“You are Here”: Update on Mom’s House Build and Move

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Monday morning brought the meeting on Zoom where Mom had to sign off on the plan review. A little glitch being that Mom could not get on zoom, but I don’t think she would have been able to see it anyway. I refused to do the meeting alone even though Mom said I could and the project manager asked me to. I demanded that we conference her in on audio and asked for the project manager’s patience and understanding. I didn’t want to be responsible if they left something out and I didn’t catch it. lol. I would never hear the end of it. I’ve also been in business too long not to cover my “assets” in anything in life. Just something life teaches ya I guess. Everyone always looking for someone to blame! So I made sure she was on the call. I mean this is a big deal signing off on a house being built the way you want it. I didn’t want to be the scapegoat if it all got screwed up!

It included changes she added during our Low Voltage and Design Studio meeting – in other words – extra outlets, media wall outlets, extra lighting, etc. I’m glad she was on it because there were a few things that they covered and had to let her know.

  1. We were not happy that due to a very slight grade on her property there will be a couple of stairs going down to get to the patio. Dismay and ::sigh:: – so much for completely flat and no stairs. The front will not have a grade and no stairs. But what can you do? She will be using the back more than the front but what can you do? It’s the land and the way it has to be built for some reason. So George will have to add a railing for her there too.
  2. They let her know where the A/C unit would be. It’s going to be far enough away from the patio that we hope it won’t be noisy while she sits on the patio. I think that will be ok.

Anyway they went over everything and so that meeting is done! We are really pleased overall with the Goodall Home process. It is very organized. I’m pleased to say that we are making our way through the stair steps and things will start to slow down on having to “be places” after the Pre-Drywall Meeting. That meeting will be in a few weeks. They will call us in a couple of weeks to set it up.

We have completed 1-6 steps here. We of course will do the Pre-Drywall Meeting in person. So I will have to take off work for that, go get Mom and bring her in.

They told us they will be breaking ground next week and starting on the house! That is awesome!

So once this Pre-Dry Wall meeting is done we will not have any more on site meetings til it’s built and then we will have several. And the final move in. BUT we will have weekly zoom calls or conference calls with the project manager. He informs us of what was completed that week and what would be completed the next week.

Also we will likely ride out there on our own some and view and take pics – but at least that we can do on evenings and weekends.

I’ll admit my tummy leaps every time they say “meeting” and “it has to be on a “Monday – Friday” during business hours. My head is spinning at the amount of time we are having to take off work. I saw in the beginning that any vacation trips would be out the window this year unless it is a weekend trip but where can you go for two days? lol. That’s stressful in itself. But it will be worth it to have the most disrupted year of our lives, to be able to get her up here. So worth it.

I’m very pleased that my work has been so incredibly nice to me over all this. They have let me off, let me make sudden trips, alter my hours a bit and so forth.

This morning I am going to sign off on the storage unit. I have to drive over to Lebanon – about 15 min away and sign the lease agreement. We are having to get two instead of the one big one. They chuckled when I asked to for the big one. They said they hardly ever have those. So it will be good to get that done. I took work home and did that last night since I’d be missing that this morning. And I’ll just eat lunch at my desk this afternoon. So I should hardly miss a beat of getting work done.

I got to sleep in this morning. George had to wake me up before he headed out so I didn’t sleep all day. I was unusually tired last night. And still tired this morning. I think it’s the shot. I remember getting tired after about a week of the 1st shot. I imagine I’ll do the same this week. Probably have not quite recouped from the illness brought on by the shot. No fever left but just have not bounced back and every now and then I have very sharp pains that roam still.

Upcoming Plans: Shopping at Target and a Pedi!

So GOOD things on the horizon though. I’m going to set that PEDI for tomorrow after work I think. Then Friday I have a fun visit planned for Target. Just imagine the pic below as their RED LOGO! I’m SO looking forward to it.

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I’m going to walk though slowwwwwwwwly and look at EVERYTHING! George is going to wonder what happened to me!

I’m going to buy a couple of more towels so we have enough – mine are getting old anyway. Gonna buy tea glasses as most of our glasses are low ball, beer glasses, wine glasses, juice glasses, or fine crystal, etc. We usually sip wine with dinner but I need to have some tea glasses for Mom and I as we will be drinking a lot more tea. I need some small little baskets for the counter tops in the bathroom for Mom’s make up supplies, and routine products used for easy reach and low clutter.

I need face wipes, a family calendar for the den so we can all be on the same page. (I will still have my planner though as I have to have it with me at all times).

