How Not to Be a Miserable Cow, Instant Pot Red Beans and Rice, and Good Girls

In the striving to get things done yesterday, I had someone to be EXTREMELY rude to me. But I’ve been reading the Bible every morning and I can say that it makes a difference in being in the daily WORD instead of the occasional WORD. The WORD is truly very active and living. The OLD Sonya would have given this person a piece of their mind. I was trained to “not let anyone run over you or take advantage of you”, and I’ve watched plenty of examples of how to “show their tail” to people as it was called. And while God doesn’t intend on us being door mats or stepped on like trash in the floor, there IS something to say about being kind, showing love, and responding with a gentle spirit when someone is rude. I could totally see the difference in the reactions with my response. When someone is mean or nasty to you, it doesn’t give you a license to be ugly back. But responding with gentleness and turning the other cheek actually SAYS a lot. And for those that know better and know they have acted out of line it “heaps the coals” as the Bible says, on their forehead.

My first tendency is to experience “hurt feelings”, sometimes even cry when I’m mistreated. It’s different if I’ve done something wrong. I teared up a bit because I knew I’d been mistreated when I was trying to “give of myself” and “help” a situation instead of expecting someone to be left to it on their own. And someone being angry with you because you are trying to help them, is just not a reason for someone to be angry with you or nasty with you. It did hurt my feelings in a big way. But I knew God saw it and I kinda felt He wanted me not to focus on it a lot. So I didn’t take control of my day, but it IS a little hard to forget, I’ll say. I always remember George saying “don’t let someone control your day”. So I replaced the thoughts anytime I thought of it with better thoughts. I did, however, have to refrain from saying much to the person most all day. It was not in a huff or shun or pout type of thing, but mainly in a way so that I could control my tongue and response with yes, no, and maybe so’s. Because when I talk my true feelings come out. lol. I didn’t want to start a wildfire or tell the person what I thought, lol! And what I was thinking about was this photo and how miserable the person must be today over something:

Can you imagine the wild fire started if I had said “You’d have a better day if you weren’t being a miserable cow”? LOL LOL. I would never ever say that to anyone. However, I have hung on to this photo b/c I use it inside my head to make me laugh whenever someone is rude or unkind, or “being a miserable cow”. I kept my thoughts to myself and I laughed, and then I laughed that I had laughed. And then I remembered that God wanted us to forgive. I immediately said to myself “but the person hadn’t apologized”. And the Spirit shouted “that doesn’t matter, you are called to love”. Here is where I get all confused about forgiveness. Trying to love the person and forget the sin, though is what helps me stay on track.

In your dealings with people across your life – if they were to give you a “chip” for every interaction – a white chip for good interaction and a black chip for bad interaction, would you end up with a lot of white chips or black chips? Sometimes we have no choice but to be in situations where can’t block negativity from your life. And we are all negative at times. But overall, do you give white or black chips, of goodness and love, or ugliness and meanness? There are just some we cannot avoid, but you can do the best you can to be an example, show love, and maybe it will make a difference in their own life and they will see how they are being. To respond nastily just ignites the flame. So I thought I would share this with you and you can ponder it too. Maybe this will help you too.

News from Little Roo

Findlay and Little Roo are getting to know each other better. There were some cute Instagram stories yesterday. And Findlay’s face! lol

My “Healthy but Not So Healthy” Lunch Getaway

I retreated for a little break to Logan’s for a salmon Caesar salad, proud of myself for being healthy. The salad must have been delivered from Italy itself, as it took forever to arrive but no worries, my hunger was satiated by the two HOT rolls and butter placed in front of me. And as I ate the creamy Caesar dressing along with the mountains of wonderful part and the fried buttery croutons, I realized I was probably having all the calories of one day that I should have. There must have been a half block of cheese on that salad! ha. It was wonderful though. But next time I’ll have to get a different salad and no rolls. I did get unsweet tea but it was a little too late to be thinking about calories at that point. Oh well.

Red Beans and Rice with Smoked Sausage in the Instant Pot

Oh my gosh. I think I have just found my favorite meal – replacing spaghetti and prime rib forever – well let’s not get too carried away! But oh my gosh, this was heavenly. I enjoyed my first experience with the Instant Pot, but I was sooooo glad George was there. I asked him before I began if there was anything quirky I should know. And yes there was. Just learning how the Instant Pot “did things” lol, when it goes from segment to segment. There are some things the instructions doesn’t show you. You’d probably figure it out on your own but it would stump you if someone didn’t explain things first. Learning what a “natural release is” and when to release the steam for real.

