Fundraiser Banquet, Football Game, Reuniting with My Sister, and First Day Challenge Results

Supporting a Good Cause and Seeing Friends from the Past

Thursday night, as tired as I was, we went to the Pregnancy Care Center Banquet. We have supported this cause primarily because we have supported the Cathcart family in their mission work – when they were in Scotland and again when Lisa C took on this project of opening the center in Old Hickory, TN near us. The Pregnancy Care center serves those who are going through a “crises” pregnancy to hold their hands through the entire process, equip them to become parents, help with material supplies, pray with them and do devotionals. The work is marvelous. The hand of God is seen there. The goal of course is to choose life and to see the beauty of it. The relationship remains even after the baby is born. It’s not only for mothers but for fathers too. They also do pregnancy tests and very importantly, have begun to do ultrasounds so the baby can be seen and hear the heartbeat. They also do counseling and therapy and even with those who have had an abortion. We were surprised and elated to hear that another center will be established in Lebanon, TN, also near us.

We were privileged to be at the table with the Cathcarts and also my friend (Lisa’s Mom) Joni. We went to church together in Gallatin, TN and sat in the same section of worship, went to the same ladies class, worked together on projects, prayed together, did potlucks and fellowships and supported one another in our weekly walks. It was a very sweet time of my life. And some of the deepest Bible study I have every had and a very powerful prayer group that we were part of. Looking back, I miss those days and have not since had anything like this group of women. I will always hold this time period in my heart.

Life changes and evolves and when you are late 50’s you see it so clearly as you look back. Some of the changes are slow it seems – a person leaves here, enters here, jobs change, geographical locations change, and before long life looks completely different. So to go back and sit at the table with these strong influences of our past was something I enjoyed very much. I am never my best at the end of a long day at which I got up at 4:20 a.m. Not very talkative, and quite honestly, not very friendly – just wanting to go to my quiet spot and head to bed. But I did the best I could and enjoy supporting this effort, and seeing our friends.

Drama at the Dinner Table

So as if life wasn’t already busy and stressful, we had a bit of drama at the dinner table one night this week, over the attendance of a football game Friday night in which my nephew and his school would be playing our christian team here, where Katy graduated. (Pic above shows the parking lot and the long walk to the football stadium which you can hardly see through the trees.) We were all pretty adamant about what we wanted and how we wanted to do it.

Mom wanted to go to Kadon’s game as did George and go to Sonic beforehand. I’m not a football fan nor a sports fan but of course would love to see Kadon play and would always go with George if he wanted to go to a game. So I was “game” so to speak. But knowing Mom’s preferences and abilities at this point in her life, I just couldn’t see how she would be up to it. It was her decision but I didn’t want her to be miserable, didn’t want her to fall, didn’t want her to be in the crowds – as you know the dreaded virus is going to be there somewhere and it was their Homecoming. So I simply made her aware that the walk would be long and I did not know how the bleachers would be but of course there are no soft seats and certainly no recliners and often big steps are needed to ascend bleachers and her balance is not the greatest ever. So I told her these things.

She said “Oh we just have to stay only a few minutes”. To which George says “Oh I’m staying the whole game, but you all can take two cars”. To which I said “No I don’t want to drive in that ball game traffic”. I don’t like big crowds and I have a fear of parking in congested areas. (I’d be better if my car was smaller but in this car it’s harder for me to fit it in the spot.). To which Mom said “Forget it I’m not going!”.

I could tell she was irritated. I’m not sure what she expected. But as George said “everyone got what they wanted so don’t worry about it”. She made the decision not to go (if she wanted to go she could have changed her mind). George got to stay for the entire game. And I didn’t have to drive in traffic. So he’s right.

But for some reason, Mom was thinking we were taking her for a hamburger anyway. I don’t know how she got this impression because George said we wouldn’t have time to go eat before hand, but would have to eat at the game. I was on my challenge so I just heated up a bowl of chili leftovers for me and he heated up gumbo. Mom said “what are ya’ll eating”. I said leftovers and she said “oh I wanted a hamburger”. I hated it but unless we hire someone and create a movie called “Driving Miss Billie”, or a miracle happened, Mom would NOT be getting her burger on this particular evening. She would have had to eat on her own two nights in a row as we were gone to the mission banquet – which I invited her to months ago when making reservations and she had no interest in going.

