My LIFE LESSONS by DECADE

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So a couple of months ago, I decided to make a list of life lessons learned “by decade” by listing the first thoughts that came to my mind while I re-visited all the decades of my life. Some may be on the side of healthy and some may lean on the side of what you would call sad or pathetic. Yet these were life lessons learned based on either the results of my decisions or actions or someone else’s. I saved these for a day where I didn’t really have much to blog about. We’ve not done much in the last 24 hours but work (finished quarter end – yay) and put the house together. So nothing really interesting to share. And so today seems like the appropriate time.

Before I begin this, just know these are the first things that popped into my head and I’m probably going to add a few that come into my head as I type. They are not all inclusive so if I go back a year from now I might have thought of a few more by then and may have totally missed some important ones, but it was a fun exercise. If you blog why don’t you do one too or just do it for fun. Let me know if you did! It would be fun to see what YOU put.

Life Lessons Learned Age 0 to 10

  • I didn’t have all the answers. No one could tell me where God came from. I wanted to know!
  • Don’t make people angry or there are consequences
  • Grandparents are good friends; visit them often
  • Tent camping is not all it’s cracked up to be, especially with the girl scouts who were mostly strangers.
  • Friends make life better and more joyful, plan as much time with friends as you can
  • Sweeter folk are better than sour folk
  • The love of a dog is something very special
  • Some boys are cute; some are repulsing

Life Lessons Learned Age 11 to 20

  • I found I was no good at sports and the school gym was something to be terrified about – changing clothes in front of others was terrifying – and being embarrassed about not being good at sports was equally so. The gym outfit was just horrifying.
  • I must be an introvert therefore if I do not like sports.
  • I could travel if I earned the money
  • I wasn’t cut out to work in fast food
  • Washing cars for $ was not that great of an idea
  • I learned that I loved retail shops, merchandising, and watching things sell, and loved being able to work in one.
  • I learned that I loved to write, learn, listen to music, and learn new things about the world beyond.
  • I learned it was thrilling to wear boyfriends jackets, and have a boy friend to write letters to, to meet at the movies, and I learned that I like to go skating and meet them for dates.
  • I learned to kiss a boy on a tin Lizzy ride (old car) at Opryland/Nashville
  • I learned to fall in love, give my heart away, how to become vulnerable and have my heart broken.
  • I also learned what I did not like about boys.
  • I learned I liked college and being away from home on my own but under the guidance of a good friend and a boy friend
  • I learned that college was much harder than high school and was not as prepared as I should have been but I still made A’s and B’s!
  • I learned I wasn’t as smart as I thought I was and there was way more out there to learn and that was ok
  • Quarter pounders with cheese rocked and Wendy’s burgers had rumored to contain mysterious protein but I ate them anyway

Life Lessons Learned Age 21 to 30

  • Good food and a good cocktail could make life triple better when enjoyed with friends/family
  • Life no longer revolved around ME anymore
  • Reading was more fun that I thought it was and was a good form of escape when needed
  • Love really is conditional after all.
  • Coffee just freakin’ rocks every morning!
  • What it feels like to be pregnant and to experience the joy of becoming a parent.
  • What it is like to love a child with all your heart and do what it takes to protect her always.
  • You can’t always put all your happiness eggs into one basket
  • Always seek your “Penguin Badge” (an activity to give you joy when life goes South or you need to rely on yourself – mine was learning to ice skate and I got my Penguin Badge!). But I have had a lot of different “Penguin Badges” of sorts in my life through the years.
  • If something is worth pursuing; pursue it with a passion
  • Be careful what I ask for because I will get it!
  • To travel is to broaden one’s horizons, learn new cultures, find new cuisines, and would set afire one’s imagination and creativity and it is exhilarating to see new places and get out of the box. I noted that I should travel as often as I could as it lit up my world with excitement!
  • Determination is key, goal setting is a must.