The recipe had three strips of uncooked bacon, chopped that you sautéed in the Instant Pot. Then you took the bacon aside and sautéed onion for 2 min and green pepper for 2 min, added the garlic and sautéed for a min, some hot pepper flakes of some kind, and then added the cup of “long grain white rice” and added the bacon back in and two cups of chicken broth. Put the seal on and I think it cooked for 5 minutes and then the natural release for 10 and then let the steam out.

This was the “creamiest” and “best” red beans and rice I’ve ever had. I also used the Carolina rice we had. I think it was the Aromatic Rice I used last night.

This is the cookbook I’m using and it has some awesome recipes in it, very simple, and very good. I cannot wait to fix more things in the Instant Pot. Yes I”m late to get on the bandwagon!

“Good Girls” on Netflix

So we have been watching Good Girls on Netflix the last couple of nights. Oh my gosh it’s good. It’s kinda like Breaking Bad in some ways. It’s pretty humorous. Definitely entertaining. Some of these shows you have to go into the 2nd and 3rd show. Like Brigerton. I was in after the 3rd show. I’m glad I gave it a chance.

Leaving you with Mr. Roger. He gets a little more into “doggie Alzheimers” every day. He stands and stares at the wall sometimes, he thinks we are gone when we are there at barks at the stairs until we go and show him we are actually home and he wags his tail and starts to follow us, but sees his water bowl and goes to it. He is obsessed with his water bowl. He sleeps and wanders. His eye sight is going. Yet he still wags his tail a lot, and when disgusted will grunt just like a human would. George leaned him over to kiss me and allow me to kiss him and he didn’t want that and gave a big grunt like a human. LOL. I laughed at being rejected in such a way. I forgave him too. He just didn’t want to be leaned over that way.

Well, I miss having a dog that loves me and wants to be with me every moment. Life is kinda lonely right now but it’s ok. For a season it is definitely going to be the time to wait. So much I want to do first before getting another dog. It will happen in time and “when it is supposed to”. Now is not the time.

Ok off to work. I awoke after a pleasant 8 hour sleep, still very tired. Coffee is waking me up. It’s my 6th day of work this week. I’m honestly over it and need a change of pace, but I’ll go in and give it my best. I’m trying to finish up something that needs to be finished today and I’ve asked God for help. It’ll be a crunch day. I’m NOT working tomorrow.

Anyway, take care. Gonna rain A LOT here this weekend – like SEVERAL inches and with flood warnings predicted.

Errands, Supplements, and AutoImmune Issues

With warmer weather, I find I’m enjoying the shakes again. I added a few strawberries in the blender with this one and it was really good. This is a high protein shake. It’s pretty filling. I only needed a handful of nuts for snack until lunch.

Yesterday was highly productive at work. I’m all caught up from snow days except for one thing I’ll be doing this morning. The snow days did cause some extra work this week though in several areas, but I think I worked through it all quickly enough that I managed to get most of my normal Wednesday things moved. My brain was fizzled by day’s end as the past 2 nights I’d not had enough sleep.

Errands Run – Getting things DONE!

After work, with warm temps, and sun still hanging in the sky, I found it was a good time to stop and do an Amazon return at the UPS store. That was easy, well all except finding their location. Waze is not very good at maneuvering you through shopping mall areas. It leaves you dropped off at the street, so I had to drive around looking for it. I was about to call them and looked up and saw their store sign. Then I stopped and got my glasses fixed as the screw was loose and it kept trying to work its way out. Lenscrafters has been excellent. I did not even buy my glasses there. The place I bought them from closes at 4:30 or 5:00 and closed on Saturday as it’s a doc office, so it’s impossible to get in without taking off from work. But Lenscrafters will adjust your glasses and fix simple repairs – free of charge, even when not theirs. It astounds me. I’m so grateful for them. I will probably get my next pair from them now b/c of their kind services. Most places would be like – no if you didn’t buy it here we don’t want to touch it. Or would at least charge you and make you sign a waiver, lol. No paperwork, complete smiles, and even cleaned my glasses after tightening the screw!

I loved how the light reflected and made a circle here of orange. I took this pic several ways. As I left Lenscrafters, the sun was going down and it made beautiful pink clouds for my drive home. Here’s another shot.