So while eating my chili I heard her loudly rustling around in the freezer trying to figure out what to eat. It wondered if she was angry as it sounded like she was throwing things around in there, but maybe that was my imagination. I hated it if we pissed her off in any way. But in my recollections of time across my life, I think that is fairly easy to do. And I have of course, just thrown my hands up in the air because I feel like I can never please anyone to their satisfaction as hard as I try so ultimately just have to go on and live my life and try to make hers as comfortable as I can in what ever misery she is going through. Which I know is a lot. She loves her independence, as we all do. She misses her home I’m sure and the new one she probably can’t wait for and she is probably worried about how long she will get to live there, as I am. But we don’t talk about these things. It’s just gonna be what it is. I can never anticipate quick enough what her needs are and all I can do is the best I can do while working full time, trying with great anticipation to go spend time with my grandson, and great disappointment of not being able to see much of him in his first year. I’m thankful for my daughter’s face time and her love for us and understanding of how much we miss them and want to be with them but are having to deal with responsibility here. I’m not sure that anyone ever thinks about what all WE go through trying to pull off what we have this year. It’s been a lot and it’s not over yet.

There’s a lot to look forward to though. I’m excited for Mom and I am willing to help her regardless of how ever angry we make her by just existing here in our own home. I’m sure there are many things she doesn’t like about temporarily staying with us. lol And we may have a few things of our own that we miss as far as rituals go. But it’s all good. Soon we’ll be back into our normal zones and rhythms.

Watching my Nephews Football Game and Seeing My Sister Again

So we went to the game without Mom. And I am glad because if the 1/2 mile walk had not worn her out, she never would have made it up all those bleacher stairs. So it was a good call. I appreciate her wanting to see Kadon play and I know it hurt her feelings she didn’t go – even though it WAS her choice, and I know she wanted a hamburger.

Kadon is #75! Columbia Academy.

We didn’t get to see Kadon in person but I did get a couple of pics and his parents will let him know we were there.

So surprise here- we sat ourselves down and I got a text from my sister that said “we are on the top row” so we turned around and she motioned for us to come up. So we went and sat with them. My sister and George and I and my niece Ella talked a long while. I am gracious that my sister was so nice to me. I have missed that. She seemed more like we were before when we were younger. I was happy to see that. Although there is a gaping hole of disappointment to be left alone on the island of “caring for Mom”, I am glad that I can swallow it down, in order to have and maintain a relationship with my sister. So that was good of me to be able to sort of separate the two, even though we were able to have conversations about Mom without controversy. So this was a big thing that happened last night – especially with my anger having been peaked again just days/hours before seeing her.

I understand the final scene that caused the issues to begin with and I get my sister having drawn a boundary – and she told me where she felt she went wrong was not setting boundaries ahead of time, but I think we both have been afraid of our Mom and her very strong persona. We have walked on egg shells for years. She said that I had drawn barriers earlier on. So we touched on some things and she was open and honest with me not judging of me and not the person in the text messages that I had received for so many years. She was more herself. This was good to see. This was a good start. I went to bed and slept very good having had that time with my sister and her family. It was heart warming.

And although the buildings have all changed, we believe we found “the rock” that Cody and Katy began going stead on, and then again later when he proposed. Katy is this the one?

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So how was the first day of challenge? Pretty successful on 4 of 5 fronts. The hardest will be the eating!

Movement: I did my 80 movements all throughout the day – half of them before bed. My push up? Oh I’m so glad that wasn’t on video! My arms are not strong enough to support me without having to do a very weird arms spread out wide like an eagle kind of push up. I just flat can’t do one. But I’m going to keep trying every day to do ONE push up. START SMALL, START NOW. I’m so excited to find this KYD55 program b/c it’s encouraging. Instead of diving in whole hog, just make tiny achievable improvements for 55 days. Anyone can do the 80 movements. It’s defined by YOU! Mine is mainly leg lifts, neck rolls, air punches, side bends, toe touches, windmills. YOU CAN DO THIS!