Life Lessons Learned Age 31 to 40

  • Family can be friends, friends can be family but just because they are one doesn’t mean they are both.
  • One’s relationship with God can be more personal than a list of “do’s and don’ts”
  • All things can heal if given the chance and the time
  • Being near the ocean or bodies of water soothed something within my soul
  • A glass of wine is mighty fine.
  • Spending time in cabins and hiking in the woods was much cooler than I ever thought it would be
  • To search for and eat good cuisine with your mate is one of the finest pleasures in life
  • How many seats, toys, and gadgets it takes to raise a baby/toddler, child.
  • Having it all (a family/and a career) was harder than I thought but I could still do it, but it helped to have a village.
  • Being a parent trumps all responsibilities, but again it helps to have a village.
  • Self improvement is a continuous way of life and should be taken seriously.
  • I learned I really liked computers and graphics and the world of AOL and gaming. It made the world more interesting and gave me happiness when days were bad. (Penguin Badges rock).
  • I noticed that I liked to control my world and make it my own around me.
  • I learned that small things we do can impact others in big ways and have a domino impact.
  • I learned that some men don’t always like having women in the business world and would sabotage your efforts in various ways.

Life Lessons Learned Age 41 to 50

  • That surprises can happen and you can do things you never thought you could if you opened your mind wide enough.
  • Even I could get a Masters Degree
  • Losing weight is hard.
  • A sunset can be really awesome; appreciate them often.
  • Always have a Plan B and maybe even a C in everything in life and be ok with it. Because A doesn’t always work out.
  • God doesn’t go anywhere and his love is the most intense we can have. People and relationships disappoint, but God will not if you love Him. He will disappoint you in the end though if you don’t!
  • True contentment comes from within and from our relationship with God and his Spirit when we are aligned. Other’s can’t solely be responsible for your joy or lack thereof.
  • Pleasing people – all of them at once- is just absolutely exhausting, and I cannot serve them all at once.
  • I learned I could allow others to make me bitter if I let them.
  • It’s up to me to surround myself with people that are good for me and limit or cut out those that are bad for us. And it’s ok to make those choices and changes so long as it meets God’s requirements.
  • People don’t always want to see the truth or face it, especially if it is in writing. Verbal goes away with the clouds and vapor and is acceptable at the water cooler or dinner table but the same truthful info put in writings in a blog stay put and make people mad even though it’s the same information just in a different format – go figure.
  • When you expose the truth, the truth punishes you if you tell it in writing.
  • Stay strong. Sometimes the truth needs to be told. Sometimes it doesn’t. Learn which. Not sure if I really learned this one! True strength comes from God and from deep within. With His help and my blog, I can be my own shrink!
  • No good deed goes unpunished. Do it anyway and silently roll your eyes (or blog about it, lol).
  • It felt good to park my life’s frustrations and excitements in blog format. I felt like someone/anyone cares.
  • Being older makes you bolder. I know more now than I did then. I am more confident now and have earned the right to be.
  • People will let you do all the work if you let them – at church, at work, or wherever you are. You decide what you can do and do that. You don’t have to do it all.
  • It’s ok to say NO
  • You don’t have to say Sorry to everyone if it is not your fault.

