A Day of Fresh Air Spent with Friends and a Small Rant

Here she is…that new simple but sleek Coffee Pot that I love – from Amazon. We have enjoyed the brew yesterday and this morning.

We had a nice morning yesterday just lounging a bit. Was happy not to have to go do the errand running we were planning at first. George had wanted to go to McKayes Bookstore. But due to Covid-19 and not wanting to put too much into the day, George decided we’d enjoy our morning at home. It was his day so he got to decide.

He made his veggie pizza and got the filet mignon beef bobs ready and I made dressed eggs for our friends get together at Paul and Judy’s. Cheryl and Joe also. It was rainy off and on and instead of pool time we sat around and talked on the patio. Fans and frequent breezes from nearby rain brought comfortable temps.

We had a lot of appetizers and munched. And we had an amazing dinner with all of our compilations. Kabobs (both beef and chicken) and burgers, pasta salad (yum), dressed eggs (or deviled eggs however you prefer – I switch the terms), potatoes. Key lime pie, brownies, ice cream, strawberry toppings for dessert.

Here was my view. Believe it or not other people were there, lol. I think this was before everyone else arrived. We were all headed to the table and I got there first. I never know if people mind my taking pics so I usually don’t. Sometimes I do but usually not.

We enjoyed chatting and telling stories and having people to talk to. We laughed. That felt good. I needed it. Last week I had a tough time just with everything. For some reason just being tired and a bit tired – no a LOT tired of the times along with so many things I was trying to do – it was just a bad week. But yesterday was like a breath of fresh air. Just taking a deep breath, enjoying ourselves with friends, and not thinking about anything else at that moment. No to do lists, no demands, not even the hobbies. Well ok we did make fun of some of the stupidity that is going on out there without feeling judged by the Facebook masses. That was awesome. To be able to share your views and not get smack talk in return.

Well OK I did shoot some B roll scenery while there which for me is kinda A roll in the videos as it is set to music and turns out usually nice to watch. I took videos of the flag blowing in the wind, flowers being gently rocked by the breeze, and a pool scan. So that will be so pretty in a 4th of July video don’t you think?

So I guess you can say I’ve started on the next video then, lol. My goal is to make them no longer than 13 minutes. Someone said the last one was too long. I agree. I had a lot more material than I thought and when weeding it down I only got it down to 20 or so – it might have been 17. I can’t remember. But anyway it did get long for SOME attention spans. I think the click through rate was about 50% or something like that. So I think that means about half skipped through it or parts of it. (No it doesn’t tell me who skipped thru so no worries, lol).

I enjoyed the scenery around the pool area. It was such a nice little getaway for a few hours.

It’ll be our turn to host. We have no pool or nice patio (ours has lawn mower equipment and tools and wheel barrows). I tried to have a nice place on our patio but all that kept taking it over and when things start taking over an area, I get disgusted and just quit cleaning it. I’m not going to bust my chops to keep up a patio area (or any area) when it just keeps getting messed up with tools and yard barrels and such. It is a never ending battle I don’t have time for so I gave up. I even quit cleaning it off once a year. There was no reason to. I’d clean it and it would just get junked right up and I can’t sit and enjoy and junky spot. So no more.

I brought the patio furniture to the front porch instead for looks. No…we just hang out inside when company comes. Sometimes the sun room but usually it’s too hot or too cold to enjoy. So not very exciting in the summer but it is what it is. We get to enjoy that FINE blue linoleum we have, that I call my ocean so that I can “get over that” since I have to live with it every day. But not much longer b/c I will eventually “put the foot down again”.

George should be so glad he married me because some women – and I’m going to say MOST – would not have been so patient with a lot of these things. He lucked out. lol. I just go get lost in my computer or a hobby and try to forget it.

