Less Hustle More Coffee

These caught my attention pulling in the drive yesterday. Often we are so busy I don’t notice as they are in the back yard next to the tree line. But bright red with the sun shining down on it caught my eyes. See, after yesterday’s post, I may not have stopped to smell the roses (didn’t see any) but I did stop to admire the spider lilies!

I also stopped mid-day to go to Logans and get salmon on top of rice, a side of broccoli, a side salad, and ice tea. Yes, I ate a buttered roll for dessert. I was going to tell her no rolls but she brought them to the table when I sat down. It was meant to be but I only ate one. It was so good. I have to have a salmon fix every now and then. Mom does not like much fish so we’ve not fixed it at home. Sometimes I don’t either unless the fishy taste is covered up good with a good sauce. While at Logans I blew through some 400 something emails. I have not taken the time to check them in a few days. I am going to have to eliminate some of them. But I missed my bone density results. I haven’t even looked at them yet. I saw the email sitting there and didn’t want to log in on my phone. I would mess up the password. I can get in on the Mac w/o having to log in again. So I will look this weekend at the results.

What if we went around asking each other “How’s Your Psyche Doing Today?”

I slept from 9:15 last night to 7:10 this morning. I woke up around 1:30 and sipped water and had to go to the bathroom. This is most nights. One time. Sleep was just wonderful. And my psyche is doing a lot better. A rosier side.

What if we went around and asked each other “How’s Your Psyche Today?”. That would be interesting conversation wouldn’t it? But can you imagine? “My psyche is pleased today. I’m not as stressed. I’m letting go.” or “My psyche is in a weird place today, a little depressed, and moody, and dark.”

People should really talk about their psyches more I guess but we all have so much baggage at times, in a hurry, and who wants to go there really? Well I’m all about loving anything psychological so I’d be for a good ole psyche discussion most any time. But I’ve always wanted to go deeper into conversations than most people want to go. So I try hard just not to talk as I know that about me, but if I ever get going and someone listens, I tend to go overboard b/c I think I’m conversation starved sometimes. That said, sometimes I don’t know what to talk about so go figure! As I’m typing this, I’m realizing the art of conversation has just really changed in my lifetime I think. What do you think? We are less interested in each other and spend more time just getting our opinions out there.

I suppose everyone talks about weather, sports, the dreaded illness that is so rampant. But not many really talk about what is on their mind, or ask each other genuinely how they are doing, or how’s your Mom and ’em? It’s as much my fault as anyone’s. I always dive into what we are doing or what we’ve done or what we are dealing with and go from there to start conversations. Honestly really hadn’t thought much about it until I started typing. I usually don’t know where I’m going when I start typing. It’s kinda both amazing and freaky what happens when I type. lol

Been a while since we went to a Titan’s game. We had a lot of fun adventures when George worked for Gibson. We met a lot of people. Many became friends. Or at least for a while, while paths crossed, businesses ventured, and geography allowed it. I haven’t really thought about these foodie Tailgate adventures we loved so much, celebrating life, enjoying a day out, watching football, eating cold brats afterward and riding with friends on their tailgate bus back to the car. I saw this pic and remembered those days.

We had many an evening that vendors took us out to nice places. Now so much has happened in our world, I am apprehensive to even be in Nashville at night. I’m sure it’s fine, but not always. It seems in so many ways, the carefree days are over. The days of fun and food and adventure and travel. I know that is not entirely true, but it’s not like it was anyway. And here I go zooming down the dark path again like yesterday. Not meaning to, but recognizing the difference. There is a sadness now I didn’t have back then. Mainly in looking at our world, not me, just our world is sad and angry and different as a whole.

This makes me realize if I feel this way, others must also. It means a lot in our world when someone smiles even and honestly wishes you to have a good day. Or speaks to you with kind words. I have noticed it has greater meaning! We must do it more. Being kind to our waiters and waitresses, checkers, people we pass on the street. We need more nice and kind.

Be someone’s hero for the day! So let’s challenge ourselves:

1. Say something extra to those you come in contact with.
2. Smile more and say hello.
3. Be helpful even to strangers.
4. Genuinely ask your friends how they are doing and mean it.
5. Reach out to three of your social media buds by commenting on their picture, post, etc. Comments mean a lot.
6. Just Connect.
7. Say more to your coworkers when you are in the same room or pass.
8. Have lunch with a friend(s)
9. _______________ Keep going with this list and make other suggestions in the comments. It’s endless, but we have to make our daily world a better place. What if we changed someone’s day by a smile or a few simple words or actions?