And Mom needs 3 huge clothes tubs for her off season clothes to bring here. The seasons will just be changing when her house is built but we’ll probably have to do some clothes swap out before she moves. Also if the house is delayed it all we go into cold weather. So we will keep her extra clothes on site in the tubs like we do some of mine. This house has nice closets but no walk in closets so off season clothes don’t fit.

So yeah, lots to look forward to as the days pass.

That is all I know right now. Work, getting this move done, Mom here, and then her house built, and the other move done. But we have come a long way. Amazed that her house is already under contract and that we have moved a lot and packed a lot already. So much more to go. Still praying for strength and stamina! 😉

Better go get ready to head out the door. Ya’ll have a splendid day and I’ll be back to say “hey” on Friday.

I have been, as you may know, working on videos on alternate blog days. I began going through my iPhone photos and deleting unnecessary photos and videos and the next step with it is to drag over any video footage or photos that will be used in upcoming videos to it’s “assigned iMovie folder”. I have to do Feb 27 through current date. Anything before Feb 27 I’ve already moved over. Yes, there is a process! lol I make it a habit to go ahead and move over any Canon video as it is shot so I don’t forget!

Anyway, better gooooo!

Mother’s Day Update, Contract on Mom’s House, and Upcoming Hair Cut

We had a nice Mom’s day. A few more errands to run and George had booked us a Mother’s Day Buffet at MoCara’s in Lebanon which used to be one of our favorite restaurants until they shut down in Covid. Now they do catering and events only. It’s an event venue now. Hoping the restaurant comes back, especially as we will be spending more time in Lebanon. We were already spending time in Lebanon anyway before Mom picked a house to be built there. We are on the edge of Mount Juliet and Mom is on the edge of Lebanon so we are going to be 15 min away once the house is built. I’ve grown to love that area more and more.

Here was a pic I took inside MoCara’s. There were people all around but there was this one spot I felt comfortable taking a pic of.

In true Tennessee fashion, we had a build up of storms that came across in 3 waves across the day. Our radar has been lit up like this off an on all spring. I’ve mentioned before that I’m just “over it”. We have paid our dues! We managed to avoid having to drive in the big storms but here was a snapshot at the radar Sunday evening. Gotta love the Macy’s underwear ad at the bottom, LOL. Go figure.

Spring Storms Continued on Mother’s Day

My gift from Katy came in yesterday. A coffee “tea towel” and a shower spritzer tablet which I used this morning and it made my shower smell so good.

Are You Ready for the News? Contract on Mom’s House!

Mom got 6, maybe 7 offers on the house – I think one came in at the last minute. All or most of them I believe were over asking price. And two of them were SIGNIFICANTLY OVER the asking price, one was cash and one was not – one was with home inspection and one was not. Mom decided which she would take. It was a different choice than George and I would have taken, but she had to pick as it was her decision and she has a good argument for the one she picked. So we were all pleased.

I had tears in my eyes when I saw the offers. The Lord answered our prayers. He is taking care of Mom and seeing that she has what she needs to make this move and to be able to meet her needs. I shed a few tears at the numbers and that God was seeing Mom through. I also shed tears as I know it was a hard day for Mom. While she keeps saying she knows she has to do this and it was her choice, it’s still the place she shared with Dad and had many memories. So a bitter sweet day for sure.

So we are ON to the next steps of planning as we have an idea of closing date and date to be out of the house. We will be reserving a cargo van – if we can get one to increase our load capacity. The packing can now get serious as the house doesn’t have to show anymore so long as this contract sticks. And we can schedule the storage unit now. And begin to see how big of a U-Haul we will need.

We also have to schedule the “Plan Review” on Mom’s new house. We think it will be Monday and this one can be on Zoom. I’ve told them any time and we’ll just let that be our lunch hour. I’ll have to see what time they give us but it needs to be Monday or Tuesday and Tuesday is my payroll closing day so that is not good for me. I mean I could stay later by an hour or come in early – I could make it work if I had to, but it makes it harder of a day as Monday is so much better. I just don’t want the headache of having to deal with it Tuesday. It’s best to just focus on payrolls on Tuesday.

Misc Updates

I bought this sign – the “home sweet home” sign. It comes with 4 different messages. The slip in and out of the side. I was so happy with this find at Tractor Supply for $16.99. I used the ship to store method and didn’t have to pay shipping on it. I wanted it to make Mom feel more special as she stays with us while waiting for her house to be built. I want her to feel welcome here for the time she is here with us and I want it to be a special time for her. I want us to have fun, eat well, laugh often, and be worry free, anxiety free, and we get to enjoy having another dog in the house. Fancy is up there in years. But not in as bad of shape as Roger.