Water: Goal was 94 oz. I hit 90. I could have hit 94 but I was purposely saving the 4 oz for overnight. I chose to give myself a break there. I did have it gone before day break but technically the day was over at midnight, so I’ll be honest. I was 4 short. I will get to include those 4 oz in today’s total but I have to draw the line somewhere. Since I normally have had trouble getting 70 oz in – I will claim yesterday as success.

Reading: I did my 5 pages and then some – Bible reading, pleasure audio book, and pleasure reading before bed. I’m so glad that pleasure reading is one of my goals – because it makes me happy and being happier is a goal. I also have been reading my crab fisherman’s book for waaaaaay too long and it’s a goal to get it off my plate.

Service: I’m purposely trying to reach out to family/friends – mindfully as set by this challenge – to be a more loving, caring person and more attune to my family and friends. I want to be a better friend. And it’s not that I wasn’t before but I get caught up in the dailies of life and it becomes my world and shrinks and I’m just inside it. I want to go beyond and be there and be more connected. So I checked with friends Kathy P and Lisa I, b/c I love you girls sooooo much. You mean the world to me and I can’t tell you that enough. I want to be there for you as you have for me. And you know what. Thank you for reading this blog b/c that means so much. I know you both do when you can and I thank you both for being such a good friend to me for so many years. I treasure you both and I’m sorry I’ve not been there for you more. Both of you are examples of Christian women that I want to be like.

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Nutrition. I had greens yesterday, fruit, fish and ate whole all day. Until the guy gave me a free hamburger after the game to take home. YES, we got two and I took one home to Mom and she got her burger! I ate mine in celebration of having a nice chat with my sister and for doors being opened there. So I wasn’t perfect but that’s ok. I am embracing a mindset of wanting to eat more nutritious food. I realize I am the ONLY one that can make these decisions for myself that others will sabotage it – maybe not on purpose. I failed at the end of the day – a bit of emotional eating and having a thing for burgers and for “free food” being offered. It just seemed right – it was probably wrong but I don’t regret it. But this category will be my hardest part. It was a grilled hamburger like homemade. lol. I’m human people and I’m trying.

Weekend Ahead

Today I’m working on laundry, the house, and some goals here. We meet friends nearby at 3 this afternoon. So I will be drinking a beer today. And that is ok. My goal is one. I’m ok with two on the weekends if stretched apart, but have a requirement of one glass of water in between. At least if I’m going to set habits, I’d like to do it that way. Tomorrow I’m hoping to go to the store, might take Mom for lunch or something, and work on my To Do Lists. It’s always a game to get things done and I’m usually ok come Monday, but woah, if I don’t get some things done, I will be having another bad week this week ahead.

I’m about to go walk my 20 minute walk though! Ya’ll have a good day! What you got going on this weekend and let me know if you made it to the end. That was a lot of activity in the last two days and remember I worked a FT job in addition and started a new challenge!

A German Meal with Friends and Reasons to Love Monday

What a grand time we had at our friend’s, D & L’s, yesterday. Fabulous time! Table decor very pretty. We ended up having a German-themed meal complete with Grilled Lamb and Brats, German potato salad, orzo veggie salad, and German beer and wine.

The lamb had been marinated. It was similar to Sauerbraten – I think.

Yes that would include bacon there in that German salad and fresh parsley from George’s herb garden! 😉

Don knows I love Kolsch and had warned me ahead of time that it was waiting for me! Love the taste of my “go to” choice of beer when not drinking the light version. It was Don that recommended this type of beer as I said one day I was looking for a medium bodied taste. Spot on! Not too dark and stout, not too Pilsner-ish!

Yay, I cooked some brownies. They didn’t actually cut very good but they were great. I think we have one left! lol

BROWNIES with Choc Chips So I forgot to add the vanilla but they were still good. I also used Dark Choc Cocoa. Recipe is there above in the link. I saved the website to Pinterest so I can go back there. Jack and Jeanne have the website and they have some other really neat recipes. You can follow them by email too at their “Love and Lemons” website.

We got to spend some time with fur babies! And after dinner we hung out in the pool, floating on noodles and having conversations. Good times, good friends.

IT DID OUR SOULS WONDERS! THESE FOLKS ARE FAMILY!

GUS is the little grey poodle and Reese is the Standard brown and beige poodle. So sweet. Love seeing the fur babes.

Reasons to Love Monday and the Start to a New Week

So it’s Monday again. And as blogger friend Heather G used to say “There are many reasons to love Monday if you just look for them”.

