The AFTERMATH: Weeks after Moving Mom to Assisted Living
Well, it’s been a couple weeks now since this move was complete, getting Mom to assisted living. In this video I discuss the AFTERMATH of the move, and how it is going with assisted living. Our lives have slowed down ZERO % as of this video. And we have a lot of unsettling things brewing at home on top of all else.
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Holly
Watching your vlog and catching up on the blog. I read over everyone’s comments – there is so much good advice there. You said today in your video (paraphrasing) that all our parents are different and react in different ways and that’s the truth of it. How I handled my dad probably won’t work for you and your mom. We all just get through it best we can. You are NOT “failing” though. Your mom’s basic needs are met, most of her wants have been met, there is a medical staff on site for immediate emergencies, (and you know you’d be there as soon as you could after you were notified of an emergency) and you’re doing a darn good job of addressing her “extras.” You are not failing just because she doesn’t have the print she wants or the lamp she wants exactly when or where she wants it, or because she can’t have lunch out. Period. You’re not. It’s not being mean, or neglectful, you’re still busy taking care of stuff she hasn’t even thought of that needs to be done. Sometimes, I just had to have the “fight,” like kids, they get over it. Be you, don’t lose yourself, no more “gray rock” talk lady! You are so not a wimp. 🙂 Sounds like you have a nice group of ladies supporting you “out here.” It may be virtual but we’re here for you.
Not sure why your sister walked away, I was sorry to hear that. My sister is probably my best friend and was a huge support. Even though she lived far away, she was here when it got really bad for me. We lost two parents in 8 months, one went through a very tough cancer death and the other largely from grief and plain despair, once we lost Mom, he just lost his will to live and prayed to die daily. Talk about drama. It was equal parts heartbreaking and frustrating and totally exhausting. He lived with us. I could not have done that without my spouse and my sister. If she won’t help with your mom, are you close enough to vent to her? Can she be emotional support for you? She may be the only one able to tell you truths about the relationship with your Mom that are hard to hear but well, necessary? None of that’s for you to answer on here, that’s your business, not ours. Just something I learned from a tough reality.
Someone said go visit Katie and your grandkids, without George. Great idea. Gives each of you some space. Let the assisted living people do what you are paying them to do. Stop overnight in Hot Springs, go to that wonderful antique mall! Keeping you in the prayers.
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Thank you Holly. Yes lots of good advice here. Mom told me today she wants the heart procedure now so I guess that’s our next big adventure. Got to get all those doc appointments and procedures scheduled. No vacay. It’s ok 👍 I know it will come in time. God is good!
Holly
Well, hopefully you will have fixed or new garage doors so you can get in and out for those appointments! At least that’s one little aggravation that will be taken care of. One thing, one day, at a time. Plumber and electrician on our list here too. Hopefully, by the end of summer. Till then, there are face masks, wine, books, and dogs. We got this…!
LessHustleMoreCoffee
Yeah a good book and a few videos will be a good vacay!