Roger has intensely been sleeping a lot more lately. For two days he has hardly walked, but slept. 😦

He had a little bit of energy when we got home last night. He ate and then crawled back in the bed. I need to wash his blankets again and refresh them for him. I will focus on that tonight.

George fixed little pizzas last night using Naan bread crusts. Oh my gosh they were so incredibly good. They were pepperoni and green pepper.

We have continued to watch “Designated Survivor” and will continue until it is finished. Just a few more shows. Then we will find another to get caught up in. What do you like watching on Netflix?

I get my hair cut tomorrow after work. I’m going shorter! Significantly shorter. I just don’t have the styling time and I need a cut I can just blow dry and go. I’m having to put mine in barrettes and it doesn’t work well. It’s so thick in the back. I’ve taken several screen shots of the ones I like but I’m thinking something like this:

Or like this

I just want to do away with the bob for now and then let it grow back again. I always enjoy the growing out stage from a cut like above to the bob again. And I will schedule the follow up cut for 12 weeks. lol. It seems that it does better when letting it grow out some and cutting it again rather than continuing to keep it shaped. I don’t know why. My only explanation I can think of is that it just gets too choppy with too many layers and as it grows it thickens and just looks better.

This one is nice too but not sure my hair will do exactly that. And honestly not sure I want that much stacking going on in the back. So I won’t show my hair stylist this one so she doesn’t get confused. But I like the sides and top. The stacking thing does not style as well on the sides when it grows out. So I nix this one but I do like body this has below. I’m ok with going back to 90’s hair styles. lol. I just want one that works. I don’t want a “birds nest” though and I don’t really want curls either. Nor frizz. But a cute short cut seems to be back in style some. I’ve been seeing people get them as they come out of Covid.

Here’s a pic of me as I grew out of a shorter cut but before it went into the bob stage.

Makes me want to color my hair again! But I likely will not.

Whatever cut I get, I figure it’ll end up being like the above. I always end up with a Laura Bush cut as that is just how my hair does. lol

Video update? Yep, it’s almost finished. I just have to go through it one more time and check audio levels and lighting levels, do the thumbnail and post. I think I’ll have it up and loaded by the weekend. Yippee Yay. Warning though. It’s about 22 minutes. That is about all I could cut for the video to make sense. So get your popcorn ready and your patience, lol.

Then I’ll need to go through and set up some more video files. I have lots of videos to do, but my iPhone photo/video file is getting full and I need to drag them over and get some off my phone!

Ya’ll have a good Tuesday. Be back in a couple of days. It works well to share video/blog time in the mornings – every other day. That way I get my video fix in.

Take care. Thanks for reading my updates!

Purging of the Old, Before Beginning Anew!

When you see Mom’s back porch, you can understand why it was important she have a back patio. Her new one is less than half this size. I took the pic yesterday for my memories before it all gets dismantled.

But let me back up. Mom was very sick and tired on Thursday night when I picked her up. None of us really know why but I suspected it was nerves from pushing herself and also the day it “got real” when the house sign went up in the yard and the photographer/videographer came to get the pics and take video.

She rested some at our house and George got her to the Low Voltage meeting Friday. She was able to tell them where she wanted her internet/cable, extra plugs, and look at the security system and bought it. She was happy with the pricing and came out “a happy woman” as George texted me (while I worked Friday).

After work, I came home and they were on the front porch hanging out. Mom loves the outside and is growing fond of the front porch. Mental note to pay some extra attention at making it nice out there for her. And George is also going to have a railing put up to help her get up and down the steps in the front.

I must say that my Mom has courage to face this. And if anyone can. It is she. I know that she is feeling that she needs our help and I also think that she is seeking somewhere deep within for my Dad’s approval to leave this house. I think it is weighing on her heart as she keeps saying how much Dad loved the house.

She asked me if Dad was alive do I think he would have made the move. I had to be honest and tell her “no I don’t think he would”. Our family dynamic would be different if he were still alive. I think Dad would have been persistent about the peace in our family and that other family members would be active and present in the situation, leaving them to escape the need for such a move.

But in reality, Dad is gone, and much is water under the bridge with family relations. Water rarely flows backwards. Words and actions can’t be undone. So Mom does not have local care from family there any longer. All that is left is continual bouts of forgiveness. And while Mom has her own wrestling with her feelings and forgiveness, which is her own and not mine to share. I do have my own.

Forgiveness can be a very complex and arduous task at times. It is a cluster of varying emotions which leaves me angry, sorrowed, lost, confused, but yet somehow very peaceful and loving as God works through the mysterious angles of my heart that I can’t seem to control on my own, nor see, nor understand.

