely loved it. I ordered something like Panang Curry. I could be wrong. But it was along those lines and had asparagus and green peppers and beef. I will have to go back and get this again. LOVED IT!

And I had to have the Green Tea Creme Brûlée. It was not as good as regular Creme Brûlée but I believe it was a healthier version so I’ll take it. ;-). It was a great place and we’ll want to take people there. We will be back.

This morning, the sun room was filled with “Jack Frost” on the windows.

So I coughed a bit last night. I’m not sure what that is all about. I had the slightest of a sore throat this morning but it is gone with coffee.

HOLD ON – I gotta go for a refill on the coffee.

OK I’m back.

Since Maisy let me sleep in this morning, I was able to wake up and remember my dreams. Kind of a weird one. There was a knock at the door in my dream and an older woman with several suitcases came in the door and said “I’m here!” I was confused as anyone would be, and George said “oh she answered our ad to rent the extra bedroom”. In my dream I remembered saying “yes” we can rent out the extra bedroom. But I also thought we’d have time to prepare it. I remember being panicked but trying to make the best of the situation. The room was not prepared. The sheets needed changing, the clothes needed to be removed from the closets and the drawers. Then I realized she didn’t have a car. Family had dropped her off and she was our elderly person to care for and cater to – for the rest of her days. It wasn’t just a simple “rent the room” deal. However, I found that I was ok with that. A chance to help someone that needed help. We would make it work. But I felt bad we are not prepared and had not provided a “welcome spread”. So then as dreams do – we ended up with new carpet in the room all of a sudden on that same day – lol. Wow, some kinda new carpet it was. It was ugly with all kinds of designs and it was “heated carpet”. After it was installed, it caught fire. I saw it rip through the wires throughout the carpet but when George looked in, it had quit. I had to convince him we had a problem. Somehow he realized the carpet had burned through. (Men have to see for themselves as opposed to believing a word a woman says sometimes, lol – good grief, even in my dream.). So we called the carpet people back and I woke up just when I realized that we now didn’t even have a room for this poor lady to sleep as the carpet had been on fire (who dreams this?). But despite our lack of a proper welcome, and a proper room, the lady seemed just happy to be there and could care less and I found her digging into the leftovers in the kitchen to find something to eat. Oh my gosh, I thought, we forgot to even offer her a proper dinner? lol. I woke up and was glad that we were there alone without all these issues going on. Geez.

But why did I dream that? I think I’ve been worried about Mom and when to start bringing her to our area, when to get her in assisted living, or to an apartment – or if something happens medically and we can’t get it done quickly and she needs help she’ll need to be with us here for a while and adjustments we would make. I think all that is rolling around in my head. She insists it is not time yet for these changes. But the woman in my dream did not in any way resemble or even make me think of Mom in the situation so I’m not sure it’s that – other than – I do remember thinking in my dream that if this elderly woman is here, what if Mom needs to come here too- what will we do then? lol. I’d give up my office if we had two elderly folks here lol. Maybe we’d let them have the house and we’d move out. lol lol lol No seriously what a weird dream. Maybe it’s because we rented the vacation house and want family to fill the extra rooms if they want to stay there too. I remember saying I specifically didn’t get a house with carpet in the common rooms b/c of the dogs. We were talking about that last night how we could all have a few days together there in the VRBO house as it had enough bedrooms. But all in all, It was mainly a dream about not being prepared. About being surprised. But we handled it and everyone was accommodated and happy regardless. I was the only one stressing – in normal fashion b/c I don’t like surprises, I do like to be prepared, and I do want people to feel welcome.

Anyway, I’m glad it’s Saturday morning and our carpet is not on fire and I don’t have to redo a bedroom today!

The things on my to do list are piddly – even fun. I will spruce up the house some, do some laundry, work on my piddly to do list. And go from there.

We have some fun plans today with BIL and SIL, Kevin and Susan. And I’ll share more about that tomorrow.

What you all planning to do today?