The Providence area was VERY busy with traffic – just people trying to get home and get about from their work day or doing things out in the area. The traffic is just so much more intense than when we moved here. I had to take back roads to get around and hit traffic lights b/c I could not get over into the lanes I needed from the main road. Just skirting around and getting to the lights so I could get into position to go where I needed, took forever as the lights are timed to give the main roads a first chance at clearing. Ughhhh. But finally made it in and out. This is why I hardly head that direction anymore. It’s just too congested. Used to love the area. Well I do love shopping there but just really do most of my shopping on Amazon now. I used to look forward to a March or April shopping excursion, looking for sale items, but nehhh, probably have what I need for now. Probably just stick with Amazon – old faithful.

Change of Weekend Plans and Autoimmune Issues

Well, talked to Mom and she said it is supposed to rain this weekend, like NOT just a few showers, but a LOT! Sometimes we get some pretty big rains in the March/April time frames – along about prom season. I always feel so bad when it gushes water on prom nights, ruining hair dos, make up, and dresses before the party even starts. It seems to do it every time. So our time will be postponed. Mom said she didn’t want me driving in it. I don’t want to drive in that either. Quite frankly I could use Saturday home since I worked Sunday. I’m ready for some down time already. We would have fun, but I’ve always had to have some down time to recharge and rejuvenate. If I miss my normal down time I get anxious to get it back. So today I’m on my 5th day to work and tomorrow will be my 6th. Saturday would have been not a work day at Mom’s but certainly would have been away from home for 7 days. Our laundry piles up, the house gets gnarly and needs to be re-blessed, and my own personal batteries need to be plugged in and charged. Yes, that is it. Think of me like a battery that has to be recharged. My battery wears out a lot sooner than most. Why? I figured it has to do with being an introvert but I think it also has to do with my physical/mental make up. I’m sure I have some type of undiagnosed autoimmune thing going on but have really stayed away from testing and from pushing for a diagnosis. Docs are just bound by the insurance and pharmacy industry telling them what to do so I would only be given meds, maybe some guidance on lifestyle, but as most of my life, I have figured things out on my own. I’ve found with rest, eating better, getting the right nutrients in – I manage over whatever it is that takes away my stamina. Most of my symptoms range from: extreme fatigue, brain fog or slight depression, sleep issues, random pains all over, low grade fever in p.m. hours when tired, inner ear issues, sometimes feel like I can’t swallow properly if I sleep in a weird position (happened like 3 times over several years), jelly legs, and recently a new symptom that feels like something drilling in my left foot. I’d say I noticed a lot of these things from the age of 30. Often would just have days where I flat couldn’t do much but lay around. I had one of those days two weeks ago.

Don’t try to diagnose me. It’s ok. Won’t make a difference really. I’ve lived with whatever it is for so long that I just know once I fill myself with green foods, fruits, remember my supplements, reduce my stress, stay away from hot temps, and get rest and sleep, I do ok and rejuvenate. The cause of this is likely mono or some type of virus that has lingered, in which stress, heat, lack of sleep/rest, and not eating right can ignite my body into a series of reactions. Once I see the signs I do all I can to rectify it and manage to turn it around.

So all that said in defense of my having Saturday and Sunday. I have one day to clean, do laundry, and get ready for the work week, and another day to get personal things done and rest. And being gone 7 days in a row without my personal down time was taxing me a bit. I was getting a little anxious about it. But I’m looking forward to the weekend with Mom as we are postponing it until better weather. And we’ll have a great time NOT driving around in the rain. And I will not have been busy for 7 days in a row and worn down!

Ahhhh, well I need to go and get ready for work. I am cooking my red beans and rice tonight, along with smoked sausage or kielbasa as I like to call it. Not exactly a healthy meat, but the kidney beans and rice will be good for us. I tend to go for the starches, lol. So I’m going to drink my “greens” today as it’s been a while.

Changing the Supplements Around

Oh and I should say that last night I made the decision to ditch the vitamin packs I’ve been taking and convert to individual supplements on line. I’m NOT getting enough B12 in them. So I ordered a B Complex. With all the other drinks I do from the system that have a LOT of vitamins in them (Ionix stress formula, greens, fruits, hydrate drinks, collagen elixir, protein shakes) – all those are filled with vitamins and nutrients. So I think I can drop these packets as a lot of the ingredients are in other things as long as I DO those other things often. I just don’t think the food we eat gives us enough vitamins and our bodies have a hard time absorbing things.

