Filing a Police Report and Celebrating our 30th Anniversary in Nashville

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Filing the Police Report

After filing the police report for the identity theft where someone tried to file unemployment claim in my name, we could then get on with our Anniversary Saturday plans. I had never set foot in a police department before so it was interesting. There was traffic court going on. We went in and a big sign said if we needed to file a police report to call using the phone in the corner. And then wait. So we did just that. I was expecting someone to come to us from within the building but a police officer drove up from the street and came in to help us. We went into a room. I told him what happened and gave him a copy of the claim that my employer had given me. He spent a long time looking at the report and taking notes. And I’m thankful they let me know so I could try to fix or block any damage done. Luckily no damage that we are aware of anyway and we’ve checked all the main things and no one can open new accounts either. We have a great police force here. The walls inside the police station were filled with big happy pictures of the crew within the neighborhoods and a canine dog – I wondered if it was one that had been a good one that passed or perhaps one that is still living now that they use. Anyway, an interesting time and we went home after that and got ready for our anniversary day out.

The title of this blog today is not a title I thought I’d be using for today’s blog, lol. Kinda catches your attention though doesn’t it. At least I’m lucky that the police were not separating us during our 30 year anniversary, lol! The way the title reads it kinda sounds like the anniversary went awry, but we had a great time!

Anniversary Celebration

We headed out just after the huge rains had past. Can you see that strange patch of blue? It was the strangest blue I’ve seen amidst rain clouds, with these white clouds passing under it and behind it. While we still had very cloudy skies, it was at least a bit lighter and only misty rain at times but I was glad it was not raining during times we were walking somewhere or driving on the interstate. I had prayed for that and God obliged. So we drove into downtown and into the Gulch where are rooftop experience awaited.

It was not possible to get both us and the view from inside. So now you see us!

Now you don’t!

We enjoyed the rooftop drinks. Has to be a special occasion for these drinks as they are about a 50% mark up from a normal restaurant. Usually with cutesy names, a bit of decor in the drink, and a pricey little view. But we love to do this about once a year! I mean, we were mainly paying for the rooftop view!

Blue Stripes Cacao Shop, Nashville TN in The Gulch

For the first time ever, we went to a Cacao shop. I had heard that cacao was very good for you. So we ordered cacao cappuccino for each of us. It was perfect! I loved it. I want another! We got it to go and headed back to our car. The Gulch area was very busy and alive. You can see the angel wings in this pic in the distance where there is always a line to get your pic taken for instagram and social media! lol. Every city has it’s cool spot I guess to get your pic taken to prove you were there?

Then we drove over to Frugle MacDoogal’s. It has been the cheap place (sometimes but not always) to buy wine, liquor, and there’s a beer section too. It’s been there for years and years and years. I can remember it being there in the 80’s. I bought a bottle of wine for me. And we bought some club soda to make a citrus bubble drink for me with orange juice and I bought some bitters too. George bought a bottle of wine to go with our dinner tonight – might even be to cook our dinner in, I’m not sure. But anyway we made a stop while we were there. And they also had a tequila tasting going on.

The tequila on the right was $129 tequila. I was really impressed that we got to taste it. It was smooth of course. But I would never pay that much for tequila. I hardly ever have tequila at home anyway. I only drink it when we get a margarita and that is usually at a Mexican restaurant if I’m in the mood for it.

Then on to our 5:00 p.m. reservations at Rolf and Daughters. There was some security to knowing that we would be in Nashville and out of Nashville before dark. Not saying that all places are unsafe. And probably where there are lots of people you are generally safe. In this day and age that is a false sense of security if there is an active psycho shooter. But that could happen anywhere. But I did feel good that we had early reservations. We normally would shoot for six or seven p.m. but they were all booked up so we went with five p.m. and that was fine with me.

Rolf and Daughter’s Restaurant, Nashville, TN

The menu often requires some explanation, which is part of the fun and can be part of the mystery. Even when explained, you still are not sure what it will be like. I believe if you like to experiment and perhaps go off on the ledge a bit, you will find that you are absolutely smitten with this place and will look forward to coming again.

If you are a picky eater you still might do alright as for example, on this menu there was a chicken dish, pork dish, and some pasta dishes. So the waiter can help you choose something on the conservative side. I chose to go more on the seafood side. The bass caught my attention. It was good but I think if I could choose again, I’d do something different. But I got to taste what that was like. And I’m sure my body thanked me for the fish. I like to eat fish once every couple of weeks. Would prefer every week but usually doesn’t work out that way.

