Aggressive Doctors, Mom’s Move Scheduled, and Everything in Between

Monday, May 18, 2026

Sitting here drinking coffee in my office. All is going well. I had a doctor’s visit this morning. It was the annual check up. Full on. And it was 7:30 a.m, which was early but that meant I didn’t have to starve all day. I left having given urine sample and my blood. They couldn’t find a vein so she took it from my hand. This always happens. Blood pressure was spot on perfect. I left with my stool sample kit, which was embarrassing to trot through the lobby with. I wish they would put it in a sack so it looks like someone gave you a gift worth keeping versus one you will be bringing back in a biohazard bag. 🥴

As of today there is nothing to report. I’ve done chores, ran my biohazard bag back over to the doctor’s office in a cheerful bag with smiles all over it. And glad to have that over with. I’ve also worked on a video. It’s almost 5 p.m. and I think I will have a glass of wine for the first time in 5 days. My tummy is much better.

It’s 90 degrees here today. But it’s not humid today so it kindof felt good as the sun was on my skin but there was a 25 mph breeze or more, and it just felt really good walking the dogs. When the humidity is there and no breeze, 90 is stifling but today it felt good. We are in a draught and our grass is starting to crunch beneath our feet and have brown patches. It’s so weird for May. It’s supposed to rain some this week, so that is good.

I think I’m doing ok this week – hanging in there during this “calm before the storm”. I’m vlogging this week on self-care which seemed a good time as I had my doc appointment, learning from last week’s indulgences which created a hefty pain in my colon, and I reshuffled my supplements around using AI. I have an array of topics to talk about each day all in the midst of vlogging as well.

Yesterday I finished videoing my DeClutter vlog, so I will post it soon and will probably be good timing to have that extra video in my back pocket, while I pack and get Mom moved. I intend on vlogging her move but I won’t have time to do much editing that week so if I can get that extra video edited before we move her that will be a good one to schedule for that Saturday of the week we move her. I will try to get it edited this week, if I can and schedule it in advance.

Over and out for Monday.

Tuesday, May 19, 2026

I have spent the day so far doing laundry, sprucing up the kitchen, had avocado toast with tomatoes for breakfast and a lean cuisine for lunch. I have found a white bow for my nieces wedding gift stack from Mom and George and I. And I have dusted my office area and cleaned it some, but I still have notes everywhere of things I don’t want to forget. And lots of projects lying around waiting to be done. I don’t want to put them up so I don’t forget about them.

I worked on a video (editing it) and it has uploaded to YouTube. We will preview it when we get back home after seeing The Devil Wears Prada II.

Mom’s doctor called. The surgeon. He wanted to make sure Mom was making a decision on the heart valve replacement and to talk with her about the risks. I had him call Mom because it’s not my decision.

Then Mom called me telling me she wasn’t sure she wanted to do it now. But is interesting in talking with them further, but she says she is not wanting to do it yet or even make a decision to do it until after she gets in assisted living.

She said she is afraid for them to know it as she thinks if they know she is getting heart surgery they may not let her have the assisted living unit. But that doesn’t make sense. That would be even more reason to have the unit and they would get more money as her care would go up. She says not to tell anyone but too late my video is already uploaded and I can’t change it without hours worth of work that I am not going to do at the last minute and don’t have time to redo it because of all the things I’ve done lately getting her ready to go. So the whole world will know and she may be mad, but I think I have already mentioned it to everyone anyway. I really didn’t think it was a secret, lol. It’s not that she doesn’t care if I mention it or not she’s just afraid she will lose the room. We’ve already signed, paid, and ready to go once it’s available.

Then she said she wants to go see the unit again. I told her we would not be going back to see it until after we get the key. We have already bothered them twice to see the unit and we have to sneak in while the other lady is at lunch. So I told her we’d get to go one more time before the moving truck came and measure but it would be after we had the room. I’m not making them sneak us in again. Mom said “well you got to view it twice and I’ve only seen it once”. I said “well of course I did b/c I had to make sure you’d like the room in the first place as I was the one shopping for your unit”. It’s not like it’s a contest, to see who gets to see the room the most.