He probably wouldn’t agree that I’m patient over that, but I have known a lot of women in my lifetime and most of them call the shots when it comes to things like that – the kitchens and house decor. When I call the shots I have to put my foot down to do it. lol. Oh well. There have been many foot drops over the years. Most of them about led to divorce, but I work too, and I live here too, so…..I do get to have a say even if I have to make a splash sometimes. (I’m remembering a bathroom redo at the old house, a table I wanted to buy but was $100 short but it matched our new dining room and I didn’t want it to get away, and my car after mine had turned into a Flinstone mobile and I had to drive in high crime areas to work, and can’t forget that time I wanted to spend my Credit Union money for Christmas gifts). None of those were pretty moments, but the time came when it was necessary and the foot went down. I do develop some stubborn against stubborn when needed. Ha!

He is usually good to ask me also before spending money, and he’s pretty good to let me pick what we give each other for Christmas as a big item so I’ve been happy that we have bought TV and leather sofa and recliner, and a nice new fridge. That has been very nice so I gave up the floor replacement and kitchen redo’s for that. That was a lot cheaper. But it is time for some upgrades and I don’t want to be in a situation that we have to do them when we move out and have to spend the money but not get to enjoy it. If we have to spend the money to do the upgrades to sell the house one day, I’d much rather enjoy it too. Right? So it needs to be done soon. I was not popular for holding that opinion when we sold the last house. I was considered ungrateful by a few. My guess is that some didn’t understand the whole picture. But anyway, yeah I guess it’s best not to get me started on these things huh? I have a few sore spots. I like for things to be kept up and look nice. I was raised that way. But when you marry, you often take on the views/ways of that person. George has never been that way. If it works you don’t upgrade to make it look nice. So that has been a sort of issue at times -if my wishes don’t fit his model of our finances.

So we have blue linoleum and ugly counters. And again, I will say, he is so lucky I’ve not put the foot down over it – yet. Most women need their kitchen and he does most of the cooking. Ask any woman and they would have said “oh no that would have been gone a long time ago”. I really honestly don’t cook much now because I no longer like our kitchen. I just like for things to look good and feel good. So that is why I personally don’t like to entertain here because I’m embarrassed over it compared to what most have in their homes. Oh should I get started on the carpet? It’s about to go as well! ;-O

One day…I’ll be rid of the damn blue linoleum and pet infested carpet. At least we have friends that still enjoy being our friends regardless, lol. But yeah – there has to be a major carpet reclean before we have anyone over! The pets have not done us any favors.

I love flowers with rain drops on them. And that is my vent for the day.

And Paul and Judy’s “Albert”. He is such a sweetie. An older dog. And so is our Roger and Maisy getting there. There was talk of new puppies at their house yesterday!

Oh I did get a pic of George’s veggie pizza:

It’s crescent dough (baked first) and then spread on the cream cheese. I think he mixes the cream cheese with the powdered ranch dressing mix, but I’m not sure. That’s what I’d do if I were making it. And then chop up whatever veggies you want and put cheese on it. Makes a great appetizer. Very filling though.

And I need to get dressed and get out the door.

I have the coffee pot to return to UPS today. If it is raining I may have to wait until Wednesday. I think I had 14 days to return it. It’s supposed to storm today. I’ve not taped it up anyway, so I think I’ll wait and do it later and not rush today.

Alright. Ya’ll have a superb Monday! Over and out!

Pool Party and Defining my Niche in Vlogging

Well, it just seems like the numbers of the virus are not growing fast in our county. I guess that is why everyone is free to go back to partial openings – usually in 2nd phases in Tennessee. We will see how it does in a couple of weeks as everyone kinda gets back to society.

We really really really enjoyed time with our friends yesterday. It was so good to see them. There were six of us. We ate together, swam together, and yes we gave each other hugs.

Here is Mr. Stud Muffin right here. We all enjoyed our pool time / chat time.

They have a lovely place and a salt water pool. We sat on the screened in patio some too. Very nice. It was a perfect day for a cook out / pool party.

The cheese burgers were great and we had potato salad, slaw, baked beans (we took those), chips and dip, bread and spinach dip. We had whoopi pie for dessert as well as a lemoncello cake. All so good.