Life Lessons Learned Age 51 to Present

  • I learned how to preserve many of my thoughts until it was time to speak them and I learned they will rattle off in perfect time when the time came to say them
  • I learned I’m responsible for my own reactions and not someone else’s.
  • It’s ok to set boundaries and let others know how you would like to be treated.
  • I can “unhook” myself from situations, thoughts, people if I need to and want to
  • I’ve learned that Forgiveness is harder than I thought and I’m not sure there are things I can ever totally forgive, but I’m constantly working on it. How do you forgive those that don’t change and keep on doing things/not doing things they should – especially when it’s hurtful or painful. Still working at it.
  • I can change my career after all these years and be totally ok with that even when I worked hard to obtain it all my life. When my life evolves into something I am no longer passionate about, it’s time to change. Leap at the chance to do so.
  • If your vision changes, allow your life to follow it. Hobbies change, passions change, life changes and we only get the one life.
  • One part of life morphs into another.
  • I am learning to vlog, learning my camera, and that makes me happy.
  • Old passions can still exist. My love for writing remains.
  • Time is more urgent and quickly fleeting on this side of life, planning and being mindful of it is more essential.
  • Five o’clock somewhere sometimes means mid afternoon if you see a favorite brewery.
  • Food can be really bad for you if it’s not the right kind.
  • Losing weight is easy with certain plans but it comes back and must be a lifestyle change but I can’t change my lifestyle to make it work, LOL . Not giving up.
  • Grandchildren are the most awesome things.
  • Best to question everything and take nothing at face value.
  • I cannot trust the agencies and institutions and people that I once used to trust.
  • Sometimes I’m confused about this world but that is ok. It’s fine. It’s gonna be ok.
  • God is the ultimate source of guidance to take the place.
  • My spouse doesn’t have to be perfect even though I prod him to be (and it helps he likes to cook) and I’m so glad we were friends first because we can so easily be friends now and that is important on this side of 50.
  • My spouse must really love me if he is still here, and forgives me daily, and accepts me for who I am.
  • Start the day with your own mind, and with scripture or prayer before hitting phone, social media, or conversing with another’s ideas/goals. Having time for one’s on thoughts is critical to start the day, have mid day, and end the day with. I’ve learned to pause to do so.
  • Career aspirations are just not all where it’s at.
  • You are never too old to try, to dream, to have goals.
  • A storm doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
  • Nature is beautiful most of the time.
  • Don’t take health for granted and keep trying.
  • No matter how old I am, I still like learning and exploring – one way or another. And I still have long term goals!
  • I want an RV and want to travel more. Life’s biggest mystery….will it happen?
  • Retirement is shockingly very close and that is not a bad thing. Looking forward to being able to see what that looks like.
  • Taking care of an elderly parent is harder and more time consuming than I thought it would be but I’m up for the task and will do a good job of it. Patience is key on BOTH parties. I think we are doing an ok job so far. Learning to give and take. Time is the main thing while working. It’s really hard to do what all we have done this year.
  • I know more of what Life Lessons look like now that I’m in this category. I am too old to remember many of the older categories.

Did you like this? You should do this too! Either in your head or legal pad or journal. What if you had to pick ten to share with someone. That would be hard.

My life has been good but it’s had some rough spots. Like most of you, I’ve had times when I made bad decisions but for the most part it turned out ok. I’ve always been a serious minded sort. I used to be sentimental and had to give that up as it’s too painful. There are some sides of you that you really have to guard. I know me well by now. I’ve responded lovingly when I’ve been loved, I’ve judged when I’ve been judged, I’ve been defensive when I’ve been critiqued and picked apart and I’ve learned to critique and pick apart myself – mainly because I’m inquisitive though as to why things are the way they are, why life is the way it is and why people act as they do. I’ve been in a lot of situations where I felt like I could never please, I feel sometimes others think I can never be pleased because of my constant desire for perfection. I always want my life to be better, whether it’s me or my surroundings. I somewhere took it seriously when I was told to believe in self improvement and to make my surroundings better. I grew up in a neat and tidy environment and mostly where the women took control of nearly everything and I inherited that essence. We are a strong line of magnolia women. We know what we want, when we want it, and how we want it. I try to battle that down sometimes, but it is what it is. I’ve butted heads often with males who don’t appreciate what a woman can do and how strong a woman can be. I’ve learned that a real man is one that can take and understand and appreciate that a woman can be strong but vulnerable. And he can love and protect her. I think George does that pretty good, but sometimes he has to be reminded, lol. And so having said all that is kinda the basis of what all I’ve learned in life. Let’s keep on learning!

Life Lessons 60 to ?????????

*So much more to learn*

Sneak Peeks of Our New Flooring Giving a Farmhouse Feel

I was on pins and needles all day. I watched them arrive after getting an alert on my phone from the camera that someone was at the front door. They unloaded supplies and worked fast. They got way more done than I expected. They still have to do the foyer, part of the den, and do the quarter round and the transitions. I’m over the moon thrilled. I was so afraid when I got home and pulled in. I was very nervous “what did it look like and would I like it, would the grey just not work with the other colors”. I was fairly confident in my decision but what if they had laid it sideways or something, lol. You know me and my worries! So I walked in and was just absolutely FLOORED! Sorry, had to say that. I absolutely LOVE IT.