OK off to the work zone. It feels like Friday but it’s NOT! :-O Six day work week here. Getting pretty tired! Five was always hard but ugh. Six. Anyway hopefully will get through the two days quickly and on to that big to do list! Closer to making more videos!

Why are We so Busy?

Morning! The coffee sure is good as I sit here and sip and type. It feels busy around here! We keep ourselves busy even when we are NOT busy, so it’s just always busy. I think perhaps it has been so busy at work and personally with so much going on and not enough brain time to soak everything in. I end up waking up at 1:30 and not able to go back to sleep because my body and brain is using that time as “think time”. So the last two nights I’ve woken up at 1:30 and not gone back until 3 or 3:30. Alarm goes off around 4:20 – I hit snooze – go back to deep sleep and it goes off again and again until I’m finally so irritated I get up. LOL! I also have a tendency to do this around a full moon.

It is definitely a full moon. It amazes me how some full moon’s don’t pull the energy around as much as others. I don’t know about tidal flows and such. I wonder if different moons bring in varying tidal flows at sea. See….look at my brain go. I’m way too curious about things for my own good and I’ll probably google that by days end. If I can find time. In all my lists, I need a “google list” as my curiosities are outweighing my time to google. Also on that list would be “how do the French stay so slim when they have such good bread?” I heard a couple discussing that on a recent video I watch and it’s perplexed me since. More than one person has said to lose weight eat like the French. I’m not eating snails – I mean, no wonder!

So Today is technically my Thursday – even though it is Wednesday! I’m feeling it. Normally on Thursday’s I’m counting the days til my free day. My free day is not til Sunday! Well I’m going to Mom’s Friday night, and we will be doing girls time. It’ll be fun time but no “free” time until Sunday. When Sunday gets here, I’ll be doing my normal “weekend thang” and trying to gnaw down my list some. Lord please help me to make some progress! These things are keeping me from making more videos! The sooner I knock them out, the sooner I can get back at it.

Most of these things won’t take long but just finding the minute to do something, AnYtHiNg! It seems every minute of my day is filled with something else.

The less urgent things are here. Many have been on the list for some time. The last two lists have not changed much and I’m not going to post those as I have posted all of these not long ago. Only the first two lists change. I do not plan to do this 2nd list before getting back to making the videos. But the many things on the first list just need to happen before I set in to having personal creativity time.

Colorful Car Wash

So last night after work I went “grocerying” after taking the car through the car wash. It needed it so bad. The birds are finally migrated from our parking lot at work and then with all the salt and snow and ice I had to get it washed. Also yesterday my mirrors were so dirty I could hardly see traffic. When it’s a safety issue – it has to be done. So I stopped on the way to the grocery as it was still light out. The line was long but it moved fairly quickly. I paid for the big wash! Wheels and all!

I love our little car wash with the colors. I’m like a kid every time I go through. Here is a video. LOL

Grocery Run Fun

Going to the grocery was fun. It had been a while. I was out of all my favorite things! So I’m good for about another two weeks I think. George will likely go again and if I need something he can get the urgent needs. I won’t have time again for awhile. I loaded up on some frozen entries for work. But also bought some fresh items, fresh salsa and hummus too, for healthier snack options. I allow myself to eat the tortilla chips. I try to buy a healthier version if I can, but at the end of the day, I usually just grab and go. I forgot the avocado though! I wanted to have avocado toast with a bit of fresh salsa atop! Also the salsa is good on eggs. So at least I have that. Anyway I bought fresh strawberries and plant to slice a few fresh ones for my shake this morning.

Get out the Cameras, I’m cooking tomorrow night!

Tomorrow night I’m cooking in the Instant Pot for the first time ever! Can you believe it? I’ve had a mental block against it. I felt the directions were just too specific. But all in all, what could be better? I was thinking it was going to be complicated. But so many people use them and love it and say that they are so glad they have it and couldn’t do without it. So I am “making myself” try it Thurs night (tomorrow night). I’m making a red beans and rice recipe. It just sounds good. And looks easy. The meat (smoked sausage) I’m cooking separate in the air fryer. And will toss the sausage slices in on top of the red beans and rice! So I’m excited to cook tomorrow. Also will have to pack for Mom’s. I will have a “few minutes” to do some things tonight after I get off of work and before dinner. George is cooking tonight. I’ll have to see what is on the menu board.

And so I need to get going! Can you believe it’s in the 60’s here this week? Gotta love weather in Tennessee, going from a Polar Vortex to the tropics in just a couple of days!