I asked if she had put sticky notes on everything like I asked and she said “no, I know what I want to take”. I said “well, if you put sticky notes on it you don’t have to tell him and it’ll be ALL on YOU telling him” and it will take so much longer. I hope the guy is wearing his patience pants when he comes. And I hope I’m wearing mine. I’m letting her have the conversation with the guy then since she’s not complying with our sticky note requests, lol. Fine, have she can have the floor and tell him everything she’s taking and she can discuss rates and do the whole thing. We will sit and watch. I’ve not asked anything of her but to please put sticky notes on things. Nope. She won’t even do that for me.

I reminded Mom that George and I are NOT moving anything that we are “going to let” the movers do it. We need to be ready to unpack and get things into place in her unit and I won’t be lifting anything and walking back and forth moving things. George does not want to be lifting either, but we can be in the apartment setting things up and moving things around while the movers bring things in. I don’t know why this has to be an issue, but I think it’s finally soaking in. I told her she had to tell him what prints she wants to take too as they will be taking that.

My phone is ringing yet again but I’m ignoring it. I feel like I can never get away from it. If this move doesn’t hurry and happen……But I can’t do anything to make it hurry up. It just is what it is.

Well, I need to get ready to go to the movies. At least I’ll have phone on silent for two hours.

Wednesday, May 20, 2026

This month seems to be taking forever. We are just waiting for Mom’s move and time is ticking. We are being pressured by the doctor to do the TAVR procedure. Both Mom and I are getting calls. Since Mom got out of the hospital, the nurse has called twice, one of the doctor’s has called, and then another doctor called. It seems more like they are trying to “sell” the procedure. I can’t imagine that they are THAT worried about her health, but perhaps they are. If so I’ve never seen anyone so worried about ANY of our health like they have been.

Today the nurse was saying she was putting Mom down for the procedure on June 17th. I told her Mom doesn’t even want to decide about the procedure now until after she moves. She kept saying they have to plan and fly people in, and I said, well she doesn’t even know if she is having the procedure yet. So she said she was putting her down for the 17th. I told her that was not a good week as we had family coming in and she had the audacity to say “well maybe they can change their plans”. Geez. I’m starting to think they have to have a certain number of people per time block to do these procedures and I cannot believe the pressure they are putting on both of us. I told George this week I just feel harassed by doctors in this unit. Normally you cannot get them to call you and these folks are just calling weekly, and several of them. At first I thought they were genuinely concerned and now I’m kinda questioning it.

To go without the procedure has risks and to have the procedure also has risks. It’s a decision that does NOT need to be made without contemplation and it’s not MY decision. But of course I’m on the list to call because I make her appointments and Mom sometimes has trouble with her phone. It’s Mom’s decision though and if she wants to have it that week then we will make it happen but I probably will still be seeing my family from Texas anyway and might not be able to stay in the hospital with her like she would want me to. I’m personally just not available that week to sit with her. We have been looking forward to seeing family and I will definitely want to spend time with them too while they are here. So if she does it then, I’ll be stretched thin and will divide my time because I AM SPENDING TIME WITH MY TX FAMILY.

I wanted to hang my head and cry but I told George that God will have it like it needs to be and we’ll just deal with it as it happens and every day is all I can do – just one day at a time. But the real problem is the nurse who is pressuring us for this date and we have both told her NO.

I’ve had a good day today. It’s been a quiet day but I’ve finished with one video and I’m working on the DeClutter video so I’ll have an extra video in the bag as it’s going to be a wild wild June. Possibly even July.

Alright, I need to call Mom and then make spaghetti. Stay tuned. lol

May 22, 2026

So I packed Mom’s red birds up yesterday. And her crystal bowls that are on the turning shelf that she is taking. I got my sister’s cake plate and the few things she wanted from Mom’s glassware items packed and we’ll bring it down to her for the wedding. And I got Katy’s glass pitcher and crystal bowl packed for what she wanted and will give to her when she comes up.