Of course I’ll do before and after pics (I took some before pics even though they were messy, lol). But once we get things back in place I will do proper shots but just wanted to share what we have so far. All the furniture still moved to the middle til they get the edges done.

So carpets will be put down next Wed in the bedrooms. So we will have to move some things (Nic Nacs and other items that are on top of the furniture) this weekend. It’s going to be a VERY busy weekend. But we also have Mon night and Tues night too for final things to be moved.

All in all it’s been an easier process than I thought. That said we DID work hard to get a lot of things moved, but spread out over a few days, we managed it.

I’m super excited to start putting our house back together once it is finished.

Blog Milestones and “VLOGGING Plans”

Well, the blogging milestones are happening! I had a notice I had a lot more traffic than usual and I have also had a lot of new followers. The blog is growing. I appreciate all of you who come and read this daily or every few days. Several of you engage with me with your comments and I really like that most of all. It makes the blog worth doing. I really started blogging to park my feelings, to document our life, and to meet the need that I have to write. I begun to learn to share my life and open up to the world all the details of my day. And in sharing the things I experience and do. Some things we struggle with. Some things we excel at. Some things we experiment with but all the while learning and growing – and if not – accepting, LOL! So once again thanks for reading, and I wonder how many blog posts I’ve done in my life as a whole? I have had several blogs in the past. Blogging has been a consistent activity in my life.

And now we are VLOGGING and that is a whole ‘nother animal that I’m loving even though I don’t have time for it. And with Mom here I’ve not done any filming in the house. There’s just too much happening, not much time, too much trouble to set up the lighting, but…..I can still do some videos of this summer because we have had some excursions and lots of photos even if I just do some voice overs. It’s all gonna be fine. But I am looking forward to being able to film in the house again around October and will order my ring lighting soon and plan to ask for a lighting ensemble for Christmas (umbrella diffuser and such – a kit I found on Amazon that is phbbbbth – very inexpensive.) So once things get a little more settled I’ll begin using the camera again and setting up some scenes. I just figure Momma doesn’t want to be in the videos – it’s kind of a George and Sonya thing. So excited and looking forward to that once “the coast is clear”! lol But….no worries, I’ll still be doing videos of some sort just none with me in the house much. Can’t wait to get cranking on the next one once we get the house settled. That is first priority now so we can LIFE FUNCTION in the house!

Books I’m Reading

This one I’m almost finished. It is going to be a movie! I have 3 hours left in my audio book. I love a good audio book where you can’t wait to get in the car and drive to work, lol.

I started reading this one. I read the first couple of chapters a few weeks ago. My friend Judy gave me the book so I was wanting to get a feel for it. It sounded intriguing. Last night after eating pizza I had an hour before bedtime and we sat in the living room and read since the den sofa was not available for sitting and TV watching. I read quite a few chapters. The chapters are short and I like that. I end up reading more and even reading more often when I know there is a quick break. It pulls me in b/c I think “oh I’ll just read a quick chapter”.

It’s different, and I think it’ll be really good. It is so far.

I’m also still reading the Bible. And it’s amazing how every time I read it through, I get different things from it or learn something new. I think the most important thing is that when YOU read it through YOURSELF as a book, YOU LEARN the NATURE of GOD. A lot of the questions you have about life, are answered here within these pages, not only with the words that are written but with God’s spirit that guides. The words speak to you. His Word is ACTIVE and ALIVE. “The Word was God and the Word was With God” comes to mind as I said that!

I read TWO Chapters a Day. I actually do a prayer journal after my shower and along with my cup of coffee. I thank God for all the things the day before. Blessings and what He helped me with. I also let Him know my worries and concerns and ask for help for the day I’m in or upcoming big events that are warping my mind with worry. I pray for family. I ask for needs too. Then I close the prayer and begin reading my 2 chapters. This all usually takes 15 minutes maybe less. Two chapters is not much but it allows you to SCOOT through the Bible pretty quickly. I may not finish in a year’s time but it’s fairly quick considering that all the years of my life I’ve only read it through twice. Oh sure I’ve studied it here and there a LOT but just reading it as a book – only in my 2nd time. But this time I’m reading the chapters backwards. You know me and my silly ways. It’s actually been nice to do that.