I can only pray that someday, somehow, someway, that all of the hurts can be worked through and put to rest. But the more time passes, the harder the reconciliation would be as people’s feelings become cemented in protection of their own hearts, facts become twisted, reality becomes a blur, and pride is always an issue instead of humility.

For me I wrestle in my heart because of my need to understand before I can truly forgive and the only way I can overcome this is to give it all to God and just let Him handle it. And I think that is where I am and likely where Mom is. I just physically and mentally, have no words, other than what I can write here. I simply have lack of understanding as to the complexity and magnitude of the situation. It is much grander than I. And so God has to take it.

And in my own opinion, I think Mom’s Friday night illness was a case of nerves wrapped up in a ball of physical wretching, a letting go of all that she needed to purge and let go of as she closed one big long chapter of her life, and stepped in the next. It’s as if the climax of the novel has emerged, with the hammering of the sign into the front yard. The decisions had already been made in recent weeks, with each signing of the contracts to buy the new and sell the existing, but the stake driven into the ground on Friday, drove a final stake through her heart.

But Dad IS coming with her. His love will surround her across death – because that is what God’s love does with the believer. His gift of eternal life shines through to Dad. Dad is eternal and in different form. His love is his spirit now and not contained within a body. The house is just a house. It’s where Dad enjoyed as a respite at the end of the day in his earthly body. His spirit is about love now and he can be with Mom wherever she is. He can be with my sister. And he can be with me.

A house is a dwelling place, a rest for our weary heads, a shelter from the storm, a place we park our favorite things, a place to eat our favorite meals, and a place to welcome family and friends. Many memories were encased in this shell of a house.

But all in all, it is the shape of the heart that matters most.Mom will have her memories and Dad is no longer physically there anyway, and George and I, who both work FT can’t be down there much in our off time. And Mom needs family. She needs happy!

The next few weeks will be incredibly hard, as this house closes down before the next one is even visible. But Mom can hold her hopes open as her new dream house comes alive in Lebanon, TN and only 15 minutes away from us. Where NEW and loving memories can be made! And a renewed hope that family reconciliation can one day be made before it is too late……. Before the rooster crows, the third time.

So it’s been a heck of a spring so far in the year of “Project Move Momma”. The calendar has turned and May somehow arrived. Quarter end was finished Friday and much was accomplished so far in the move. We are only a few bites in to the elephant but when you consider what progress has been made so far it is a LOT! A house to buy and a house to sell and contracts signed for each – is no small task. We are 5 car loads into the moving from Mom’s house to ours. A trip to the dump has been made by Mom. A trip to Good will she will take this week. And I believe we’ve tossed about 6 or 7 bags of trash of items no longer of value or decayed. Guest bedroom drawers and closets have been emptied, precious photos lovingly packed and secured!

It is a big week ahead! The house listing goes live on Wednesday. Mom’s Design Studio is this week where she gets to pick her colors and her fixtures. I get to go with her for that! We plan to eat lunch after! I’m taking a VACAY day!

We are unsure about being able to pack and move things once the house is listed as people will be wanting to tour the house, but once a contract is signed we can continue the move process. George wants to get a cargo van and get a lot of the bigger items in it and we’ll make several trips to the storage unit. So once we get the contract going on Mom’s house – we hear it’ll only be about two weeks – we will then be able to rent the storage unit and begin the cargo van moves. Then only the really big furniture will be left for the U-Haul. A lot of work ahead. Then we will watch as Mom’s house is being built, we will transform our house to make her comfortable here as she awaits the dream home and the closing on the new place. Then move #2 will happen.

One bite of the elephant at a time, but we are about to move around another notch of the curve here!

I have more to share, but honestly think I’ve shared enough for today. I’ll be back in the morning and post some more! My plan is to post MONDAY and then it may be THURS before I’ll get a chance to post again. If I’m not here then, it’s because I had to get to work early Thurs morning. So could be Friday. Busy busy week ahead!

I have much to do today in this blessed day of being home. The usual, laundry, ironing and cleaning and ordering and prep for the week ahead. The shower gift is wrapped for an after work shower this week. Two trips to Columbia happening this week too. I also will be making my plans for how to move things around here at the house in anticipation of Mom being here for a few months and making it more comfortable for her and moving some things about so she has room for her things in bedroom and bathroom and kitchen. She would like for her toaster oven to be in the kitchen. At first I said “no” and realized I was being selfish. I will make it happen! So need to focus on a few plans for the house. So when I have spare time I can be focused and get that done. If there is a list, it has a chance of being accomplished! Just a chance! You know how long my lists are which is why I have to categorize them!

And in honor of Dad, along with this post on Mom’s move, I’m listing this writing I ran across this week from a funeral brochure that came across my desk.

Have a great week! See you in the morning!