Judy made some dreamcicle margarita drinks. I just had a little of that as I had a glass of wine. But we ate, talked, caught up and had a really good time.

We left about 9:15 and I was ready for bed since I get up so early. We got home and I was in bed by 10:01. lol

So, yesterday before we left for the party, and after doing laundry, I did some viewing of YouTube videos on creating a YouTube channel. I allowed myself to just do whatever I wanted yesterday without specific focus. I was wanting to go ahead and create my channel and get it started. So I wanted to check out videos to kinda guide me through some of it.

One video leads to another and so forth. It’s all so intriguing to me and I’m like a sponge soaking it all in. It gets to be overwhelming quickly – the legal parts, the details of what to do and what not to do, how the algorithms work and how to market yourself and all of that if you want to grow your channel. I want people to like it and so that interests me too. But it got me thinking – probably a little too much. Like anything else, you have to think of it like a business, you have to crank out the videos on pretty much a weekly schedule, and you need to be able to provide VALUE for people to want to subscribe. LOL LOL. So I began thinking about all that and it really kinda made me laugh at first and then kinda made me sad.

Does my blog bring value? It’s just me spilling over whatever it is I need to say, and what we did the day before and sharing our life to who ever wants to read. So if I bring the blog to life in a vlog – how does that bring value? lol Oh dear.

I’ve always really just wanted to have a format in which I just say what I want. I don’t usually have a formal format of “Here’s 5 reasons you should BLAH BLAH BLAH”. I don’t usually give advice in my blogs, I just share my life. And that is probably not interesting enough to bring in new subscribers. But who knows? Maybe I can bring some kind of entertainment value. haaaaa. I think that is what makes me laugh. So what made me sad is that I realized if I don’t vlog in a certain way there may not be any subscribers. And if I don’t put out a video on a regular schedule, they will not stay, according to those with successful channels. I’m not so worried about monetizing the thing but if it grows, I’m not going to turn it down. And then there are milestones and rewards and such just like anything (goals to set in YouTube), which I will want to go for if I do this. For example even with 100 subscribers you get your own URL with a name instead of a number code and people can find you easier. So then I thought – well, COULD I begin adding some things that bring value? I’m sorry this makes me laugh every time I write it. lol I’m not used to thinking in terms of bringing value, to telling about what happened yesterday, lol. Heck, I’m entertaining myself here. But one video suggested that before I even begin, I should have 12 topics ready to go for the next 12 videos. So…….that’s just weird when you are reality blogger. And I have to have a niche. It can be about 3 things really. Enough to let them know who you are and what you normally bring to the table.

So what value have I brought to you guys?

Maybe I need to understand why my readers are here? What value does this blog bring to you? What do you want to see more of?

It has been suggested that you can still vlog but in the beginning or along side of – you need to bring some value. This still makes me laugh when I say it because it really trying to turn my blog into a vlog and into a business of sorts. That’s really what the videos on YouTube were calling successful. It’s a business. Is that what I really want? I mean I think it would be nice at retirement to have the extra income if it turned out that way. By then we’d get to travel more.

So I’m trying to think through here what value this blog brings to anyone other than for me to spill forth my thoughts about yesterday and share what happened.

I’ve heard that someone reads because she is interested in the Nashville area. Well that’s a biggie right there. We are usually out and about more. I will have Nashville area blogger in my description. And would eventually change it to vlogger as my format changed more toward vlogging formats and less of blogging formats. I can’t see how I could possibly keep both blog and vlog going in as detailed of a fashion like it is- another feature about this that makes me sad. The more public it becomes the less personal I can be also. And that makes me question if I’d be losing the reason I blog/vlog in the first place.

So yes, I’m having an identity crises through this thing. I’m in the midst of deciding what is important to me now and what is important as I morph and change. I also know part of the growth and change is to be flexible. I also have to get used to filming myself – at least in some scenes. I also don’t like the way I look in them. So I have to figure out how to look interesting on the camera. I know it’s within me to do so, but it’s something that will be a trial and error kind of thing. Hair, makeup, accessories – something that pops! So this is all scary and exciting. And it’s almost making me want to back out, but I enjoy the making of the videos, and I see others doing it, and I know in my heart it is something I want to do. And I am up for the challenge! I’m almost afraid for it to be successful. What if people do subscribe – I’ll be scared to death. Ahhhhhh.