  1. I feel refreshed after both a productive and relaxing weekend.
  2. I no longer feel rushed.
  3. It’s George’s birthday week.
  4. I get my nails done after work today.
  5. Going to have fun at the store on Tuesday. (I enjoy the store run when I’m not harried.)
  6. I went through some recipes and have new ones I had saved a while back and will fix for the fam to contribute to the cooking scene.
  7. Mom and I get our pedis together Wednesday night and its rumored we may take home fajitas from the next door Mexican restaurant.
  8. Did I mention it’s George’s birthday week? Lots of meals out this week. Some with friends/family.
  9. I started the next video so I have glee in my soul and have something started to edit in my spare minutes this week.

See you guys back on Wednesday morning! Tomorrow’s my early day so not post tomorrow. Everyone take care.

New Headphones, Party with Friends, Dead Body in Attic, and To Do List

New Headphones

The new headphones came in. No make up here! Warning! In relax mode! I decided to order these with an extra person coming in the house. I can listen to video clips and do editing at any time and don’t have to be quiet. I can listen to music and with these big honkers on my head people can see me working and know I’m getting in some “me” time. Nothing says “do not disturb” like some big honker headphones. One thing is for sure. I like my quiet time a couple of times a day. Some in the morning and some in the afternoon. An introvert requires it for sanity and rejuvenation.

Family has Flown Back Home

So no sooner than they got here, they are off again headed for their flight. Katy, Cody, and Little Roo flew home Saturday mid-day with a slightly delayed flight. Once in Dallas they had a two hour trip home, had to go pick up the dog Findlay and she said they all had to have a bath including the dog! lol. So they are glad to be home to relax some and since Katy is out of school she is happy to have nothing to do this week but unpack and enjoy being home.

Phone Wallpaper

Just playing around on Canva and made a b/g for my Home Screen. You are welcome to snag it if you want. Sometimes I like having multi designs on the Lock Screen. But it doesn’t really show up that much to tell you the truth. The background cannot be too busy or you can’t find your apps.

Summer Party with Friends. Christmas Gift Swap and a Pool Party!

We had a fine time at our friend Don and Lisa’s house. Above is their doggie Reese, named after Reese cup for his coloring. Such a sweet standard poodle. I was so incredibly tired though. I sat by the pool for a long while and just “vegged out”. I want to have our friends over for some fun too, but I’m not having anyone over til the floors are done. We are getting close folks! Very very close. Mom’s move #1 will be over with by the end of next weekend. ONE CAN ONLY HOPE! So I’ll be pushing for these floors. I’m at the end of the rope were the floors are concerned. The carpets have been abused way to long and now they are abusing us! lol. Flooring yes…. This has to happen!

Lisa had beautiful decor, as always! So pretty and inviting. I didn’t take pics of people for the blog. Not everyone likes to have their faces on display for the masses. I get it. Quite honestly, I enjoy taking pics of the decor and the food anyway!

Lisa had the most awesome watermelon salad. And I called it “salad fest”, with the hot temps outside in the 90’s, having the salads was so appetizing. I don’t have the names of all the salads, but they were all tasty.

George made an Orzo salad. This is it above. Loved it!

This was a coconut cream pie that George bought. It looked good to him. I bought some chocolate fudge iced brownies. Yummo.

As seen poolside. Love the birds on the cushions.

Lisa has beautiful landscaping and flowers. This was in the pool area. No pics of the pool area as people were all around. Trying to be respectful.

By the time it was time for us to get home to Roger dog, the sun was starting to go down. Snapped a pic of the sunset coming through Nashville. It was fiery through the clouds.

Video has gone live today. See previous entry.

If you didn’t see the previous entry, the video is now live. See the previous post for the link. These are a labor of love. I used to worry when not many watched them. I quickly got over that. It seems when you post it and walk away (after letting folks know it is out) it just happens that a few will go in a watch. My niche is out there somewhere. Working FT is hard to find time to put into finding my niche. The truth is I don’t have to be successful on YouTube, I don’t need it. I have enough money to retire before too long. But it is a goal to increase the subscriber load and to develop a following. When I sit down to try and realize where I want to go with this, and what my “success line” is with this, I realize I’m already reaching it within. The whole thing is a hobby and the fun is in the learning and in the sharing of our lives with you. I’m already doing all that. I’ve reached success already. If the things gets tossed around and grows and provides value to someone then that is good too. I just enjoy doing it, so I’m not letting myself get disappointed if the numbers are slow to grow. I was kinda the same way with the blog. The fewer that read it the less trolls you’d have, lol.