We ordered the bread and seaweed butter which was excellent! George ordered the Agnolotti, sweet corn, jalapeño, lime and pecorino. Which was like sweet corn ravioli. We got the hamachi which was calamari over peas with green onions on a red sauce which was a little spicy but not hot.

We had mousse and olive oil ice cream for dessert. It was out of this world eaten together!

I had coffee with dessert.

We did some damage! ha. But we chose to do this instead of taking off and spending money on travel and hotel. There is just so much going on and so much we are wanting to do. And we love our Saturday excursions. We’ll be able to do more of that next year we hope but the day we planned was perfect and just what we wanted to do. We explored new foods and new drinks and had a blast being together and doing our excursion things.

You’d never find the place if you just went looking for it! But oh, word of mouth gets out. It is a popular spot. And one we are loving to share with you! We highly recommend it if you are a foodie type and not too picky about trying new gourmet dishes. You likely will not be stuffed here when you leave – but you will feel perfect and pleasantly satisfied, in my opinion. Let your waitress or waiter help you in determining the dishes that are right for you. I would suggest that this is a share all the dishes type of experience. It doesn’t have to be, but I recommend that whatever dish is on the table, you share with all so all can get a taste.

For the most part, I like what I see when I look back at our 30 year marriage! Yeah there were some rough patches but there are always those. Yeah, even today, our marriage is not perfect, but I’m happy to be where I am and with who I am. I think over all we made the correct choices for ourselves and good decisions along the way. It may have got started off in rocky ways but I think God knew what He was doing when we both prayed to lead us in the right directions.

God can see the bigger picture, when we cannot always see it.

And back home again to our wonderful little and growing Mount Juliet, TN. What a wonderful evening.

In George’s card, I told him of 30 ways I loved him.

Yeah there’s probably more reasons to love George! But those are the thirty I listed as they came to mind. I teased him that there were just only thirty, lol.

Now today, I will work on catching up, resting, cleaning, working in my office and whatever I need to do to make the week a bit easier! I’ll see you in the morning and let you know what I accomplished today in my free time (oh how I love my free time) and I’ll give you our week’s outlook.

What grand and glorious things – or restful things – or busy things – are you doing this weekend?

Thirty Years of Marriage: How We Did It So Far

Good morning! At least it is here. Saturday here. Favorite time of the week. George made the coffee as he got up a few minutes before me and surprised me with “Happy Anniversary” greetings. I hadn’t woken up enough to realize it or say it. But today we have been married for 30 years. REPEAT: 30 Years!

Above is the Fall office decor. Just a little bit of “Fall Splash” there and a little bit of a fall theme going on –on the computer. Time is moving on. That is for sure. I think we have some cooler temps coming next week. I need to check. Since my office is 78 to 80 on a 80 to 90 degree day, I wonder what it will be when the weather turns cold? lol. I have a heater and I’ll need it, I think. Right now I have a fan that sits on my desk! I learned if I point the fan downward the coolness bounces up from my desk top and then gently into my face without a bunch of “wind” hitting my right eyeball, LOL! It knocks the pressure down some and gives a gentle coolness. Of all the things we discover in life – that was one I had not anticipated. ha!

Thirty Years of Marriage

So thirty years of marriage. That is quite the number. It doesn’t seem like that long. What attracted me to George was his love of family, his similar belief in God, his ability to sit and listen to me, his ability to have long, deep, and interesting conversations with me, his open candor, his playful candor, his sense of humor, and it made me feel good that his background was somewhat similar to my own.

I am not really qualified to give marital advice, in my book anyway, but I CAN NOW say that we have been married for 30 years and feel like that counts for something! However, with both of us having had failed marriages before — you never really get over those deep inside and you always feel like a failure, regardless of your successes. All I can say is that I truly have made decisions in my life that I always felt were the best for me at the time. And maybe they were. There were a few things I would go back and change if I could – those points in the road where you go hmmmmm which way? But I chose a familiar path instead of taking the new road. Could that have changed my entire life. Yeah it would have most likely. But then I’d have never met George and wouldn’t have my Katebug or my River so….I’m glad my life has gone as it has.