So yeah….I am trying to decide what VALUE this type of scenario could bring to the YouTube world. What would my niche be that I would describe in the description?

I have organization skills and household skills. I have management/business skills. I do not want to make it a business blog!! I want it to be open to all sorts of things. There may be days I DO want to talk about business. So I think one of my niche description will be a “Reality Blogger”. I have to also emphasize down time and coffee as that is in the title and that is what I love. I guess I have life skills. I could turn certain things I do and discover into a “how to” or a “here’s something to think about” or “5 ways to ____”. I also get excited about new apps, new products I find, and of course I’m sure hubby George can entertain us some in the kitchen. But I’m not really an expert at anything. So who am I to offer anyone advice? lol. I did think of one vlog that would be fun to do. Taking you into my kitchen and saying “Here’s examples of how to decorate your kitchen on a budget”. Lights, greenery, decorating with books, and there is that calendar of Greece that I had framed, and our bucket list. See I would enjoy that kind of thing. I could also do a video about placing greenery around the home – and show what a difference it makes. But I don’t want to go down a certain path. It may be a home video one day and we may be out trying new cuisine the next. I think I can make it work? What do you think?

So while I thought I’d be setting up a YouTube Channel this weekend, maybe I just need to think on it some more. I could use your help. If I can add a few things in that actually “bring value” I could grow the channel alongside my vlogging which I fully intend to do. I’m also trying to figure out what my vlog style is going to be. There is one person that does an informational video and a vlog video on the same channel. Business and personal. She does two a week. She also makes this her full time job as she became successful in it and had to quit her FT job. I’m not saying I am trying to go that route. It would not be something that is a consistent form of income IF it did get subscribers. On the other hand, retirement is just 5 years down the road.

I realize a lot of this stuff is going to just take time and morph into whatever it will be. I think for the most part I just need to stay true to who I am, need to just keep going in the direction I’m going with learning the vlog scene. I can heed the advice given and try to work in their advice here and there. I want it to be fun and a hobby and not a chore. So I have to remember that. I don’t want to burn myself out. So I guess I will just do what I know to do and try to do the best I can with it. Right now life is not too interesting to blog or vlog about, lol.

What value do you get from this blog?

Why do you return?

What would you like to see more of?

By knowing that I’ll have a better idea of the wording to use for my “niche”. So I appreciate your help. This is all blowing my mind right now, a little bit.

I really just want to have fun with it…but I also want it to be successful. It’s kinda scary.

I’ll be adding songs to the video I’m working on today. And I realize I’m going to have to be more simple with some of the videos. The 30 minutes to try and cut down to 15 or so, is not easy.

Well, that’s it for today. I’m going to work on the laundry, ironing, and make lasagna today. I’ve been bad and have not been doing many videos of the week either, but it’s ok. I’ve not really shoved the boat off in this direction, I’ve not set a schedule yet, and I’m just dabbling at this point trying to figure out what this will all look like. Oh and I spent a long time working on my intro but I was told it can’t be more than so many seconds. So I need to work on that. But I’ll probably wait til the NEXT video. lol

OK over and out. More tomorrow. I truly hope to get some things off my list in the next couple of days. I love working on the blog/vlog stuff.

Am I hearing sighs from the spouse at my being in here in my office so much? I’ve heard a few but not sure if it’s me or something else? He told me “I’ll see you in June” when he gave me my iMac at Christmas. He knows me well. Oh, and if this keeps up I’ll be buying a new camera with my money from the government. lol. I’ve always wanted a really nice one but I think we’ll reach some goals first. I kinda want to reach some milestones. I also need to learn how to use the drone. But I’m scared. I wish George would do that part and just give me the video. ha. I’m afraid I’ll crash the thing.

Oh well, over and out.