Trip to Mom’s for a few last loads…

Imagine George’s surprise at pulling what appeared to be a dead body from the attic. I’m sure you’ll see this clip again somewhere.

And the follow up….We concluded the dead body was “Mrs. White”. LOL. Mom used the mannequin when she used to sell Premiere Jewelry.

Meanwhile Little Roo was good at the airport and slept a lot too. I’m gonna miss our little man. I wish we could be near him often where we could babysit and play and spend time with him.

So what did we do today? Here was the line up!

We were on the road by 9:30 a.m. and then went to Mom’s and I packed up the remaining 1 last box of the guest bedroom items, taped and boxed some remaining kitchen items, hauled canned goods and pantry items to the car. Stayed at the bottom of the attic while George handed things down. Mom gave me the Lane cedar chest that was up there. And it’ll have to come back on the U-Haul truck.

We also brought all of Dad’s many fiddles here on this load as we were coming straight home so they wouldn’t sit in the heat. And so we came home and unloaded everything for the basement and put the canned/pantry goods upstairs as Mom said we’d need to use some of that stuff up. She also wants us to use some of the freezer items when it arrives. I guess she pay rent with food, ha ha! We will tease her.

OK so…then I had to run to Target. I wanted to buy some more of the towels I had bought but apparently they were popular. On line they were outrageous. And they were gone in the store. So I had to buy plain white towels but they were made by the same company so I know they will wash well and hold up.

I would have bought more from Target but their store would not let me see my Alexa grocery list that was on line. So tough tooty Target, I went to Kroger then and bought the rest of what I needed because if you block internet service for your customers then….you lose some profit! Those that have lists on their phone can’t see what they need. That’s bad, really bad.

So yep, off to Kroger I went for the rest of my things. And happily so. Thank you Kroger for allowing me to see my Alexa grocery list! You rock! You get the sale!

The home to unload groceries. George had mowed and showered. He fixed us a cranberry and vodka and so I decided to do a blog entry while I drank it.

Week ahead?

Another busy one.

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Well, this is just another one of those busy crazy sink or swim kinda weeks with all of us. Including Mom, b/c so much needs to happen.

  • First of all we have to work Full Time this week all week.
  • My sunglasses broke so going in early Mon to take a long lunch to go get those fixed.
  • Arrange with the storage place to pay for the big storage unit coming open on the 19th and get the keys/lock Saturday morning. (Pray for us b/c if this doesn’t come open we are in trouble and have to figure something out).
  • Set up Fancy’s August trim (yes have to book that far in advance)
  • Mom has to get all her utilities set to change over to new people and cable and security and all that.
  • I need to find Mom a heart doc and a regular doc here in town or nearby
  • Mom needs to have her mail forwarded if not already via post office
  • I have a hair appt Wednesday
  • Go get Mom on Thursday evening – we get her, the last loads we can fit in two car loads. George is coming with me and he’s driving her car back.
  • Friday afternoon Mom has her first eye appointment (injection in the eye) in Hendersonville (I’ve been going in early on Tuesday’s to be able to get in extra hours for the month to take off for a Friday eye appointment once a month)
  • This weekend is the BIG U-HAUL move. It will HOPEFULLY be all over by the end of the weekend.
  • And try to get this house in order, iron, fold laundry change George’s sheets
  • And will be trying to adjust the house for Mom as she needs it with more fans, more lights, moving things where she won’t trip, etc. George has already been training her how to use the TV. lol
  • After this week, I’m looking forward to planning with Mom being here: Meal planning, excursion planning, shopping trip for me some pants, and maybe a top or two, flooring, planning Mom’s birthday, 4th of July, and George’s birthday. And maybe just maybe a little excursion away for a long weekend somewhere? Who knows.

Seeing the light at the end of the tunnel ya’ll! But it ain’t over quite yet. Prayers please for this final final leg, this last final week of moving!