So while I feel I’m not qualified to give marital advice, I will say what I feel has kept us together for 30 years. There have been about three or four or five really really rough patches that were very heart wrenching times and for various reasons. Each one plugged away at us and took a lot out of us. I’m not really sure we totally recovered from them either. But for the most part enough resolved. These are not necessarily in order of importance but what springs to mind as I type:

  1. Deciding to stick together as we are better together than apart
  2. Learning not to push each other’s buttons
  3. Deciding not to keep a record of wrongs
  4. Putting yourself in the others shoes
  5. Genuinely just loving and caring for one another as a part of your pack
  6. Spending quality time together – doing what we love to do
  7. Getting some individual time and trusting the other with his/her time
  8. Not being controlling (this is hard as I like to control everything, lol)
  9. Letting go of a few things that are just not worth the burden of carrying (Forgiveness)
  10. Helping one another with anything/everything
  11. Planning things together and working on projects together
  12. Working on your home, nest, property together
  13. Shopping together
  14. Planning and taking trips together
  15. Taking simple excursions together
  16. COMMUNICATION if we are too mad to talk, we email. But also keeping each other in the loop. Saying the right things and avoiding the wrong things. Even periods of silence can be communication if it means keeping the peace until communication can happen. Notice I keep typing here as this is key! So much so I’ll make another point with it’s own number!
  17. Letting the other speak! We both have the desire to hog the communication lines to get our opinions out and at times neither of us would let the other have a say.
  18. Know each other’s “Love Language”. I think I’m a combo person. Words of affirmation, physical touch (hug and kiss), and quality time – I’m not sure which is the emergent one – probably quality time as without that I would be very lost and feel unloved. I also like my individual time though, lol. Hugs are important to me so I like to give them to others as an act of love and to feel love and care in return. I like to praise when it’s due and get praise so it’s hard to say but nothing says I love you and care for you more than spending time with you. I think George’s is Act of Service and Quality Time. He is always doing things for me like fixing me a glass of wine, buying things I like at the grocery, fixing me dinner, and doing things to make my day easier. Yeah this one is big too I think. I wrote a lot here!
  19. Check in on each other during the day or when we are apart says “you are my love and I’m concerned of your well being”. (But not checking up every minute – that is annoying and says “I am not sure I trust you”.)
  20. Trust – my motto is “trust until you are given reason or suspicion not to” — then we have a problem to work through.

Ok there are the top twenty that popped into my mind. Please suggest more if you have any in your head that works for you?

Other thoughts on Marriage

It’s hard at times. So hard. But it’s rewarding and promising too. There are always areas of improvement. Our own agendas, our selfish ways, the ways we each learned to deal with situations growing up – like how we were raised to respond to things that went wrong by watching our parents and how they responded (Your kids are watching and will follow your lead! Do you shout at your partner? They will too!), and all of these outside forces that come into play make a huge difference!

The devil tries hard to throw curve balls and destroy, to break trust, to make you panic, to do anything to try and make you insecure or fearful. Stand in his face and just say “Not today Satan!” And trust in God’s word to know that He is watching over you. So if George walked out on me tomorrow or died on me tomorrow I’d be devastated. But I have to trust that God would take care of me. This is my main security! I have a tendency to feel really insecure at times, even though I have a very strong persona within me. I can take a bottom of the barrel situation and be resilient and rise up from it. I know that about me now at this age. And that gives me great comfort. I also have a plan B in the back of my head if life deserts me and I will go and put that into action if all’s left is just me against the world. That gives a source of security to me too. But I prefer my life as is – being married, doing things together. But if I wasn’t, I have this plan B. Most of you know what that is! lol

Everyone needs a Penguin Badge. The “Penguin Badge”! I got a penguin badge – learning to ice skate – when I needed an individual project to concentrate on early in my marriage to George. Having a bit of individual time to concentrate on a goal made me feel secure that I was still me and doing my own thing and not giving up who I was totally as an individual. I had put too much time and effort in my relationships up to that point in my life and I felt I needed to connect back to myself. The other point here is to always have something in your back pocket – a hobby, to do list, projects, dreams, books, activities, shopping! When insecurity comes, when bad days come, when you feel unloved, forgotten, not important – you get the picture – you are not just left on the sidewalk to melt and or pine for what you thought life would be but isn’t at that moment. It’s just another way to “roll with the flow”, something to keep your attention, something to make you feel like you are you again, not lost, until the moment passes!