The mover came and gave his estimate. Bedroom suite (bed frame, dresser, chest of drawers, including an adjustable bed, a love seat sofa, a recliner, two other chairs and a small table, and a curio (holds her red birds) and turning book shelve (holds her crystal bowls), and her tubs of personal things (bowls, birds, clothes, necessities. I can’t remember if she included art work but she’ll have to sticky note the things she is taking. Otherwise she will find herself without what she wants. Because we are hiring the movers to do the moves. We don’t want to be doing the move – not even boxes or artwork. Let them do it. I hope she realizes this as I’ve already told her several times we don’t want to be doing the moving anymore and that includes boxes and items. We hurt after we do things like this and it takes a week or more of recovery if we do recover. I worry about this b/c I don’t want to argue with her, but I will put my foot down because I have to protect us and not just give in to say “yes” to things that we just can’t do anymore. I don’t want it to get ugly, but it might. She has the help now so she needs to take advantage of it with the movers. PERIOD. There’s NOT going to be any “Oh we can move all that later.” Nope. It’s now or never.

So Mom wanted a sausage egg mcMuffin and I didn’t so I got her breakfast and then went thru Chic Fil A and got my healthier breakfast of an egg white grill chicken breakfast on whole grain muffin and fruit and tea. I realized if she sees me drinking tea she will want tea and so I got her a tea too at Chic Fil A. I was hoping she wouldn’t be upset that I didn’t bring her fruit, but she usually doesn’t want much that is healthy so I did not buy her one of those. (She ordered fruit for lunch though – good for her).

The mover was supposed to come do an estimate at 1:00 but I got a call they were running late and would be there at 2:00 so I went ahead and ordered lunch only it took a little while. I used Uber Eats and ordered us Taziki’s. I did not tell Mom that it was Mediterranean food for fear she would wrinkle her nose. I knew that she liked chicken so I asked if she would be good with a grilled chicken platter and two sides. She said sure. lol. Then I ordered George and I the lamb gyro. I did not see the gyro platter. But we got the gyro and I did not eat much of the bread, but ate the meat, the cucumber tomato salad, and rice. I only order Uber Eats in crises times like packing, moving, etc. I also ordered at work on rare times when I was stressed and absolutely couldn’t get away and hadn’t brought lunch. But I tried not to let that happen.

George helped too by measuring the pennant lights length so I can get some more from Lowe’s to be installed by electrician b/c we can’t find a globe to fit the one we have that is broken. And he talked to the moving guy about some of the pieces Mom is moving b/c he had already moved all that stuff twice. And he talked to him about the bed situation. NO one is certain it will work with the frame but at least she will have a bed there. George helped also by getting her mail from the mail box (not on her property but nearby). He also took birds off and helped me wrap those.

Around 3, I left Mom’s and went to the store (Publix) to pick up my Rx and get a few things I needed for the next few days to eat and a few things to restock on.

George had an evening out with the neighbor and friends for wings. While he was gone I finished up working on my 20 min of footage for the DeClutter video and I’ll finish that up today and get it uploaded. Then I ate left over spaghetti and watched YouTube.

Today I’ve done laundry, spot cleaned the kitchen as it didn’t need much, fixed a couple of eggs and a side of a few orange slices and a few blueberries and a few walnuts.

I have paid Mom’s part of her hospital bills for April – most likely related to her additional hospital stays and one for Dr Horr’s office. I think since they stayed late and the office person was gone they just billed us for that copay of $20.

Also I noticed that the assisted living sent us a statement saying we owed for June. I had to let them know this morning that we already paid it. The director is new. They didn’t cash the check until yesterday as they couldn’t until the current person moved out of the room, and they cashed the check yesterday so they could run it against Mom’s account and not the previous person. But the statement ran before they did that so it showed we owed. She said now it’s showing we owe ZERO as they cashed the check but they will send me a copy showing zero via email. I figured they had accidentally left her check in the file with the paperwork but understand it was an accounting thing where Mom couldn’t pay yet because the other person was still in the room. But the other person moved out now, so yay. The new floors go in on the 29th, painting occurs before that. And they are hoping to paint the cabinets but the air has been too humid. I said, well it’s expected to rain for over a week so….I am not sure what will happen with the cabinets but I told her we are moving in June 3 and it’s all scheduled. I’ve also written a check to be mailed to the mover, which we have to pay a deposit down. The mover comes recommended and several families have used this company.

I’m going to end here and get a shower. I have to eat lunch, do some housework, end a vlog, and finish editing and uploading a video. The morning is going fast as there is always a lot to do. And it is a rainy day again and it’s nice to get some gentle rains. Looking at the forecast though, George is wondering when in the next week that he will have time to mow. lol