Less Hustle More Coffee

Here’s Mom’s house with the sod put in. Things are slowly coming together. I thought of you guys yesterday and took some pics. Here’s Mom’s mail boxes that you can see in the distance there. You have to squint to see it. We can’t figure out how things work with the keys to the mail box or which mail box is Mom’s. There is no corresponding number. Mom is going to call the GoodAll folks today. They didn’t explain that very well. Most of the houses have mailboxes but at some point the post office said they would have to have mailboxes like an apartment. At least that is what GoodAll told Mom. But that does not make sense to me. Most neighborhoods have mail boxes, lol. I bet GoodAll just didn’t want to spend the money buying the mail boxes or couldn’t get them in, so they just had the post office put in that community box. That makes more sense to me. But who knows. The main thing is that Mom needs to be able to get her mail. Although she was very disappointed to realize she didn’t get a mail box at her house.

The trees (some of them) are turning a gorgeous color while others are still very green and showing no signs of turning. It’s just odd.

I started washing up Mom’s glasses, dishes, and utensils yesterday. Since they were in boxes, I washed them in the sink. We also did a load of dishes in her new dishwasher. Some things still sit in disarray on the counters as most of her main dishes are still in boxes and we need to get them placed first. But I think she has more space than she did before. I’m also looking for lids to Tupperware and all that. So we’ll get it done. I lined the drawers with the shelf paper but we didn’t bother with the shelves. Mom just wiped them clean But no need to line each shelf.

So I mainly emptied about 6 or 8 boxes yesterday and washed them. It doesn’t seem like much. But it takes a while to wash everything. I found a box that said “Thanksgiving” and I immediately opened it to give some holiday cheer. It worked. It made Mom smile.

Mom’s view is so pretty right now. It’s sad the tree line will be gone from the window and it’ll be the wall of the house next to her but she is hoping they put trees in between her yard and the next one. I think they will. But we’ll see. But I realized yesterday that beautiful scene would not be there for long. Still it’s nice to have the big windows so at least the sun can come through.

I went to get us a Wendy’s burger yesterday. Mom said to get the Baconator. I’d never had it. Oh my gosh how filling. We were having pizza for dinner and I couldn’t hardly eat the pizza as we were still full. Neither could Mom. George has two large pizzas to himself to eat for the next couple of days. I need to eat something light today. Like chicken broth, lol.

Mom has been working on her clothes. She can do about an hour and a half or two hours of work and she is done and off to the one comfortable chair that is there.

I had to laugh at the hangers! There are tubs and tubs of clothes to bring in from our basement. So quite a bit more to hang. She is also getting rid of some.

There is a problem though – some of her furniture is likely not to fit like she wanted. So her bedrooms are going to have to be “thought through”. The guest bedroom is very small. We’ll have to see what happens. I think once her bed and fridge arrive and maybe her security system – she will be ready to stay there. Plus a curtain over her sliding glass to the patio. That needs to be in place too. George is going to add some handrails to the exit of the shower – on the wall as you exit the shower in both bathrooms. And a rail coming out of the house in the back since they have a step there. Anyway, all that will have to be done over time. But George is making his notes and trying to see what he needs.

He is off all week and is moving her some today still. Mom has decided to stay here instead of working in the house today without me. :-O So nothing will be done until I’m off Thursday and Friday and can get her kitchen worked on some more. Also want to take her to some places so she can pick out her curtains, look at trash cans and a few other things.

I have a very short week this week to get things done at work but I am in pretty good shape. I also got 8 hours of sleep last night by going to bed at 7:30 and getting up at 3:30. (Time change as normally it’s 8:30 to 9:30 bed time, and then 4:30 alarm time.

Sorry (sorry, not sorry, lol) for being whiney in my blog yesterday. I guess it is not good timing on anyone’s part to be asking “more” from me! This is most certainly not the time. Things will be more toward normal scheduling – not quite as we’ll still be working her into our schedule from a distance, but at least we can do our normal routines at dinner time and most Saturday’s and have our domain back to the two of us. Sharing has been fine for a season.

“Come out of Your Space” Thoughts

After sleeping on it some more, after George’s asking me to “please come out of the bedroom more” – where I sleep, devo, blog and edit videos, I realized something. On Saturday’s while Mom is sleeping in the den chair, I come back here in the bedroom and do Amazon orders, work on video editing, read, plan, work on to do lists, etc. So I guess I have been back here more than normal. It has become my living room as she has taken on the main den with my recliner and the TV. Normally I’d be doing housework like vacuuming. Mom naps in the afternoons and/or is watching TV (all day) so I don’t go in the room as I don’t really want to watch Me TV, lol. And I don’t want to run the vacuum while she is sleeping. So I guess I really do spend more time in my room by default to have my own space, watch my computer for TV, or do things in here as to not disturb her and be able to see and listen to things I myself would like to. I’ve gone to bed earlier since she has been here. I’m just more tired and needing more sleep to be able to handle all these changes bot mentally and physically. So I will “come out of bedroom” more on the weekends when I can do things I normally do in the rest of the house. I will be glad to play my jazz on YouTube again in the den while I clean house. I can do YouTube exercise videos again. I played my housework jazz early on and Mom didn’t seem to like it – I think she asked if it could be changed to some thing else. So I never put it on again.

So, I guess I can understand that, but I’m not sorry for doing things this way as it was what I needed. So we will all just have to get over the “come out of the bedroom more” conversation. I just have to do what I have to do to get through til we can get back to normal and I can make as much noise as I need, listen to music, watch TV and do what I want and when I want and how loud I want in the house. It’s no offense to anyone, it’s just that I’m looking forward to actually being out of my room more so that makes two of us. lol lol lol I just didn’t want to disturb her and still wanted to do my own thing. I’m certainly not going to sit on the sofa and watch her sleep! lol I’d rather be working on my to do list and having fun doing what I do.

So I hate If I offended anyone by doing my thing. I am most certainly not going to apologize for that. I will just say others have to get over it I guess. I’m giving lots of time and effort to other people and I don’t think it is selfish to be able to have a few minutes to yourself to do a hobby. George reads, watches sports, goes to McKaye’s, putts around and does what he likes to do, when he wants to do it, and where. I don’t think any of us are any different. I know I could be better at vacuuming but I have a good excuse for that as mentioned above. Every time I go to vacuum she’s sleeping. She says not to let that stop me but that would be rude. I just can’t do that. I usually vacuum in the afternoons. So the floors need doing desperately but I told George I’d do them when Mom leaves so I can get it all real good and with two of us, there are fewer of us to mess it up as quick.

I knew this would happen during this season of time. This is the busiest quarter of the year and with the move on top of things and the extra responsibility – this is not the time to be asking more from each other, for sure. We have to take what we get. And that said, I’m sure work would like it if I showed up today. lol

I probably won’t be back til later in the week as I can. But we’ll see what happens. Tomorrow is my early and long day. Wednesday is my Friday. I will either blog, do a video edit (I miss it so much – it’s been about a week) or I will be working to try and get more work done b/c you know you don’t really get all your allotted PTO hours since no one is doing the work while you are gone, you have to make it up and it takes time to do that, so you end up working a bunch of your PTO hours to get it all back lol. SMH! (Shaking my head, for those that don’t know).

Ahhhh life is so strange. I’m excited for the season, and grateful for what we have, and what we can do. So don’t misread me. But indeed life is strange.