I’m also still reading one of the Deadliest Catch people’s books. I’m just having a hard time with that one. They are bragging about how “bad” they are and all the stunts they pulled. I guess I had hoped for a more genuine book about the trade and not so much about all the wild personal things the guys did. Anyway, I am going to give it one more shot as I’m half way through.

I grabbed a hold of what I thought was my key chain yesterday and pulled out Roger’s collar. 😦 Things hit you at the strangest times. We had named him “Pumpkin” and then haphazardly after tossing names at him just for fun discovered his name was “Roger” or “Dodger” as he would answer to that. So we inscribed Roger above Pumpkin. Katy always got irritated that we changed the name after she would name a pet. lol. She originally named Tugie “Sandy” b/c she was the color of sand. But the little thing was so cute I kept calling it “Sugar in baby talk and it came out “Tugie”. And she began answering to that. I couldn’t quit calling her that. So we officially named her Katy’s Sandy Tugie on the poodle registration. But called her Tugie. I miss my little Tugie, and my Maisy and my Roger.

So now we have dog friendly flooring and don’t own a dog. But….you know me and my plans. Not this year…maybe not next year (or if so after a trip or two) but 2023 could be the year. We’ll see. I don’t think I have ever planned anything two years out except for graduating from college, ha!

Well better head in to work. It’s Friday and I’m so excited. I was able to get most of the quarter end stuff out of the way. Only two returns I’m working on – one of them is paid already but the information I was given was incorrect so I’m filing an adjusted return. The same state on the transport side of the business, the numbers are not working out either, so that one needs to be resolved today. I’m not sure what the deal is with that but suspect the numbers I’ve been given are wrong – maybe didn’t have the right allowable base or something – it’s unemployment taxes. So I’ve asked my boss to look at where the numbers are coming from in the transport system. Anyway, no work tomorrow. I don’t think I’d be able to anyway as we have to put our house back together this weekend so we can function. I was able to shower this morning but had to squeeze by closet doors that were leaning against the shower stall. lol

Ya’ll have a good weekend. Back later…..

The Mess Before the Beauty, Clay Pot Chicken, and Other Craziness

Ohhhhh ya’ll! I’m so glad I started moving things Sunday night. Not having any time off and trying to do all this after work has kept us busy. I thought I’d share the “mess”. We’ve moved everything into the sun room and the bedrooms so they can move furniture with ease when they put the flooring down. I’m very excited. Have waited for such a long time.

I have to laugh, this card table almost looks cute with it’s flowers, bird house and boat. What am I saying? lol.

And George moved a lot of stuff to his bedroom. I had decided to split Mom’s food b/w all the bedrooms. George is like “what ARE ya Doing?”. He already had plans for the space in his bedroom. lol. However, we managed to maneuver around. I have to remember the dirty clothes basket is in the sun room, LOL.

What a mess our bedrooms are.

We tried to keep too much out of Mom’s room so she didn’t trip over it. George put this box there and she can’t get to her chest of drawers, LOL. SMH. (Shaking My Head for those that don’t know what SMH means!)

Anyway, despite all the moving stuff around on the final day of it yesterday for the flooring guys coming today to put the wood laminate down, George was determined to cook a full ON meal!

It wasn’t ready until 8:30 last night which actually is my bed time – or at least when I start to get ready for bed. It was really good. He cooked it with potatoes and celery. He thought we had carrots but none were to be found. We are in such disarray I think that we don’t know whether we are coming or going. I think we have enough to have leftovers for tonight, but not sure. I’m not sure we’ll even be able to get to the kitchen. I don’t know anything about this type of flooring and if we have to minimally stay off of it for a day or so or if we will be ready to move everything back.