Improvements Needed in Marriage

There are some things I wish would improve in our marriage.

  • Communication could always improve
  • Hugs – could always use more of those at the beginning of the day for a send off and end of day for a release and sigh!
  • Return of my texts. Often they sit out there with no response. (Insert WTH emoji here!). He’s just not a big text-er in return. Not in the way of “ok’s, got it, etc.” Only when totally necessary, if he even seeeeeeees it – but often if I’m away he’ll text and say how’s it going? I like that.
  • More specific retirement planning. We didn’t already plan it so now it’s being planned for us ::sigh::
  • Deeper understanding of a few things – a few missing puzzle pieces
  • An unspoken thing that has always bothered me but won’t be resolved by me nor spoken by me ever!

Wow, I guess that is about it as far as improvement. Ha. We always have room for improvement. Both of us can improve. I’m often selfish and I will tell ya, I get it honestly. lol I’m always trying to do my agenda, my goals, my, my my! Maybe that is where the phrase “my, my, my” come from while someone shakes their head. I could always improve by being less selfish. I try not to be. But sometimes we have to look out for ourselves, our heads, our psyches – especially if it is a fragile as mine is. I have to develop a tough shell in life to get by. Still it touches me deeply at times. Part of the protection of one’s psyche is maintained by being selfish and protecting it and developing it and nourishing it. Because no one in this day and age will look out for you and care for you like yourself, and God, and then a good partner to pitch in if you are lucky to have one. I do feel lucky. I’m glad to be married to George, my kind Hubster. It’s not always easy. But it usually is. But I’m also glad to maintain the integrity of myself as an individual. I just think that is so important. I am one with him but the two parts make the whole! And we are bigger and better together and can accomplish great things when we choose to do them and plan forward and do things together.

So that is my take on the marriage front. At least regarding mine. I will take any thoughts you have on marriage? Sharing is caring. Usually. lol

So we are off to a couple of special places today. We have flood watches out —again. It was horribly storming and raining the day we got married. Afterward the sun was shining so big. Our future was bright.

Meanwhile in Texas

Prayers for River and his cough with croup! His meds are over but he’s still coughing a not so good sounding cough. The doc said it would take a couple of weeks. He’s some better. I guess there’s questions in our heads as to if she should call the doc or wait. I suggested she just place a call – as they are on hot line on the weekend and will call back. Someone is always on call for advice. So maybe they could call in some more meds for her or something. Please pray. He’s still so little and lungs can fill so fast. So I worry about him. I’m so thankful she face times us. He is saying “Da Da Da” and we think “goo gah” for “Google” his day care teacher. I discovered that he is mesmerized if I sing. He will stare and listen. So I need to learn some songs to sing! It made us all laugh yesterday at how intent he was. We have a blast on FaceTime. We make animal noises and bark and howl. Katy says she wishes she had that on video! Here’s my Little Roo. You see where that comes from right? He’s a little Buckaroo – which is their sports team locally! The Buckaroo’s! I just love him so much. Miss him and want to squeeze him and love on him. But so thankful for our Facebook time to watch him eat, play, learn to feed himself, hold things, say things, smile at us, watching him learn, how he acts, responds, doing his Johnny jump up, learning to crawl. WE love every minute.

The Weekend

Anniversarying, Police Report filing, cleaning, laundry, grocerying, keeping Mom happy, and whatever else we can get into! Ahhhh yes! Love my weekends!

Oh Just a Little Bit of Identity Theft and Fraud Discovery. So How Was Your Day?

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Well, yesterday my employer informed me that a fake unemployment claim had been submitted in my name, using my information along with my social security number. Apparently it was not just me but has happened to a few others as well. The claim said that I was a Sales Activity Manager, which that part made me and my spouse laugh. I’ve never heard such a title. And would never be such a thing. Was not a very good made up title either. “Bless their hearts”. Probably not a very educated crew to be doing such a thing, lol. I mean let’s face it if they were educated, they wouldn’t need to work so hard to steal government money with my information.

First of all though, so I did not go into full on panic mode, and leave work to take care of the situation, I just informed my spouse. To get his take. Life is stressful enough. I figured my spouse would be very upset at whatever “breach” has occurred from wherever it has occurred. But he was fairly calm and said he was surprised it hasn’t already happened. That said, we have frozen our credit with the three major sites, which we can go in and unfreeze when/if we need to buy anything that will require our credit report and such.