Or it’s a Disciplined Mind and a Wild Eye or a Wild mind and a Wild Eye but probably never a Disciplined Mind and Disciplined Eye? Who knows! lol

Ok so….Mom liked her doctor on Thursday and was able to get her Rx’s filled. However, after sleeping on it, decided that she didn’t like the fact that he didn’t take her blood pressure, temperature, and that I had mentioned how dingy the office area looked (it was for a doc office). So she has decided she doesn’t want to stay under him. We’ve kinda gone through all the doctor’s practices in Hermitage, Lebanon and Mount Juliet that take the hospital system she wants to be under. So many of them not taking new patients. Many of them not taking Medicare. So she is backing herself now into us having to go to Nashville. Or she will have to relax her standards. I am probably going to refuse to go to Nashville. I don’t drive there and park downtown, so…..I’m setting boundaries. I mean I would do it if there was just an emergency or the only doctor in town that will do xyz! But not for a primary care. It’s been shocking to me at how many doc offices refuse to deal with medicare. Mom doesn’t want to be at a doc office that ONLY does medicare b/c she says you don’t get the best care. She also doesn’t want any care from 2 of the 3 hospital systems in our area b/c of the same reason. So we’ve dwindled down to having to relax some standards here. I have spent SO MUCH TIME researching docs with her criteria and still can’t seem to find the one.

So I told her while she sits here all day and plays games on her tablet and reads political agendas on Facebook (we hear about it at dinner) then she will have time to do research on the doctors in the area. lol. That way she can see what I’m talking about. It’s my opinion you have to manage your own health care in a way. I told Mom “tell ’em you want your temp taken and blood pressure checked, tell ’em how you want it to go”. I understand her concerns though. I’m not heartless. It’s also concerning to me that they did not do these very basic things most doc does. They even called her back before she finished the paperwork, leaving me scratching my head. So I’m not sure what the answer is. I just know I’m tired of trying to find a doctor to please so “I’m gonna let” her do it since I’m striking out. At least we found a good heart doctor. Maybe they will be able to make her a good recommendation.

Anyway we are going out to Lebanon today to see Mom’s house, eat some BBQ, and check out some parts of Lebanon, maybe stopping at a few places – a butcher shop, a gourmet farmers market, and so forth. Not really sure what all we are going to do but we are taking Mom out to get her out of the house some.

Tomorrow we are hanging out with my SIL and BIL going to a newer brewery they’ve not been to, and out to eat and to see their new place in Lebanon. We miss them and need to catch up. They have sold their house in Gallatin and living in Lebanon a little closer to us and certainly more accessible to us since we will be in Lebanon a lot. Of course they have two locales, as they have a condo in the mountains near their grandchild (what a thought huh?) Well their grandchild is only 4 hours away and ours is more like 14! Yes, we have considered having an apartment in TX! But it’s not worth it b/c we wouldn’t be there enough to warrant it. At least not right now while we are working FT.

Anyway, I think this is a good point to end the blog. But it’s a good day. We’ll be open minded, sipping coffee, doing laundry, doing some weekend routines and getting ready for a little day out. Sunny and 84 today. And I’m going back for more coffee if there is any left. My heart is just so glad it’s the weekend. There’s nothing like working on YOUR OWN agenda. Even if you love the job you do, it’s just nice to be on your own turf doing your own thing. Not hustling (no hurries) more coffee. Maybe I should have named the blog “lesshurrymorecoffee” but at the time, I was doing a side hustle of network marketing and made an abrupt turn after circumstances, sprituality, and some soul searching changed my thinking.

Sometimes I think of changing the blog, the blog title, and so forth but I already have SO MUCH invested in this title and in building up the blog, the videos, and social media- so I stick with it. Even though my growth is not very big. I don’t want to lose what steam it has. It’s not a bad theme. It’s still me – I don’t want to hurry – I want to enjoy life – and I love my coffee to get me started and my wine to finish! 😉 What you all doing on this fine Saturday in September?

Meanwhile in Texas…

I absolutely LOVE these photos of my grandson. He is so cute in the hat and overalls! I think I shall order one for a frame! Or two or three! So precious. I can’t wait to hug him at Christmas.