Anyway, I’ve learned lately to just take one day at a time. I mean I definitely PLAN for the future on the important things – and try to sneak in some fun things – and some goals. But as far as trying to figure out the details of some things – my head will just explode, so some things just have to roll on by themselves and I have to let go. I think that my head tries to explore so many futuristic possibilities on every part of my life that I often exhaust myself trying to think of a master a plan. And George is already a step ahead of me most of the time. But sometimes I have TOO many thoughts and TOO many plans. It’s fun, but it’s frustrating when there is not enough time to finish a thought.

Awwwww….Fancy Lou (Mom’s dog). I call her “Fancy Lou” but her name is really Fancy…..she just came back to see me this morning and say “hello”. That means a lot when a dog comes and seeks you out lol.

Sweet friends sent cards to us on our loss of Mr. Roger. I appreciate that so much and so does George.

So now that Roger is gone, I have to remove him from the video intro. But I will not do it until I’m caught up with real time. My next video will be spring. I haven’t decided if I will do a real time update. But likely I will put a black screen with a picture of him saying Roger passed on July 24, 2021. We will do a special little tribute to him as well on one of the videos either in real time or at the point in time we catch up to now on the videos. I’ve not had time at all to work on the videos this week. I’m having to stop to work on files and I don’t like to be interrupted and have to go to work while I’m in the middle of it. It’s too hard to try to remember where I was and it breaks my stride. So I’ll have to have a chunk of time to work on it.

Quarter End is a little Tootie Fest! Some things happened that make it harder this time even though it was supposed to be easier. :::sigh::: Oh well. I’ve prayed that God helps. I hope I can get finished Friday. I think I will be with the important stuff. I am really going to need to be here this weekend at home if I can. There is one state however that I’m having to hand enter every employee that has worked for one state and it’s the state with the biggest turnover, so lots of people had wages and I’m having to hand enter everyone. Yes, see why it’s a Tootie Fest. <—–It’s better than saying a few choice words that OTHERS would and have used! But I will go to work, put my earbuds in, get it done and be the little robot that I can be. The problem is that my arm is hurting from moving and lifting all this stuff around, so the arm that bothers me sometimes is not really in condition to be having to do a lot of data entry. But I can wear a brace if I need. Right now it hurts at the top and radiates down to my elbow. I’ll be glad when this week is over. But it will take me through next week and maybe the next one since the upload didn’t take and I have to hand enter everyone’s wages. I’ve paid the tax already so no late charges, but that part I have to send in and it will be there in a couple of weeks, likely. (I was given the wrong info to upload and now I have to manually key it all but with the correct info). The problem is that I also have to go in and type in what we incorrectly sent too, ::::sigh:::: yes, it’s a Tootie Fest already. Welcome to my world. At least we can laugh and call it names! It makes one feel better. And certainly it could have been called worse. And probably has – but not on this blog. I won’t say for sure! lol

Oh and it’s Month End already now and I need to be working on that but at least I have til the 15th. It’s pretty easy to get through the monthly paid taxes. No crazy Tootie Fests for that! lol lol lol

And it is HOT as Hades on a Firecracker this week. We have heat warnings out. I do not like summer after July 4th, lol. I don’t much care for August either. But it’ll all go by fast.

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Ok over and out ya’ll. Gonna hop to the day and see what it brings. Oh and I’ve not even had time to look at my lab report and doc notes that were sent. I figure I’ll wait til the weekend when I can log in and download it to compare with past reports. I think he may have scheduled me for a hearing test which I cancelled as it was this week. I have to set my own appointments and frankly I really don’t have time for my own appointments unless they are just really necessary. Having to put some of those off til next year. We have too many irons in the fire this year with Mom and house sale, house moving, house building, and all her medical appointments. So maybe next year can be the year we re-align our own health. There is just no time to sneeze anymore. But we will figure it out and then later in life we’ll be like “remember that ONE year” —“yeah that was a big bad busy Bertha Butt year”. I’m not sure why I feel the need to name things: Tart Farts, Tootie Fests, and being Bertha Butt Busy. I guess I just really have no other words. lol

Ok over and out for real.