I also have filed a claim with the Department of Justice because of the fact they used “the dreaded illness” which I try not to use the term in my blog post so it will send you an alert and not cause my post to be buried in SEO guidelines. Anyway- any fraud based on this or any one taking advantage due to emergency situations during these times can face a federal crime – it included the dreaded illness, hurricane damage, and other natural disasters or emergency situations. And this person used “labor dispute due to _______(the dreaded illness)”. So I filed that yesterday since it qualified as a place you could file a complaint.

So my employer of course, as they should, denied the claim and said it was fraud —so they took care of that part on their end. But today I will also file on my end, that way I have a fraud claim filed not only with the federal government but with the state. So if they catch the person(s) they will be facing a bigger situation than they ever dreamed. I also prayed they would be caught.

Unemployment fraud is however, a huge problem as is company breaches, hacks, and leaks. I guess everyone can assume your information has been leaked somewhere sometime. Not everyone follows or even has guidelines as to inform individuals that their data has been breached. But I was appreciative that my employer let me know that my personal data was used, and that they let me know I wasn’t the only one. So who knows whether the breech was a massive scale within the government and a few of our people just happened to be picked, if it was our breech or a third party. Who knows? But hopefully the government can do a bit of hacking of their own to find out!

So tomorrow we go and file the police report. I asked George if we needed to hire a lawyer for any reason. But he said no, not at this point anyway as we (as of yet) have no monetary loss against us, nothing stolen, nothing charged in our name – that we know of. But the government websites say to file a police report of the stolen identity so that you don’t have any troubles later and can show proof that it was filed. It gives you a document to show so if anything goes wrong with credit later.

He has checked on some of our accounts but we’ll be checking on the rest as we can get time to do so.

After a long day at work yesterday, and it was my turn to fix dinner – a meatloaf, pasta salad, and lima beans, rolls – then after we ate, I had to go and freeze the accounts through the 3 main credit agencies. ::sigh:: George had frozen his while I fixed dinner. But he was kind to sit with me for moral support while I went to the three websites, created an account with each and froze each. I can think of better things I’d rather do with my time!

I considered doing a Life Lock account, but that makes me feel uncomfortable really. You have to give them all of your accounts, and that is just one more agency that has your data that can leak it. But I think having done our research and taking care of freezing our credit – I think we’ll be good. But we probably have to take a few other steps with some of our accounts. But at least they can’t go buy a car in our name, like another person experienced. :-O

Have you ever had your identity stolen? It’s a shame people go to so much effort to get $. It seems easier to just go get a job.

A Little Note to the Criminal

So to all you people out there spending hours trying to be someone you are not – I hope you get caught and you live a life of having to look over your back and hoping not to be in prison for years and in debt the rest of your life. I wouldn’t want to be you. But I will pray for you and I will pray that you are caught. My God is bigger than your devil, and he can whip you and your devil in shape in a heartbeat —or rather a sound of a trumpet–lol. So you best turn your life around! It’s a shame to have to live a life that way. To not be able to go to bed at night without trembling over what you did today, no good sleep that you did an honest day’s work. How bad you must feel to be a low life, and to have made a nothing of yourself, to be on the bad side of the underworld and not triumph with anything good in your life – only lies, fear, dread. And what do you have to look forward to? How miserable. Maybe you have a nice car, nice house made with money you didn’t earn with an honest days work? How’s that make you feel? I can’t imagine that would make you feel good for long. So you probably have to drown it out with drugs, dope, and drink and all that right? Yeah, I’m right aren’t I. You are in a cycle you can’t get out of. That is why I’m praying for you. Bless your heart. Oh, and “bless your heart” in case you are not from the south, is not always a good term! But it’s a nice way of saying a few other things that we don’t want to have to say because we do enjoy a good sleep at night.

A Little Note to Wherever the Breech Came From

What are you doing to fix this if you are aware of it? Have you told others of the breach so they can take steps to protect their info. Or have you just swept it under the rug and hope it goes away? What are your policies regarding this type of thing? Do you even have a policy regarding this type of thing in today’s world?

I don’t have all the answers, but God does. And I’ve put Him on it! 😉 As well as the authorities.

The tribe has spoken. And will likely speak again!